HELP ME!!!
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Dear Father,
I ask that you rest in FSOTM and remove all influence of evil in her life.
Please comfort Her and bring her your ever lasting peace, love and protection, in your Precious Son Jesus Christ.
In His Holy name I pray,
Amen.
I ask that you rest in FSOTM and remove all influence of evil in her life.
Please comfort Her and bring her your ever lasting peace, love and protection, in your Precious Son Jesus Christ.
In His Holy name I pray,
Amen.
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If you think you don't have any sins that can cause you lost mind and get demons don't worry.
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There are people here, don't worry. We may not answer in seconds, but we are here in minutes.
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JingshenBianxi
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♩ ♪ Dry your eyes, please don't cry
You can be strong if you just hold on
Dry your eyes, please don't cry
You can be strong if you just hold on .....
You don't have to cry alone
Ooh...I'll be right by your side to help you be strong♩ ♪
You can be strong if you just hold on
Dry your eyes, please don't cry
You can be strong if you just hold on .....
You don't have to cry alone
Ooh...I'll be right by your side to help you be strong♩ ♪
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Kit Sigmon
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You shouldn't trust the internet for friends....unless you can actually be in one another's life in person, the internet is good for communicating with others...but don't get overly attached and don't share too much personal information.
Anybody can be talking to you online, I know because I've been online since 1983 during
my last year of high school.
I've had been acquainted with all sorts of people online but I'm not really friends with any of them...they are associates that I've chatted with only online and have done so for many many years.
I've met a few online associates in person...and ended up parting ways with them due
to their deceptions.
There's like 3 people on my Facebook page who I actually don't know...everybody else
are people I've been friends with for many years. I don't allow my Facebook friend's list
to get passed 60 people...cause I can't keep up with them. I'm a person who actually writes/comment on my friends posts...I don't want huge amounts of so called "friends"
just to show off that I have hundreds or thousands of friends.
I built my support base in real life as I was growing up... online relationships are nice
but I don't "bank" on them.
As for helping people with mental issues...I worked in health care for over 20 years
and had all types of patients. I also have different types of friends, some of them are
mentally ill. That screaming episode you experienced with your friend? I got friends who do
that too...one in particular is real bad...so I immediately set in place safe boundaries
with her, she knows I will cease phone conversations if she goes on a long winded rant
or blows my phone up with text.
I will run a block on her in no time flat! I recently did when she tried to blow up our chat on Facebook...I went on an put a block on her right then and there....that Sunday at church
she was all sorry and stuff, talk real sweet and calm with me.
While it's good to try to help a friend, you got to know your limit and based on your
skill levels and your own issues...I will say to you again...you're in over your head.
Create your safe space.
Now think about it...what makes you comfortable? or produces calm for you?
Set in place safe boundaries for yourself and the toxic person, stay well within those boundaries.
Online relationships are nice but don't build your world on cyberfriendships.
Limit your involvement in the lives of people who are toxic and regularly want to "download" all their problems onto you...you're a caring person but you do have to learn to protect yourself from people who are what we call in the hood: "vampires"...people who will drain the life out of you...they can detect their "prey" after being around them in online support groups and or forums...not all people are there for "help", they looking for "fresh blood" cause they done "killed" their last "friend" by draining the life out them with their "dramas".
When someone keeps on trying to get you to chat with them privately...be careful, too many times this is where they find out if you are really "prey" or not.
I've heard countless tales from people around me who've been "baited" and "devoured"
by someone online who presented as a friend who really wants to help them.
It's happened on Facebook, Christian sites, dating sites etc.
Enjoy online relationships but don't overly invest yourself with people you don't actually
know and haven't spent quality time around one another in real life.
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This is so true, I gave way too much of myself....way too much ....I was too trusting...ill never do that again EVER!
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Far side, I'm not sure what's going on with you, but you need to start taking self defense lessons. Judo, karate, boxing. Doesn't matter what kind just do it, join a gym while your at it too. Because without self confidence, and all this fear your harboring it's going to drag you into a perpetual depression.
Forget about making friends, most of them sound like losers anyway. Forget about dating & forget about relationships. First thing is to heal thy self.
Forget about making friends, most of them sound like losers anyway. Forget about dating & forget about relationships. First thing is to heal thy self.
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Well then. Think as clearly as you can and Know that your friend cannot reach you or hurt you in any wayTell yourself this truth.. That you are safe and your friend is of no threat to you.. ((((huggs))))
Yes. If he doesn't know where you live and presumably will not be able to find your address - if he wanted to - what have you to worry about ? It is always a good idea to pray for a person who gives you trouble at the same time as you pray for yourself, and in this case, the rest of us should pray for him, too. In the Catholic church, we may pray to St Dympna to intercede for us concerning mental issues of our own or other people's.
As William Congreve put it, 'Music hath charms to soothe the savage breast.' I doubt if you will find a more soothing hymn than this one, Panis Angelicus, sung by Andrea Bocelli, although the version by Mirusia Luwerse linked below it, is also soothing:
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Oh dear, so if I'm correct you made this friend online? When I read your first post I assumed it was a friend that possibly lived near you. Well... it seems your friend has issues, nor does he realize that you are not capable of giving him treatment over the phone. It's different to just have a buddy to talk to when your down and blue, b/c that helps get things off your mind. However he is putting you in a bad position obviously b/c your having panic attacks.
Your dear friend has issues with his fiancé but... that might not be the only issue or issues . Seeing as you made this friend online, it would be easy for him to hide the fact he might have some type of mental illness. Of course this is only my assumption and not a fact! While it's great to help a friend or loved one... sometimes we are only just one person, and just can't handle it all on our own.
I'm not sure how old you are... but I'm assuming a young adult? If at all possible have your number changed. Be very careful in the future of giving out personal information, because lets be honest we never really know whom we might be actually talking to. But on the other hand if you do decide to keep the friendship going, kindly explain that screaming stresses you out and there is no need for it. If he won't listen to reason then politely say I'm much too busy to deal with this temper tantrum, you aren't 2 years old so use your words until then I'm hanging up I have things to do have a great day.
Depression/ anxiety can be really hard to go through. Sometimes the person going through it will isolate themselves from people. And other times it's like if they haven't had a decent social life or the skills... they just don't know the proper way to go about certain conversation topics. Your friend could also have anger issues... sort of sounds like it to me anyways. Hopefully this person will seek treatment and get the proper help they need.
Just explain that you can be here as a friend.. but your not the punching bag here. If we are truly friends why are you speaking to me in such a rude tone? Yes everyone has a bad day but I'm not the cause of your anger. If you want to talk it out cool... but being mean to me won't change your current circumstances. If your fiancé makes you this upset then maybe it's best to not marry her. If you aren't mature enough to have a conversation without screaming like a child then how will you be a proper husband?
Sounds like his fiancé could be in the same boat your in. He might not act so great to her either which is why they have the on again off again type relationship. But to put it bluntly you don't need the unnecessary drama if he isn't willing to chill out while he explains what troubles him. It's always best to understand there are 3 sides to a story: His, hers, & the truth. But for some reason I just have a feeling there relationship is toxic. But once again these are only assumptions not fact.
I'll pray that peace comes to your friend and yourself. Hang in there it will be okay.
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Find a Christian therapist or psychologist. But your response is fairly normal given the situation. You must learn to not trust people too easily or quickly, and learn to avoid people once they have proven themselves toxic.
I highly recommend that you read "Safe People" by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend (which is also about dealing with unsafe people), and their classic book "Boundaries."
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I keep hearing about that book, "Boundaries". I have to go buy it, too many people recommend it.
To the OP, don't beat yourself up. Learn God's way to set limits and a shield around yourself.
These books are good advice, I have several and Dr. Henry Cloud and John Townsend are both Biblical Christians and doctors (not an easy combination to find).
If you want these two books, start a conversation with me and I will get them to you at no cost to you.
Don't shut all people out, just learn how God tells us to set limitations.
You glorified God with what you did. You showed love and concern. Do not be ashamed of that. You did not have good boundaries, per se. But your heart is and was in the right place and God will bless you for that.
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Take a deep breath and relax. You should fear no one or no thing except God. Give no human being power over you. It is truly the power of God within you that will have you overcome this crisis.
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*hugs* It'll be okay, Far Side, we're here now.
He doesn't know where you are or live nearby or anything, so just don't associate with him anymore.
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No he's not near thank God. And yeah I deleted his number. But for some reason my phone can't block numbers which I think is dumb.*hugs* It'll be okay, Far Side, we're here now.
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