I found some horrible books in my sons room, and I have no idea what to do.

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Hello, I am hoping I'm putting this in the right section. I googled for a christian forum and this website popped up. I am a single mother of one, a 16 year old boy. His father left when he was 11 and since then I have been raising him on my own. I try to raise him to be a very good christian, but some things are hard as a single mother.

I'm not sure of his faith, he seems to be uncomfortable talking about God. He goes to church and youth group, but doesn't really participate. The youth pastor has told me maybe to look in to finding a christian counselor for him. Though his faith isn't really the reason of this post. I am completely lost and unsure what to do, I've been praying and thinking and so lost as of what to do.

Over the summer I noticed him reading a book. He rarely reads what he is suppose to in school, but now he is reading on his own time. I didn't really think that much of it when I saw the front and that it was what looked like a football book. Since he has always been pretty in to sports. It also had animals on the front cover that were kind of like people animals sort of like that movie Zootopia from earlier in that year, a sort of animal football something, and I know he loves animals too, so again, it didn't really give me any suspicions.

What did give me a bit of suspicions was that he was almost hiding the book. And gave me off handed answers when I enquired about what he was reading. After a week or so I guess he finished the book cause I didn't see it anymore and he was just back to playing video games. But then around the end of November a box showed up with his name on it. I try to respect privacy, so I told him something came for him and then asked what it was. He just told me it was some books. I never noticed the first book coming in a box, it might have arrived while I was out one day, I just assumed he got it from the library. I didn't actually see the books in the box, or even him read them at any point.

Again, I didn't think much of it, mostly because I was really busy at the start of December. But today when I was in his room to take down the lights on the window, he came in and got all paranoid, asking what I was doing and insisting he can just do it himself, even though I had been asking for days for him to take them down.

I'm almost ashamed with myself for what I did later, but he had been planning with a couple friends from school to go see the new star wars tonight, and while he was out, I snooped around his room. I didn't really see anything odd, but what was odd was I kept thinking about those books, because I couldn't find them anywhere. In his sidetable, there is a drawer, and in the far back of the drawer under some junk I found 5 books. I didn't know why he hid them, and was now very suspicious. So I read the back of one of them and just began to shake...

The back said "The playoffs are here, and Dev Miski's life has never been busier. If the Chevali Firebirds want to win their first championship, he'll need to play the best football of his life. But, as the only gay professional football player, he's beset by distracting demands for commercials and interviews. The number one distraction, though, is his boyfriend Lee. After the fox's mother joins a religious anti-gay group, Lee turns back to the gay activism of his college days. He pushes Dev to use his celebrity to reach out to gay youth, but only succeeds in starting bigger arguments. When their relationship faces its most difficult test, will their love for each other triumph?"

At that point I was feeling ill. I flipped through it and noticed it had pictures. Normal ones, like a some football tackle, but I flipped by one of a very detailed oral sexual act.

I put them back in the drawer and almost felt myself having a panic attack. I googled the Author and wanted to read up about just what these books were about. Basically they are about a humanoid tiger and a humanoid fox that are both male and in a relationship. I read that they are "Very Adult" and have detailed descriptions and illustrations of M/M romance. Found the title of another book by the author called, "Losing my Religion." Which again says online that it is Adult and has detailed descriptions of M/M scenes. Though I didn't see that book in his drawer.

As panicked I am about the homosexual characters and the fact the books have adult scenes, I'm even more scared about that thing about the "Foxes mother joins a religious anti-gay group." I presume that means the books are strongly against religion.

I don't know what to do, I don't want to think that he's gay, I wish I hadn't looked around in his room. What even would be a suitable punishment for something like this? I don't want those books in my house, but I don't know what to do about them. I can't even sleep knowing those are in the other room. He came in from the movie and I just told him to go to sleep, and since have been in my room. I'm wondering if this is because he doesn't have an adult male figure in his life, that he is looking at men. This is so hard for me to type, I keep getting horrible images in my head of him reading those books. From the picture I saw they seem very inappropriate contentographic.

Please help me. I'm praying and searching for an answer, but I need help. Has anyone gone through any of this at all? Have any of you heard of this series and can tell me how against religion it is? I found it on Amazon, which disturbs me that they sell such things. Uncovered: Kyell Gold: 9781936689392: Amazon.com: Books

Tomorrow is the start of the weekend, I'm going to be looking for christian counselors and calling around the church too. Do any of you have any suggestions about how I should go about this.
 
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There is not a lot you can do. You mentioned the word "punishment", I would say don't take the punishment route. Try to maintain and show love at this time. If there was anything I would suggest it would be let him know you found the book, and you would like him to go to your pastor to discuss it. At the same time remove the book from the home. But I would not punish him more than that for it. Set the boundaries, but don't be harsh. It is hard to know where the boundaries should be set, and how to balance out the displeasure felt, against our need to not appear angry or harsh.
 
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This has definitely got to be a difficult situation for you and I am going to pray for you and your son. I would also suggest to not punish him. And that he can not read that material in your house. It is understandable that you feel some guilt for searching for what he was hiding but I think the key is to make sure both him and you are in a good mood then talk to him about the book you found. The worst thing you could do is isolate him because he clearly knows what he is doing is wrong and he just needs the proper talk about it. It is too early to say if he is gay or not but it is important to allow him to express his feelings to a christian counselor. Getting him to open up is going to be difficult though. I know when I was his age there is 0 chance I would be reading a book like hes reading but things have changed tremendously over the past decade with gay marriage etc. And homosexuality is becoming more prevalent because of it.

The good news is its likely a phase and since he feels some shame about it theres a great chance your son is not gay because gay people generally don't feel guilty about their sexual preference. Some may feel guilty because of others but in general they enjoy the same sex. I think it is too early to say if this is the case for your son. But for the best outcome minimal pressure should be applied this doesn't mean you don't set rules like not allowing this in your house but you just let him know assertively that you won't tolerate such material in your house. Try to make him feel comfortable and let him know that you may not understand what his true feelings are but that if he doesn't feel comfortable expressing them to you that he needs to have a talk with someone. Many people go through a phase around his age so I would not worry at this point. Let him know you love him no matter what even if he is gay but that you trust that God will lead him onto the righteous path.

I just also want to say that its important he know that having urges for the same sex is not the same as being homosexual and that if he does have same sex urges that it doesn't mean hes gay. Teenagers get all kinds of feelings for everyone they meet at that age so let him know these feelings will pass. Try to get a christian counselor to go over some key christian principles like self control and let him understand why homosexuality would not be beneficial to him even if it makes him feel good. Let him know that just because something feels good doesn't make it good for you. He definitely needs to speak to an older male about how he feels but it needs to be someone with christian compassion. If he gets a hell fire counselor who says you will go to hell if you like the same sex that leads to the worst outcome.

So I wish you and your son well and I trust in the lord Jesus Christ your son will be set free from the bondage he is in. Good luck and God bless.
 
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I am so sorry. It broke my heart to read your post. I wish I knew what to say. I am sitting here hesitating on where to start writing.

You are single, your son's father left when your son was 11. It is so sad. Somewhere I had been reading in the Word about Jesus' comment to the Jews or Judeans (some would say Rabbis, John 10:31-36); they were ready to stone Him for their interpretation of blasphemy--calling Himself the son of God (or Elohim, which is plural and putting Himself in the Godhead).

Jesus replied:"Isn't it written in your Law (Torah) I have said You people are gods (elohim)? If He called 'elohim' the people to whom the word Elohim was addressed (and the scriptures cannot be broken [abolished]), then are you telling the One whom the Father set apart as holy and sent into the world, 'You are committing blasphemy,' just because I said , 'I am a son of Elohim'?

There is a verse in Psalm 82: "Elohim [God] stands in the divine assembly; there with the elohim [judges], he judges . . .

This Psalm is about those people placed in position to judge righty among the people, the fatherless, the wretched and poor, etc. In this Psalm, the gods do not follow the rules of righteousness though.

Verse 6, My decree is: You are gods (elohim, judges), sons of the Most High all of you. Nevertheless, you will die like mortals; like any prince, you will fall.

Parents are in the position of leadership, of justice love, stability, righteousness; in the role of gods to our children. However, the human gods sometimes fail in their roles. To a child the gods have fallen.

Sometimes the loss of a particular parent can be traumatizing. The dreams and stability, the loss of companionship, these things feel stolen from them.

Youths crave the love and stability of their parents. Sometimes they will look for it in the same sex, it replaces the one missing.

I hurt so badly for you.
 
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I'm the mom of two teenagers and a 20-year-old. I've tried to keep an open, matter-of-fact atmosphere with my kids when talking about sex, so that they'll feel comfortable talking to me about their emerging sexuality. I'm sure there are still things that are awkward to talk to Mom about, but we've been able to have some surprisingly good conversations. They know I'm a resource for them if there are things they don't know, and they know I'll continue to love them even if they make sexual choices I don't agree with.

I recommend this approach, if you can do it. (I know that sex isn't always the easiest subject to deal with, so I understand if you're shy.) I'm guessing that your son is hiding the books because he's afraid that he'll be rejected or punished. Don't punish him; I think that would just make his fears worse, and would make him hide more. It might also tell him that you're not a safe person to talk to about sex. Instead, make sure he knows that you love him no matter what.

I don't know whether to recommend talking to him about the books. If it's something that you're not going to be able to get out of your mind, and that is going to stand between you, then I recommend that the conversation go something like this: "I looked in your drawer tonight and found your books. I'm sorry. I shouldn't have snooped in your things. I was really curious about the new book that came in the mail. I know you're a teenager now, and you're going to be reading books about adult relationships. You don't have to hide them from me. I know it can be kinda weird talking to Mom about relationships and sexuality, but you can always talk to me, and I will always love you."
 
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As panicked I am about the homosexual characters and the fact the books have adult scenes, I'm even more scared about that thing about the "Foxes mother joins a religious anti-gay group." I presume that means the books are strongly against religion.

I don't know what to do, I don't want to think that he's gay, I wish I hadn't looked around in his room. What even would be a suitable punishment for something like this? I don't want those books in my house, but I don't know what to do about them. I can't even sleep knowing those are in the other room. He came in from the movie and I just told him to go to sleep, and since have been in my room. I'm wondering if this is because he doesn't have an adult male figure in his life, that he is looking at men. This is so hard for me to type, I keep getting horrible images in my head of him reading those books. From the picture I saw they seem very inappropriate contentographic.

Please help me. I'm praying and searching for an answer, but I need help. Has anyone gone through any of this at all? Have any of you heard of this series and can tell me how against religion it is? I found it on Amazon, which disturbs me that they sell such things. Uncovered: Kyell Gold: 9781936689392: Amazon.com: Books

Tomorrow is the start of the weekend, I'm going to be looking for christian counselors and calling around the church too. Do any of you have any suggestions about how I should go about this.

It sounds like adolescent curiosity, I wouldn't jump to any conclusions. I certainly wouldn't wouldn't recommend involving a lot of people in something that might turn out to be idle curiosity. Why not just try letting him know that he can talk to you about anything. Sometimes boys go through a time when they are interested in bonding with other males, I really have no idea if that's the case but if it is, he might just be thinking about relationships.

Bottom line, your never really going to know unless you get him to confide in you. It really sounds like idle curiosity to me, don't panic until you know for sure there's a serious problem. Sit him down at the kitchen table and make him talk to you about it. Don't be confrontational, don't jump to conclusions just keep it light and ask him what his interest is. If he gets up and tries to walk away tell him to sit down and tell you whats going on. Your his Mom, don't get all dramatic, just casually ask him why he is interested in this sort of thing. Your the boss, he is apple sauce and if he gives you any static over it threaten to take his video games away. He may flip out but if you stay calm and he stays put for a little while it will probably turn out to be something innocent. If not then maybe you will have to look into counseling.

Grace and peace,
Mark
 
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Do you know if your son..

bought the book himself
got it from a friend
borrowed it from the library?

because each scenario is different in how a parent can approach this.

However I know the feeling when you see something sickening that a child ought not to read as we had a lot of those kinds of 'adult' books in the public library and I always wondered how damaging they would be to curious minds, in the Book of Acts people repented and burned occult books.

I will have a look at the link and see just whats behind it all. Gay agenda type books are everywhere these days.
 
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ok..sorry just read the link and figured your son probably was ordering this from amazon?

Amazon sell anything that makes a profit, they won't make any distinction. I don't know if they sell inappropriate content, but if they have a policy...you can mention it. I know here the Warehouse decided to NOT stock R rated dvds anymore because parents complained, and they want to be a family friendly store. So they listened to the customers.

Otherwise, I think a wise course of action is to demonstrate faith to your son and tell him the gospel if he hasn't heard already. If he actually has faith he will be convicted in his heart sooner or later about this. If its really just a passing curiosity he would just bin the books when he grows out of them (they seem quite immature for a 16 year old) Does he read the Bible at all?

It is terrible how inappropriate behavior with animals etc is dressed up like this. The publisher, immediate red flag, of course is a wolf. So its pretty blatantly out to devour the sheep.
 
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It is terrible how inappropriate behavior with animals etc is dressed up like this. The publisher, immediate red flag, of course is a wolf. So its pretty blatantly out to devour the sheep.
The publisher isn't a wolf. The publisher is a different kind of animal, not a smart one but a dumb ass.
 
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Well for starters don't feel ashamed for having to have spied on him and looked. Kids are good at hiding secrets. My parents never knew about the issues I had until I was an adult.

Between the gay kind of magazine, the animal stuff and the fact hes into Zootopia I'd say maybe he is a/into being a "furry", heres the details:
"The furry fandom is a subculture interested in fictional anthropomorphic animal characters with human personalities and characteristics. Examples of anthropomorphic attributes include exhibiting human intelligence and facial expressions, the ability to speak, walk on two legs, and wear clothes."

Alot of people today, younger people, have issues as most kids do. Furries oftem times are people who aren't happy with their life as it is. Some suffer depression. Some suffer sexual issues like not being sure if they are straight, gay...etc. In your sons case part of it could be his dad leaving. Maybe some other issues at to like mean bullies who say things like "I bet your gay!". Furries see they see themselves as a half animal/half human. Think of it as an escape for them. This character in their mind is the person they can really be without being judged. So its why they tend to be very secretive about it and really tend to talk to other furries.

I have three friends (one is 17, the other two young adults) who are into it. And sadly all three are into the more.... "adult" version of furries. Where they imagine sex with another furry (male or female mind you). All three of the friends struggle with sexual identy issues and depression. The one in the past showed me her art. Is was disgusting. Furry (again animal/human) having sex with each other. I mean full on X rated sex. She is a human/fox. She likes human/tigers.

Now as to how to approach this. You need to sit down with him and ask if everything is ok. Its up to you if you want to tell him you found stuff in his room. Though I'd probably not mention it first. See if he will open up to you about it first so he doesn't feel awkward and like you may judge him harsly. Though at some point if he doesn't bring it up I'd tell him yo felt concerned about him like he wasn't being himself and you found what he was reading/viewing.

The bigger issue after will be getting him some help. Because, and others who may read this and are into the non-sexual furry may disagree, I find the sexual furry thing to be dangerous. If you search online about things like "coming out as a furry" you can see its VERY hard for them to come out about it. And many admit they are obsessed with it because again its their escape. One route of course is to have him get help from a pastor to talk to him about its not being a safe thing to turn to, but to look to God instead since He created us as we are. Then of course a counselor. A christian one since I assume non-christian ones may not be against the furry thing.

I'd also say before you approach him you look up online about furries. This way you can try to understand the mindset they have. It could be helpful in breaking through to him. Though for your own sake I wouldn't look up images/videos about furries just because half the time its "furry inappropriate content".

And of course pray, pray and pray.

To those reading my post who are furries, I mean no offense in anything I say. But you likely know/have heard about the dark side of the furry culture. Especially with teens who are confused in todays world with the media telling them all kidns of corrupt evil things.
 
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I see someone marked the OP as "funny" - maybe thinking it is a troll post, and hey maybe it is - but there really are people who wind up in these types of situations and have these types of thoughts and feelings. Plus parents face many similar situations, so advice can apply across the board, even without the factor of furry inappropriate content. So here we go.

Some things to consider:

1. Nearly every teenager who has ever lived has explored their sexuality, and they explore it on their own, and there will almost always be things that parents don't know about and perhaps should never know about it, for the sake of the psychological health of both teenagers and parents.

2. Exploring through stories, inappropriate content, art, writing, etc may not be ideal, but at least it is better than teenagers actually having sex and risking getting lifelong diseases.

3. The internet is a massive cesspit of material that teenagers of today are going to roam through, and a lot of that material tries to encourage themes like inappropriate behavior with animals, sometimes in sneaky ways, among other themes that are ultimately destructive.

4. You cannot prevent your teenager from exploring the internet unless you go full-blown tyrant, which will exhaust you and drive you nuts, psychologically traumatize your son (his own mother would be what, actively trying to stalk his internet activity to police his sexual exploration? Just, don't go there), and ultimately drive a massive, awkward wedge between the two of you that decades of therapy might not even overcome. He is less than 2 years away from being a legal adult, now is not the time to try to completely mold him - that window is over.

5. Society is currently rife with broken homes and families, which leads to millions and millions of teenagers with unresolved emotional wounds and confusions, which makes it all the more easier for those who want to profit ($$$) off of that hurt and confusion to push the whole, "Your parents are outdated and don't understand or love you," narrative to suck teenagers into the cesspit even more. You cannot single-handedly defeat the cesspit, itself, but you CAN be a wise parent who loves unconditionally while providing firm (but loving) guidance for your teenager.

6. No matter how awesome of a parent you are, your offspring WILL go through their own trials in life. They WILL have times when they are hurting and confused and easily deceived, and they WILL be deceived at times, and they WILL have to go through their own personal journeys of making mistakes, getting lost, being taken advantage of, etc and also having their own realizations and healing and so on. This won't just happen in their teenage years, but also their 20s, and 30s, and 40s.. and beyond. Everyone has issues, at all stages of life, even those who don't think they have any.

7. So what matters, is not trying in futility to prevent your older teenager from ever going through any of these normal life experiences, even if they manifest with some disturbing details at times, but instead of what matters is following the example set by Jesus.

Jesus
- Did not force anyone to repent or change
- Did not shame people, punish people or beat them over the head with how sinful they were
- Offered simple but sincere wisdom in a loving manner to people who needed guidance
- Let it be known that when anyone is ready to repent, they can be forgiven and start fresh in the Lord

So that is my advice to you. Don't try to totally control or punish your son. Do not shame your son. Offer your son simple but sincere guidance, out of love, and not fear or anger. First understand that he has no father figure and is growing up in a society where perverse, manipulative content is all over the place, and that his generation faces more spiritual challenge than any generation before it - and then let him know that you understand this. And let him know that as his mother you love him no matter what, even though you know that nobody is perfect and that just like everyone else, he will also have times of hurting, confusion and losing his way. But that you will always be there for him to talk, and that you can also get him a Christian counselor who is trained not to judge but just to help (good counselors do not judge, they offer guidance and help people understand themselves).

8. And ultimately, remember that humans are caught in a massive spiritual battle between God and Satan, and that ultimately evil is like a virus. It may cause damage, but that is not its goal. The goal of a virus is to proliferate and spread, which it does by causing damage on a cellular level, which the naked human eye cannot see. Evil works the same way, hence the saying, "Hurt people, hurt people," meaning that people who are hurting, often cause hurt to other people, and just like a wound can become infected in the physical realm, an emotional wound can become like a spiritual infection. Evil feeds on a lot of pain, without most people ever realizing what is really happening. Satan is keenly aware of it, though, and uses it to his advantage. Always bear this in mind. So do not hurt your son. Do not humiliate him, shame him, etc. Try your best to be like Jesus. Simple, firm guidance, with wisdom and love.

Your son will find his own way, in his own time, even if it takes several years. Trust God to guide your son through the worst of it, because with where our society is heading, his sexual exploration will likely be the least of his trials in life.
 
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I think you had more than enough "probable cause" to investigate what was going on, and shouldn't feel guilty about it.

I think the "punishment" route is the wrong way to go. Whatever is going on will only be driven deeper. I probably would mull this over until you had more clarity on how to proceed. He probably doesn't need to know that you know right away.

How involved is your Ex in his life? A lot of homosexuality is searching for a father figure. Maybe you could get the Ex to be more involved, if he's not already, or maybe there is someone at church who can be a father figure to some extent, and steer him through his adolescent searchings.
 
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Hello, I am hoping I'm putting this in the right section. I googled for a christian forum and this website popped up. I am a single mother of one, a 16 year old boy. His father left when he was 11 and since then I have been raising him on my own. I try to raise him to be a very good christian, but some things are hard as a single mother.

I'm not sure of his faith, he seems to be uncomfortable talking about God. He goes to church and youth group, but doesn't really participate. The youth pastor has told me maybe to look in to finding a christian counselor for him. Though his faith isn't really the reason of this post. I am completely lost and unsure what to do, I've been praying and thinking and so lost as of what to do.

Over the summer I noticed him reading a book. He rarely reads what he is suppose to in school, but now he is reading on his own time. I didn't really think that much of it when I saw the front and that it was what looked like a football book. Since he has always been pretty in to sports. It also had animals on the front cover that were kind of like people animals sort of like that movie Zootopia from earlier in that year, a sort of animal football something, and I know he loves animals too, so again, it didn't really give me any suspicions.

What did give me a bit of suspicions was that he was almost hiding the book. And gave me off handed answers when I enquired about what he was reading. After a week or so I guess he finished the book cause I didn't see it anymore and he was just back to playing video games. But then around the end of November a box showed up with his name on it. I try to respect privacy, so I told him something came for him and then asked what it was. He just told me it was some books. I never noticed the first book coming in a box, it might have arrived while I was out one day, I just assumed he got it from the library. I didn't actually see the books in the box, or even him read them at any point.

Again, I didn't think much of it, mostly because I was really busy at the start of December. But today when I was in his room to take down the lights on the window, he came in and got all paranoid, asking what I was doing and insisting he can just do it himself, even though I had been asking for days for him to take them down.

I'm almost ashamed with myself for what I did later, but he had been planning with a couple friends from school to go see the new star wars tonight, and while he was out, I snooped around his room. I didn't really see anything odd, but what was odd was I kept thinking about those books, because I couldn't find them anywhere. In his sidetable, there is a drawer, and in the far back of the drawer under some junk I found 5 books. I didn't know why he hid them, and was now very suspicious. So I read the back of one of them and just began to shake...

The back said "The playoffs are here, and Dev Miski's life has never been busier. If the Chevali Firebirds want to win their first championship, he'll need to play the best football of his life. But, as the only gay professional football player, he's beset by distracting demands for commercials and interviews. The number one distraction, though, is his boyfriend Lee. After the fox's mother joins a religious anti-gay group, Lee turns back to the gay activism of his college days. He pushes Dev to use his celebrity to reach out to gay youth, but only succeeds in starting bigger arguments. When their relationship faces its most difficult test, will their love for each other triumph?"

At that point I was feeling ill. I flipped through it and noticed it had pictures. Normal ones, like a some football tackle, but I flipped by one of a very detailed oral sexual act.

I put them back in the drawer and almost felt myself having a panic attack. I googled the Author and wanted to read up about just what these books were about. Basically they are about a humanoid tiger and a humanoid fox that are both male and in a relationship. I read that they are "Very Adult" and have detailed descriptions and illustrations of M/M romance. Found the title of another book by the author called, "Losing my Religion." Which again says online that it is Adult and has detailed descriptions of M/M scenes. Though I didn't see that book in his drawer.

As panicked I am about the homosexual characters and the fact the books have adult scenes, I'm even more scared about that thing about the "Foxes mother joins a religious anti-gay group." I presume that means the books are strongly against religion.

I don't know what to do, I don't want to think that he's gay, I wish I hadn't looked around in his room. What even would be a suitable punishment for something like this? I don't want those books in my house, but I don't know what to do about them. I can't even sleep knowing those are in the other room. He came in from the movie and I just told him to go to sleep, and since have been in my room. I'm wondering if this is because he doesn't have an adult male figure in his life, that he is looking at men. This is so hard for me to type, I keep getting horrible images in my head of him reading those books. From the picture I saw they seem very inappropriate contentographic.

Please help me. I'm praying and searching for an answer, but I need help. Has anyone gone through any of this at all? Have any of you heard of this series and can tell me how against religion it is? I found it on Amazon, which disturbs me that they sell such things. Uncovered: Kyell Gold: 9781936689392: Amazon.com: Books

Tomorrow is the start of the weekend, I'm going to be looking for christian counselors and calling around the church too. Do any of you have any suggestions about how I should go about this.

Trying to force a man into a religion built from the beast won't work if it's God's will. Your son will be perfectly okay because we're all living according to the PLAN.
 
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I spent a few minutes with Google looking up the author. I was interested to see if I could find his religious orientation. I didn't find much, but there's a furry wiki that has an entry. Here are what it reported as recurring themes:

* The theme Gold most often returns to is "young gay furs looking for love." Typically, the fact that the characters are gay is not a problem for them. But with the novels Waterways and Out of Position, the theme is instead young furs struggling to accept their gay side.

* Other common themes are the church (portrayed as a positive influence).

His book "losing my religion" involves a character who's in a rock group. The title is a reference to a well-known R.E.M. song, which isn't about religion. The reviews of the book I found don't talk about its religious implications (if any).

I wouldn't jump to conclusions that the author is anti-Christian, though I'm sure any Christianity he may have would be very different from yours.
 
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The publisher is starwolf, i dont mean its literally a wolf, but many times the publishers name will be a giveaway about what its all about. Sometimes publishers have occult symbols as their logos so you have to watch out for that.

At first glance and also with OPs intuition and feeling sick about it, I wouldnt dismiss it so easily. I think maybe its a wakeup call to be vigilant about teaching you child in the way to go. If theres these books and no Bible on his bookshelf, and you dont even know what kind of video games hes playing, your child is basically lost.


Boys need to spend time with their parents esp their dads, learning about how to be responisble (and faithful) adults, not trapped and spending money in fanstasy lala land that worships idols.


Take some steps about having an elder who can be like a godparent like Paul was to young .timothy. Encourage him in the faith to seek after Christ.
 
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When I think about it, anytime I reacted to anything when I was as upset as you appear to be I regretted it. I think it is worth considering a 2/3 day cooling off period before you do anything at all.
 
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Agree with not punishing him, not getting dramatic, and definitely not talking about it to anyone in his community.

Encourage you to take a few days to get before Yahweh and asks Him for His wisdom, knowledge, understanding, counsel, and strength. A time of prayer and fasting and getting answers from Him before anything else.

As far as searching his room- I'm old school - parents are responsible for their households. For example, if you owned land and he was growing marijuana on it, you would be held responsible. If he was growing it in your house, same thing. I would search his room more often. You trusted him and he has violated that trust and disrespected you.
 
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Coming from a person who has actually read the book (series, actually) mentioned:
-The author does include sex scenes. (Gay sex scenes, obviously, as the OP pointed to)
-And some swearing. And some alcohol use.
-The mother joining an anti-gay religious group is a big part of a side-plot in the books, but they don't approach it as "religion is bad", they approach it as "these particular people are jerks, and happen to use religion as an excuse". Other characters are shown as religious and it isn't at all a problem*.

The books are mostly just one side of the couple coming to grips with his sexuality (both personally and in terms of his career), and both characters struggles to reconcile/connect with each other's families.


*On that note, having read some of his other works, he tends to approach religion mostly neutrally. Sometimes as a negative force, but more often as a positive force. He deals in several stories and novels with people coming to grips with their sexuality and making peace with their religion. And sometimes he simply depicts people as religious with no conflict or issue presented with that affiliation. [He also recently released a novel involving gay Muslim characters, as well.]
 
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