I can't anymore...

Justasimplea · May 4, 2017

I don't know. I have so many thoughts. Right now I'm angry with my brother for the worst thing that could ever happen. I see him and instantly want to cry. Him me and my sister are really close. We are best friends. This litteraly broke us apart. We are in the youth leadership and we haven't spoken in two days. I can't see a way past this. I'm scared this has changed our bond. It's too hard to see past what he has done. I can't really explain. But I just needed to write it out. I want to scream from the top of my lungs and kick and cry like a child. I need to be strong since I'm in leadership. I just want to run and run and run away from it all. This issue involves other youth but I can't tell them. I'm angry at them. I'm annoyed and just want to explode. I can't tell my brother to stop texting someone or talking to them. I can't tell him how to act or feel. I want to pray for him and stuff but I can't. I'm angry so angry. Like I can't see the light. I feel like leaving my church. It feels like I can't stand up for myself. I need to submit. And have control. I need to scream!!!!!!!!!!!

_-iconoclast-_ · May 4, 2017

Hello. Im sorry to hear of your situation.

Dont worry. You have strength through Jesus. Say a prayer and give all your anxieties to christ and at that moment forgive your brother - wrong or right - and forgive yourself.

I know its easier said than done but we are commanded to forgive. That way we are free and not a servant to anger, only a servant to jesus. Dont let this thing get the better of you and your family. Anger is not worth the love of family.

Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can - your anger at your brother. Ask the spirit to guide you and get rid of your anger. You have authority over it in Jesus' beautiful name.

Take control of this situation with the strength and guidance of Jesus through the Holy Spirit..

Pray and focus your heart on God.

brinny · May 4, 2017

I'm so sorry, dear heart. Praying for you (((hug)))

Justasimplea · May 4, 2017

_-iconoclast-_ said:
Hello. Im sorry to hear of your situation.

Dont worry. You have strength through Jesus. Say a prayer and give all your anxieties to christ and at that moment forgive your brother - wrong or right - and forgive yourself.

I know its easier said than done but we are commanded to forgive. That way we are free and not a servant to anger, only a servant to jesus. Dont let this thing get the better of you and your family. Anger is not worth the love of family.

Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can - your anger at your brother. Ask the spirit to guide you and get rid of your anger. You have authority over it in Jesus' beautiful name.

Take control of this situation with the strength and guidance of Jesus through the Holy Spirit..

Pray and focus your heart on God.

Thank you! I had to step back and pray... I can't really talk to anyone about this and it had stayed in my heart. No one to guide me through. This had been the first respond I've gotten since I joined. Thank you so much!!!

1watchman · May 6, 2017

Well, we don't know what the terrible feeling you have is about, and that is your business, but we do know that peace, and the care of God is in His hands. One who knows the Lord Jesus and is in communion with Him daily can take every care to Him in prayer, and seek His counsel and peace to remedy the situation. We must rest on His "exceeding great and precious promises", and know He will lead and help us meet every challenge and manage our lives in a godly way. We don't need to know the answers, just know God cares about our pathway and good.

Read the Gospels daily, friend, and hear God speaking to you. Our spiritual life must be about constant conversation with our Savior and Lord.

1watchman · May 9, 2017

In addition I would say that not everyone in a church fellowship are truly "born again" saints, and a professing Christian may be still living in the flesh. The faithful saints can make allowance for some flesh in us all, but very severe sins (as you seem to suggest) would most likely not be from a real "child of God". If a Christian church gathering embraces one for all holy functions who is not "born again" (John 3 & 1 Jn. 5:10-12) then one might want to seek a sound Bible-only fellowship somewhere.

Justasimplea · May 9, 2017

1watchman said:
In addition I would say that not everyone in a church fellowship are truly "born again" saints, and a professing Christian may be still living in the flesh. The faithful saints can make allowance for some flesh in us all, but very severe sins (as you seem to suggest) would most likely not be from a real "child of God". If a Christian church gathering embraces one for all holy functions who is not "born again" (John 3 & 1 Jn. 5:10-12) then one might want to seek a sound Bible-only fellowship somewhere.

Agreed. What my brother did was not as bad as I made it seem. I have never had to go through something like this. What I feel or seem to see as bad others would brush off. My brother has a great relationship with the lord and wants to make sure everyone can experience what he has. In turn he loves to be social. He has grown to have a crush on someone. And that person is kinda off limits? In a way because of something that has gone on. It is so complex. And confusing..

1watchman · May 9, 2017

If all is well in a spiritual way for you, friend, then let your brother live his own life before God, as he sees it. You can just concentrate on your relationship with the Lord Jesus, which we all need to do to overcome our own fleshly tendencies ---see what God says to real Christians in 1 Jn. 1:9-10. -Ever in Christ by grace alone, 1watchman.

Johnnz · May 21, 2017

As a leader then get some support form the older leadership in your church. Hopefully thay can wlak you through this time and turn in into a worthwhile learning experience for you.

John
NZ

Lucas Sleasman · May 29, 2017

Justasimplea said:
I don't know. I have so many thoughts. Right now I'm angry with my brother for the worst thing that could ever happen. I see him and instantly want to cry. Him me and my sister are really close. We are best friends. This litteraly broke us apart. We are in the youth leadership and we haven't spoken in two days. I can't see a way past this. I'm scared this has changed our bond. It's too hard to see past what he has done. I can't really explain. But I just needed to write it out. I want to scream from the top of my lungs and kick and cry like a child. I need to be strong since I'm in leadership. I just want to run and run and run away from it all. This issue involves other youth but I can't tell them. I'm angry at them. I'm annoyed and just want to explode. I can't tell my brother to stop texting someone or talking to them. I can't tell him how to act or feel. I want to pray for him and stuff but I can't. I'm angry so angry. Like I can't see the light. I feel like leaving my church. It feels like I can't stand up for myself. I need to submit. And have control. I need to scream!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello, I'm sorry for your situation, but perhaps this verse can help. Matthew 19:29 And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life.

If your brothers sins bring you only to anger you must leave him for the lords sake. If you can't be around him without feeling angry, leave him so your anger can be dulled, and you can forgive him. The lord commands us to love our brother. He does not command us to live in sin with him. I believe that he would want you to live a life where you can do good for others. So I pray for you and your brother and I send you my love. Wrath is one of the worst sins I've had in my life. I have left my family when my dad lead me to wrath against him. It was only after I found the lord that I was strong enough to forgive him. This is what I hope will happen to you as well. Please be well my friend.

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