Feeling socially isolated

Ben Collyer said:

so today it was a nice sunny day and I felt really down and depressed because no one invited me anywhere, and I couldnt think of anyone that I actually would want to hang out with

so where is God in this? he makes us with a need for close friendship with other humans.

I don't know what God wants me to do with this loneliness, I wont come to God to fill that gap, because God never intended for us to fill that gap with him

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"Great are you, O Lord, and exceedingly worthy of praise; your power is immense, and your wisdom beyond reckoning. And so we men, who are a due part of your creation, long to praise you – we also carry our mortality about with us, carry the evidence of our sin and with it the proof that you thwart the proud. You arouse us so that praising you may bring us joy, because you have made us and drawn us to yourself, and our heart is unquiet until it rests in you." ~ Saint Augustine

Ben Collyer said:

I wont come to God to fill that gap, because God never intended for us to fill that gap with him

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That is a lie from Satan; That's exactly what God wants to do for us. He wants to be our comforter; he wants to be there in our times of need; he is now our father/friend, and what kind of father would he be if he didn't want you coming to him in your times of need. Go to God with your loneliness and tell him exactly how you feel, and he will comfort you. He will show you what you need to do.

Ben Collyer said:

but he said its not good for man to be alone and made eve?

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God loves you so much brother and Jesus Christ is the best friend we could ever have as christians. God bless you and Jesus is Lord.

Ben Collyer said:

but he said its not good for man to be alone and made eve?

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That he did, but there's a bigger answer to that. Adam wasn't lonely, he was actually complete within him self, and then when God separated him, which made him incomplete, and then united him with his wife, and that's when he became whole again. I hope I didn't confuse you. But anyways, God created Adam and Eve so that he could have a relationship with them and spend time with them. Even after the fall of man, God still had a relationship with Adam and Eve, and their kids. But that's what God wants with you; he wants to have a friendship/relationship with you.

This is what my wife did, but she asked God to send her friends, and in about a week or so, she meet some people. Is there a place you can go to socialize? Do you game online? While you wait for God to send you a friend, he'll be more than happy to hang out with you. We shouldn't look towards others to fill voids in our lives - just as some run to drinking and drugs to numb the issues in their life. We should look to God to fill those voids. Not saying it's wrong to have friends, but seek God first, and he'll find you relationships that will last a lifetime. Good, godly people, that will build you up.

Ben Collyer said:

so today it was a nice sunny day and I felt really down and depressed because no one invited me anywhere, and I couldnt think of anyone that I actually would want to hang out with

so where is God in this? he makes us with a need for close friendship with other humans.

I don't know what God wants me to do with this loneliness, I wont come to God to fill that gap, because God never intended for us to fill that gap with him

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Real talk: I get lonely. Even with a wife and kids I can still get lonely at times. But I've learned now to run to God with issues like that. Am I perfect at it? No. But I've been working on my relationship with God, and when loneliness does come over me I'm learning to run to him and he cheers me up. What I typically do is pray in tongues, and then I start thanking God for stuff. As I begin to praise God, I start to feel that loneliness go away. The Bible tells us we reap what we sow, and so when we sow praise and love to God, he gives it right back, but in abundance. I promise, you cannot out give God. He will out love you each and every time

Theadorus said:

Real talk: I get lonely. Even with a wife and kids I can still get lonely at times. But I've learned now to run to God with issues like that. Am I perfect at it? No. But I've been working on my relationship with God, and when loneliness does come over me I'm learning to run to him and he cheers me up. What I typically do is pray in tongues, and then I start thanking God for stuff. As I begin to praise God, I start to feel that loneliness go away. The Bible tells us we reap what we sow, and so when we sow praise and love to God, he gives it right back, but in abundance. I promise, you cannot out give God. He will out love you each and every time

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You, sir, NAILED IT I agree I agree I agree I have no need to speak, this dude (we cool like that right?) here said it for me

Ben Collyer said:

I felt really down and depressed because no one invited me anywhere, and I couldnt think of anyone that I would want to hang out with.

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Do you attend a church with people of your age group who also attend it?
Are there any churches in your area with people of your age?

To make friends one has to be friendly and mix with and be interested in other people.

Get involved with your church, volunteer to help where ever you can, take an interest in people.
Yes social chit chat can be boring, talking about going shopping, the queues for the bus, the wether etc It is part of getting to know people.

If you know people then you can start organising day trips, picnics, cinema trips, bowling expeditions etc.

Attend church and talk to people.

Ben Collyer said:

no one invited me anywhere, and I couldnt think of anyone that I actually would want to hang out with

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Sounds like you think nobody likes you, but then you give the impression that you pretty well don't like anybody else either. That's a good recipe for loneliness.

If you can't think of anyone you'd like to be with, maybe it's time to get out and meet some new people. Be friendly to them, that's a good way of getting them to be friendly to you. There is no doubt in my mind that there are people not so far from you that are more depressed and lonely than you are. Go and relieve their loneliness and depression, and you'll almost certainly relieve your own.

Good luck!

Solomons Porch said:

You, sir, NAILED IT I agree I agree I agree I have no need to speak, this dude (we cool like that right?) here said it for me

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Haha, yeah, we cool. Love the pic btw. I was considering making that my profile pic.

[for me anyway] God's Words tells us that all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution, which by the way includes our being isolated: it is likened to Isaiah saying "Lord who has believed our report?" (Isaiah 53:1) or Paul saying "At my first answer no man stood with me, but all men forsook me: I pray God that it may not be laid to their charge. Notwithstanding the Lord stood with me, and strengthened me.." (2 Timothy 4:16-17).
But what I cling to and keeps me from fretting is what the Lord Jesus said "Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave me alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me." (John 16:32)
In my loneliness I remember this which the Lord said, that though He was alone physically without another person there, yet as He said "yet I am not alone because the Father is with me": this we ought to trust in as well.

Ben Collyer said:

so today it was a nice sunny day and I felt really down and depressed because no one invited me anywhere, and I couldnt think of anyone that I actually would want to hang out with

so where is God in this? he makes us with a need for close friendship with other humans.

I don't know what God wants me to do with this loneliness, I wont come to God to fill that gap, because God never intended for us to fill that gap with him

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The Lord invites us to "follow Him" and to be his ambassadors...for the fields are white unto harvest but the laborers be few.

You (all of us actually) have an invitation available...accept? postpone? decline?

Theadorus said:

Haha, yeah, we cool. Love the pic btw. I was considering making that my profile pic.

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Thanks and go for it

Consider volunteer work? Many times I hear of so many services looking for people to make time for their community. You will meet all kinds of new people and possibly make friends you didn't know you had.