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Two people are married. They divorce and each marry other people. Those marriages then end in divorce. Can the original couple marry again? I thought I read somewhere that doing so was an abomination, but when I looked for it in the online searchable Bible, I could not find it. Any thoughts?
 

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You are correct about the Bible being highly opposed to such a thing. I can't think of the Biblical reference at this particular moment unfortunately, but I'll stop back by and let you know when I remember it (unless someone else does first, of course :)).

--David
 
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Two people are married. They divorce and each marry other people. Those marriages then end in divorce. Can the original couple marry again? I thought I read somewhere that doing so was an abomination, but when I looked for it in the online searchable Bible, I could not find it. Any thoughts?

I'd be interested to hear and analyze any such Biblical "proof text" on the subject. My first impressions are simply that they are renewing a contract. The fact that they LEFT each other and both remarried might be an abomination, yes. But the rejoining, no. Then again, such a doctrine might be a strong prohibition against doing such a thing, similar to wife swapping for a time, if the intention were to deliberately engage in adultery by agreement without annulling the original marriage. But if a married couple really couldn't work things out the first time and had to split, only to realize it might have been a mistake, and then want to try again... if their failed marriages thereafter failed due to unfaithfulness or death on the part of both of the new partners, I see no problem in the original couple trying again.
 
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Deuteronomy 24
1 When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house,
2 and if she goes and becomes another man’s wife,
3 and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife,
4 then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the LORD. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the LORD your God is giving you for an inheritance.

This appears to be true if the wife in question was remarried and divorced from another man following her original divorce from her original husband. I'll see if there's anything else about remarrying someone you've divorced if both husband and wife remain chaste, and unmarried, in the interim.

--David
 
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4 then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the LORD. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the LORD your God is giving you for an inheritance.

Now that's interesting...

She has already been defiled....

That is very interesting, although keep in mind that you are dealing with Old Testament law. To take this command apart from the entirety of scripture as a whole would be to skew proper interpretation, IMHO....

But this one is a toughie. I may have to think it over for a while before I try and give any kind of "authoritative" response on it just yet.
 
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4 then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the LORD. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the LORD your God is giving you for an inheritance.

Here is my current analysis: The very purpose of marriage as created by God was to become a reflection of the marriage of the spiritual Bride to her Bridegroom. Given this, the fact that God was prohibiting remarriage after defilement would reflect spiritually our Lord not "taking back" a believer after they had received the indwelling of His Holy Spirit but then had flat out rejected Him, caused His Spirit to depart from them, and then given themselves to being in-filled with demonic spirits instead. This is essentially the unpardonable sin, and cannot and will not be forgiven, so I can see why our Lord would institute this law.

The question is, does it carry over into New Testament practice...

Still thinking this over.
 
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I'll see if there's anything else about remarrying someone you've divorced if both husband and wife remain chaste, and unmarried, in the interim.
1 Cor 7 covers that one:

10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband.
11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.​
 
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The question is, does it carry over into New Testament practice...
Still thinking this over.
I would say that the answer to that lies in passages of discussions between Paul and James in Acts 15 and 21. Of course Peter was a big part of the Acts 15 part also.

The consensus was that gentiles who come to faith in Messiah do not need to follow Moses, but Jews that come to New Covenant faith still do.
 
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ftr, I am of the belief the passages in 1 Cor. support marriage again after divorce, even divorce not resulting from adultery, and it does not specify who to, aside from being "in the Lord." I have studied this extensively, and am firm in my belief.
 
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I would say that the answer to that lies in passages of discussions between Paul and James in Acts 15 and 21. Of course Peter was a big part of the Acts 15 part also.

The consensus was that gentiles who come to faith in Messiah do not need to follow Moses, but Jews that come to New Covenant faith still do.

That sounds Biblical enough for me. :)

My answer was going to be that for NT believers this is one of those issues that becomes an "I believe I have the Spirit as well" things, where Paul was just giving his opinion on the matter, but believed it was from the Spirit of God. But he could not be dogmatic on the issue for certain.

So...

I think if the original partners have truly grown spiritually, or at least one of them to a great extent, and the other one hasn't regressed too much, then it is certainly possible for them to maybe overcome some of their previous difficulties and make a good marriage of it finally.

However, wisdom would suggest that if the two have NOT grown much spiritually, it might be a foolish move. They will undoubtably run into the same walls and problems they had before, PLUS the added distance of now having both given their hearts to someone else in the intervening years.

So all things are possible, but ... all things might not be very beneficial (Sorry, mixing verses. My apologies. Just wrote what came to me).
 
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That's actually a really interesting theological question. I don't know that I ever noticed that passage before. It doesn't seem to be addressed again, to give any perspective.

Hosea kept taking his wife Gomer back, but she wasn't actually marrying other men in between reconciliations. She just strayed. David took back his wife Michal, who did remarry, but it wasn't David who gave her a divorce; Saul took that liberty to marry her off again. Perhaps it was addressing spousal swapping, as another poster suggested. I wouldn't put it past a legalistic group to go through that charade of marriage/divorce/remarriage to assign some legitimacy to their calculated debauchery. Which would be an abomination.

I've known couples who did separate and go on to have other relationships, but ultimately reunited. But I can't say I know of a single couple who actually married in the first place, divorced and remarried other people, and then came back and actually remarried each other. It was always a high school sweetheart with whom they failed to tie the knot the first time, otherwise the intermediate relationship never escalated to marriage. Although not technically a married-divorced-remarried-divorced-original-marriage scenario, these are always beautiful and seem to end well. It's as if the original couple just needed perspective. And then they thrived on their shared history. I do think there is something special about sharing one's youth. Young marriage gets a bad rap, but as a woman who did marry young, I see a lot of value in having your shared experiences during the formative years.
 
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Two people are married. They divorce and each marry other people. Those marriages then end in divorce. Can the original couple marry again? I thought I read somewhere that doing so was an abomination, but when I looked for it in the online searchable Bible, I could not find it. Any thoughts?

I wouldn't see a problem with that considering your original spouse was your first priority before. I truly believe marriage should be a steadfast covenant. Maybe the both of you have learned over the months/years of being apart? It's not a bad idea to reach out.

I think I remember reading that verse as well, but it was from the OT. We're are under the New Covenant in Christ, and seeing two people who were originally joined together under God's covenant be restored to one another is certainly a display of God's grace.
 
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