Three things, she's not presenting it as a viable option, she suggests the other option. Second, she's talking to a Catholic. Third, I find this amusing because in many of these kinds of conversations I sometimes find conservatives or traditionalists wondering, gosh, why don't these people just leave and become Episcopalians already (which is what taking this option seems to entail).Her statement is incomplete and disappointing.
Her saying homosexuality is sin doesn't give her license to suggest that homosexuality is a less serious sexual sin or to present as a viable option to look for a more liberal parish that may commune an active homosexual. Those suggestions find no support in Orthodoxy.
A popular idea in a bygone era (pre-sexual revolution) was for young people seeing each other to, simply put, not commit, not be serious, not go steady - I've heard one person relay that they were told not to go out with the same person twice in a row. It prevented people from "playing house" and having a quasi-marital relationship while only 16 with the drama (and sinful entanglements) that entails. It goes without saying that this lack of seriousness is intended to be accompanied by a lack of physical involvement, as it were. Frankly, I find it disturbing that a 16-yr-old could be in a relationship serious enough that seeing somebody else would be considered "cheating".In matters of sexual morality re: Christianity, would the suggestion be to allow dating in other new popular patterns - cheating on one's girlfriend, three-partner arrangements, etc. ?
What, you mean in her response, she should have said, "By the way, have you considered converting from Byzantine Catholicism to Orthodoxy? That would solve a major problem you've got going on."I found it rather strange/disappointing that she didn't even offer Orthodoxy as an option. Where was the talk of grace and healing from Christ in her response?
Amen.I think we just gotta trust the Holy Spirit when it comes to this, knowing that He will maintain the balance between the two extremes and He will have the final say.
A popular idea in a bygone era (pre-sexual revolution) was for young people seeing each other to, simply put, not commit, not be serious, not go steady - I've heard one person relay that they were told not to go out with the same person twice in a row. It prevented people from "playing house" and having a quasi-marital relationship while only 16 with the drama (and sinful entanglements) that entails. It goes without saying that this lack of seriousness is intended to be accompanied by a lack of physical involvement, as it were. Frankly, I find it disturbing that a 16-yr-old could be in a relationship serious enough that seeing somebody else would be considered "cheating".
I would just note that, statistically, the current generation is having sex later and with fewer partners than their parents' generation (and possibly the one before, depending on how old they are) and getting pregnant as a teen far less. Rumors of the demise of civilization are greatly exaggerated.
I agree re: a 16 year old, and really don't think a 14 year old should be dating. I'm aware also of the statistics you cited. Otoh, my post-adolescent children have, among their social group via work, couples (unmarried) who have taken on a third partner. Just one example of the alternatives now considered "hip" and acceptable. Whether or not one considers these things to happen, it rather skips the illustration I made and its purpose. Should parents, in order to think their child is being open with them, accept every sort of arrangement now considered acceptable ?A popular idea in a bygone era (pre-sexual revolution) was for young people seeing each other to, simply put, not commit, not be serious, not go steady - I've heard one person relay that they were told not to go out with the same person twice in a row. It prevented people from "playing house" and having a quasi-marital relationship while only 16 with the drama (and sinful entanglements) that entails. It goes without saying that this lack of seriousness is intended to be accompanied by a lack of physical involvement, as it were. Frankly, I find it disturbing that a 16-yr-old could be in a relationship serious enough that seeing somebody else would be considered "cheating".
I would just note that, statistically, the current generation is having sex later and with fewer partners than their parents' generation (and possibly the one before, depending on how old they are) and getting pregnant as a teen far less. Rumors of the demise of civilization are greatly exaggerated.
No. I want them to feel they should hide it. I want them to feel the shame they should rightly feel. Because I love them. (I would want them to be honest with me, but under no circumstances would I want them imagining that I would allow or tolerate its practice.)But if your child is fornicating, would you want to at least meet the person they're fornicating with? Would you want them to be up-front about how it's what they're doing? Or would you rather they hide it and never tell you? That's what she's saying to do. You tell them what's right and wrong, but if they choose to do wrong, you at least let them tell you.
Amen.
- She never said to find a church that would "indulge his passions." She said finding a more accepting church is an option. Which can mean anything from a church that deny communion but does not stigmatize him, to a church who a church that tells him it's not sin, with plenty of variation between. Given that she calls it sin, it's pretty obvious she means something close to the former. A point I disagreed with her was her recommendation to stay. A 14 year old doesn't need to wear a scarlet letter or be a St Mary of Egypt.
- She's assuming he will date and engage the lifestyle because that is almost certainly what will happen. She's offering real world advice to a parent, not to the child.
- This only shows how toxic the culture warriors have become, that a nun can say homosexual acts are sin, and be condemned because she was too understanding of the situation and offered advice that reflects the reality of the situation.
without a more complete consideration of the matter (see my previous posts), it seems to me (as a parent to 6) that she has not considered the reality of the situation; she has simplified the relationship between parent and child, and missed crucial factors affecting the child. That's not an issue of "culture warriors"; that's a concern with a simplistic treatment of the issue.
- She never said to find a church that would "indulge his passions." She said finding a more accepting church is an option. Which can mean anything from a church that deny communion but does not stigmatize him, to a church who a church that tells him it's not sin, with plenty of variation between. Given that she calls it sin, it's pretty obvious she means something close to the former. A point I disagreed with her was her recommendation to stay. A 14 year old doesn't need to wear a scarlet letter or be a St Mary of Egypt.
- She's assuming he will date and engage the lifestyle because that is almost certainly what will happen. She's offering real world advice to a parent, not to the child.
- This only shows how toxic the culture warriors have become, that a nun can say homosexual acts are sin, and be condemned because she was too understanding of the situation and offered advice that reflects the reality of the situation.
without a more complete consideration of the matter (see my previous posts), it seems to me (as a parent to 6) that she has not considered the reality of the situation; she has simplified the relationship between parent and child, and missed crucial factors affecting the child. That's not an issue of "culture warriors"; that's a concern with a simplistic treatment of the issue.