I feel like it's too late

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Jesus Himself addressed this issue very clearly in the story of the prodigal son. I recommend that you read it several times and digest its meaning.

That's right he did. Thank you for reminding me of that.
 
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It's never too late while you still breathe...........

Joel 2:12 ESV
12 "Yet even now," declares the LORD, "return to me with all your heart, with fasting, with weeping, and with mourning;

Thank you for the verse.
 
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I pray that God shows you the beauty of yourself even though you've been a wanderer like myself.

I wish I hadn't done it aswell. A lot of times I have been thinking that there is even no way back for me, but it seems that God is more merciful than I can imagine. I love Him for every little light beam He shows me. And His peace and love is so much better than beating myself up. Good that there's love in His Word when we cannot feel His love ourselves so much.


Proverbs 4:4-10
"Then [my father] taught me and said to me,
“Let your heart hold fast my words;
Keep my commandments and live;
Acquire wisdom! Acquire understanding!
Do not forget nor turn away from the words of my mouth.
“Do not forsake her, and she will guard you;
Love her, and she will watch over you.
“The beginning of wisdom is: Acquire wisdom;
And with all your acquiring, get understanding.
“Prize her, and she will exalt you;
She will honor you if you embrace her.
“She will place on your head a garland of grace;
She will present you with a crown of beauty.”
Hear, my son, and accept my sayings
And the years of your life will be many."


Proverbs 8:9-12
"Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you,
Reprove a wise man and he will love you.
Give instruction to a wise man and he will be still wiser,
Teach a righteous man and he will increase his learning.
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom,
And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.
For by me your days will be multiplied,
And
years of life will be added to you.

If you are wise, you are wise for yourself,
And if you scoff, you alone will bear it."

Proverbs 3:5-18
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart
And do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight.
Do not be wise in your own eyes;
Fear the LORD and turn away from evil.
It will be healing to your body
And refreshment to your bones.
Honor the LORD from your wealth
And from the first of all your produce;
So your barns will be filled with plenty
And your vats will overflow with new wine.
My son, do not reject the discipline of the LORD
Or loathe His reproof,
For whom the LORD loves He reproves,
Even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.
How blessed is the man who finds wisdom
And the man who gains understanding.
For her profit is better than the profit of silver
And her gain better than fine gold.
She is more precious than jewels;
And nothing you desire compares with her.
Long life is in her right hand;
In her left hand are riches and honor.
Her ways are pleasant ways
And all her paths are peace.
She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her,
And happy are all who hold her fast."

It's better to start late than not to start. It's wonderful to know that blessed are those who finds wisdom! Blessed. So many beautiful promises... And the lovely book is full of them. :)


I pray that you feel lots and lots of God's love and forget about things that doesn't mean that much after all.

Matthew 6:34
"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."
 
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I pray that God shows you the beauty of yourself even though you've been a wanderer like myself.

I wish I hadn't done it aswell. A lot of times I have been thinking that there is even no way back for me, but it seems that God is more merciful than I can imagine. I love Him for every little light beam He shows me. And His peace and love is so much better than beating myself up. Good that there's love in His Word when we cannot feel His love ourselves so much.


Proverbs 4:4-10
"Then [my father] taught me and said to me,
“Let your heart hold fast my words;
Keep my commandments and live;
Acquire wisdom! Acquire understanding!
Do not forget nor turn away from the words of my mouth.
“Do not forsake her, and she will guard you;
Love her, and she will watch over you.
“The beginning of wisdom is: Acquire wisdom;
And with all your acquiring, get understanding.
“Prize her, and she will exalt you;
She will honor you if you embrace her.
“She will place on your head a garland of grace;
She will present you with a crown of beauty.”
Hear, my son, and accept my sayings
And the years of your life will be many."


Proverbs 8:9-12
"Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you,
Reprove a wise man and he will love you.
Give instruction to a wise man and he will be still wiser,
Teach a righteous man and he will increase his learning.
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom,
And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.
For by me your days will be multiplied,
And
years of life will be added to you.

If you are wise, you are wise for yourself,
And if you scoff, you alone will bear it."

Proverbs 3:5-18
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart
And do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight.
Do not be wise in your own eyes;
Fear the LORD and turn away from evil.
It will be healing to your body
And refreshment to your bones.
Honor the LORD from your wealth
And from the first of all your produce;
So your barns will be filled with plenty
And your vats will overflow with new wine.
My son, do not reject the discipline of the LORD
Or loathe His reproof,
For whom the LORD loves He reproves,
Even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.
How blessed is the man who finds wisdom
And the man who gains understanding.
For her profit is better than the profit of silver
And her gain better than fine gold.
She is more precious than jewels;
And nothing you desire compares with her.
Long life is in her right hand;
In her left hand are riches and honor.
Her ways are pleasant ways
And all her paths are peace.
She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her,
And happy are all who hold her fast."

It's better to start late than not to start. It's wonderful to know that blessed are those who finds wisdom! Blessed. So many beautiful promises... And the lovely book is full of them. :)


I pray that you feel lots and lots of God's love and forget about things that doesn't mean that much after all.

Matthew 6:34
"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."

Thank you very much.
 
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I'm glad I came across this thread. I've read a few of the posts, and find I am not the only one who has been selfish and did what I wanted rather than what God wanted me to do.
My life was in a terrible mess when I was nineteen. And I mean dire. I cried out to God, and promised him my life. I suppose its easy to do that when you are as desperate as I was then.
During the next eight months God transformed me from the state I was in, to a totally different person. I went to a service and a visiting evangelist I had never before met prayed with me, told me much about my life, and told me God had a specific purpose for me.
The problem was, I had not truly from my heart yielded my whole life to God. After all he had done for me, pulling me out of the pit I had been in, I was selfish, I went out with someone who wasn't a christian in opposition to what God wanted. That was thirty eight years ago, and the repercussions of that mistake have haunted me ever since.
All I can say is, I know God still loves me, though I have done nothing to deserve it. If you need good works to get to heaven, I fail miserably. And yet, God has protected my life, blessed me with what I could never have deserved, and never stopped loving me.
So I dont believe there is anyone in the thread who is beyond Gods love. I would say dont underestimate his unfailing love. If he still loves me, he must still love you.
I grew up believing I had to be good enough for God, now i have one hope left, but what a hope. I stand with David, and trust in Gods unfailing love, forever and ever
 
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The only thing I am asking, which I think I know the answer to this, is it too late?

As long as you're on this earth it's not too late.

And now I have all these struggles as an adult. I keep wondering that if I had a strong relationship with God as a kid if I would still have these besetting sins.
God has ordained your life exactly as it is supposed to be according to his infinite wisdom.

I guess the question is how do I stop beating myself up? And am I ever going to find joy in in the Christian Life?
Stop focusing on yourself and focus on Christ. God has no memory of your past sins. While we are imperfect and cannot often forget them, Christ's sacrifice has paid for your past, present and future sins. Make Jesus the center of your life; start routinely praying, reading his word and contemplating on ways (and doing them) to lead a more godly life by showing your love for Christ in obeying his commandments.

Also, how does one become less selfish? I still feel very self-centered.

Lots of prayer and meditating on God's word. Even then, only the Lord can make that change in you according to the time when he sees it best for you. It may seem like a glacial progress, many times moving more backward than forward, but trust in the Lord to finish the work he has begun.
 
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I grew up in a Christian household. And I have known about God all my life. I have been living a life of pleasure and sin. I have had times when I rededicated my life to Christ, but it didn't last. Now, I really am seeking God's forgiveness. But sometimes I feel like it's too late. I don't know what advice you guys can give me.

The only thing I am asking, which I think I know the answer to this, is it too late?

I mean, I know it isn't, but it feels like it is. I keep beating myself up. Why didn't I have a relationship with God as a child when I knew about him? Why did I live a life of sinful pleasure instead of seeking God? Why didn't I rely on Jesus Christ to take away my sin? I feel like such an idiot. I lived in darkness for so long that it just feels like it's too late.

And now I have all these struggles as an adult. I keep wondering that if I had a strong relationship with God as a kid if I would still have these besetting sins. I just hope that God has mercy on me.

I guess the question is how do I stop beating myself up? And am I ever going to find joy in in the Christian Life?

Also, how does one become less selfish? I still feel very self-centered.
Lots of questions but start with stomping on snakes and scorpions instead of beating yourself up.Jesus gives us authority to do this. When we repent, God forgives us. He doesnt say, beat yourself up! Luke 10:19
 
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I'm glad I came across this thread. I've read a few of the posts, and find I am not the only one who has been selfish and did what I wanted rather than what God wanted me to do.
My life was in a terrible mess when I was nineteen. And I mean dire. I cried out to God, and promised him my life. I suppose its easy to do that when you are as desperate as I was then.
During the next eight months God transformed me from the state I was in, to a totally different person. I went to a service and a visiting evangelist I had never before met prayed with me, told me much about my life, and told me God had a specific purpose for me.
The problem was, I had not truly from my heart yielded my whole life to God. After all he had done for me, pulling me out of the pit I had been in, I was selfish, I went out with someone who wasn't a christian in opposition to what God wanted. That was thirty eight years ago, and the repercussions of that mistake have haunted me ever since.
All I can say is, I know God still loves me, though I have done nothing to deserve it. If you need good works to get to heaven, I fail miserably. And yet, God has protected my life, blessed me with what I could never have deserved, and never stopped loving me.
So I dont believe there is anyone in the thread who is beyond Gods love. I would say dont underestimate his unfailing love. If he still loves me, he must still love you.
I grew up believing I had to be good enough for God, now i have one hope left, but what a hope. I stand with David, and trust in Gods unfailing love, forever and ever

The Big issue is not whether God Loves me or anyone else enough...The Big Issue for me is:1.Am i Redeemable? and 2.Can i really change for the better ,all the way to the Levels and Standards that God would require,and remain Safe and Secure? I know what some Teach about "perfection" of the Heart and "circumcision of the Heart" but,now,i am afraid and tired of trying because of previous-failed-attempts. I guess,the "flesh"-life aspects seem so natural and unsurmountable...I can abstain from them for certain durations,but, temptation is very strong sometimes and failing to do what i ought + doing what i ought not to do eventually happens... Maybe,i just never have been "Born-Again".I grew up in Christianity in general,but,now i walk around with an invisible-sign that says "FAIL".Sad to say all this,but, that's where I'm at.
 
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The Big issue is not whether God Loves me or anyone else enough...The Big Issue for me is:1.Am i Redeemable? and 2.Can i really change for the better ,all the way to the Levels and Standards that God would require,and remain Safe and Secure? I know what some Teach about "perfection" of the Heart and "circumcision of the Heart" but,now,i am afraid and tired of trying because of previous-failed-attempts. I guess,the "flesh"-life aspects seem so natural and unsurmountable...I can abstain from them for certain durations,but, temptation is very strong sometimes and failing to do what i ought + doing what i ought not to do eventually happens... Maybe,i just never have been "Born-Again".I grew up in Christianity in general,but,now i walk around with an invisible-sign that says "FAIL".Sad to say all this,but, that's where I'm at.
What level does God require for you to be saved?
My heart goes out to you, for I have been just like you, so have so many others.
If I tell you, you have to stop looking at what you have to do to get to a certain level would you believe me?
I'm guessing in yourself you feel week, tired, no resilience to get yourself to this imaginary level.
The good news is you don't have to. God will accept you on the basis of faith in his son. Too good to bw true right, so it must be false. Read what your righteousness is before God. Its faith in Christ.
I will stop here.
Look, there's a book
Destined to reign by joseph prince. That may make you feel more encouraged if you read that.
I could give you something to read, but as I wrote it, I think youd be better with joseph princes book lol.
God bless
 
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I grew up in a Christian household. And I have known about God all my life. I have been living a life of pleasure and sin. I have had times when I rededicated my life to Christ, but it didn't last. Now, I really am seeking God's forgiveness. But sometimes I feel like it's too late. I don't know what advice you guys can give me.

The only thing I am asking, which I think I know the answer to this, is it too late?

I mean, I know it isn't, but it feels like it is. I keep beating myself up. Why didn't I have a relationship with God as a child when I knew about him? Why did I live a life of sinful pleasure instead of seeking God? Why didn't I rely on Jesus Christ to take away my sin? I feel like such an idiot. I lived in darkness for so long that it just feels like it's too late.

And now I have all these struggles as an adult. I keep wondering that if I had a strong relationship with God as a kid if I would still have these besetting sins. I just hope that God has mercy on me.

I guess the question is how do I stop beating myself up? And am I ever going to find joy in in the Christian Life?

Also, how does one become less selfish? I still feel very self-centered.
Either stop listening to your inner dialogue, or talk to yourself differently. What would you tell a friend who asked you the same question? Then tell yourself that answer.

We are all sons and daughters of the living, loving, infinitely fantastic God! Ask God to lead you out of the valley of indescision. Willingness is the key, progress not perfection. We are not saints, the point is that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. God wasn't expecting perfection, why should you?
 
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Either stop listening to your inner dialogue, or talk to yourself differently. What would you tell a friend who asked you the same question? Then tell yourself that answer.

We are all sons and daughters of the living, loving, infinitely fantastic God! Ask God to lead you out of the valley of indescision. Willingness is the key, progress not perfection. We are not saints, the point is that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. God wasn't expecting perfection, why should you?

Thank you. That was really helpful. God bless
 
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I'm glad I came across this thread. I've read a few of the posts, and find I am not the only one who has been selfish and did what I wanted rather than what God wanted me to do.
My life was in a terrible mess when I was nineteen. And I mean dire. I cried out to God, and promised him my life. I suppose its easy to do that when you are as desperate as I was then.
During the next eight months God transformed me from the state I was in, to a totally different person. I went to a service and a visiting evangelist I had never before met prayed with me, told me much about my life, and told me God had a specific purpose for me.
The problem was, I had not truly from my heart yielded my whole life to God. After all he had done for me, pulling me out of the pit I had been in, I was selfish, I went out with someone who wasn't a christian in opposition to what God wanted. That was thirty eight years ago, and the repercussions of that mistake have haunted me ever since.
All I can say is, I know God still loves me, though I have done nothing to deserve it. If you need good works to get to heaven, I fail miserably. And yet, God has protected my life, blessed me with what I could never have deserved, and never stopped loving me.
So I dont believe there is anyone in the thread who is beyond Gods love. I would say dont underestimate his unfailing love. If he still loves me, he must still love you.
I grew up believing I had to be good enough for God, now i have one hope left, but what a hope. I stand with David, and trust in Gods unfailing love, forever and ever

Thank you very much for sharing. And for the encouragement.
 
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I feel like it's too late
If you are still on this side of the ground, it is never to late. God does not want any to perish, but ALL to come to repentance. All would include you. Jesus died for our sins and He did not exclude anyone. I was the same as you, I drifted and stayed away for over 35 years, the prodigal son was a saint compared to my life away from God. It has taken me many years to firmly believe again that I can return and be forgiven. I spend each day in thanksgiving to God for His mercy and grace for the sins that I committed. I focus each and everyday on the gracious loving God that wants us to spend eternity with Him.
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It's never too late to return to a right walk with God. However, the more we build up in sinfulness and selfishness, the more we have to give up in order to walk that right walk with him. If, for example, you had always gotten your way by lying and dishonest practices, you have to give all of that up and learn to get by honestly. The more invested you were in dishonesty, the more obedience is going to hurt. We have to exchange our sinful ways for his righteous ways, and obedience to him. But it is always worth it, at very least at the end of our lives.
 
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Forgive me.. your name should be changed. Why? Well to God..its a lie :) Or..not.. a reminder of what you are not :)

So do you want to hear how I personally feel or what is true? Well I can go back when I was in my 20's and really blow you away with how GoD open so many doors. Part..tiny part..short version. Driving.. driver new someone at oral Roberts UNIV that I could stay with but didnt know the way. The car behind us the guy keeps pointing up. We pull over to this INFO stand .. he drives up gets out comes up ask us "didnt you see me pointing up?" We answer yes" He says..and word for word GOD as my witness "the lord told me you dont know how to get to Oral Roberts UNIV and I am to show you the way".. would you like more? I have YEARS and YEARS of them..to this day.

PLEASE... what I say now is what I think.. sorry I dont know all lol. I BELIEVE ok? That there are times we missed it...took the wrong path. Of that TIME..yes.. its gone...but...to think this GOD can not do something GREATER...would be DOUBT which one is a sin and is NOT from Him.

So.. WHERE do you think that DESIRE came from that you STILL want to do something? YOU? Its from HIM! wow.. ..nothing.. Its not dead..you didnt go so far you cant get back on that path.. really? ASK HIM..Father forgive me for BLAH BLAH BLAH.. put me back on your perfect right path. DONE! yeah ..He did it. We repent.. He forgives and cleanses you from ALL not some ALL ALL is all and thats all all means! All unrighteousness!

FAITH! Go for it.. no really .. FAITH...just what can you believe? Go for it.. TRY HIM! With out faith we can never please Him

So you and others.. hello jenniferdiana.. take HIM at HIS word.. now.. step out of the way.. just alittle bit more.. now.. now watch what your GOD your FATHER can do!

Oh.. I NEVER come here and post things I think are true ..hope are true. I only speak of what I know. And when HE shares I speak also. So you can never go to far.. from Him! The enemy is really good at lies. This is why you dont go by how you feel.. stand on HIS word. Trust Him..I DONT CARE what happen.. there is NOTHING to hard for God.. nothing is impossible with God and to bring it home.. ALL THINGS are possible to YOU that believe
 
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Forgive me.. your name should be changed. Why? Well to God..its a lie :) Or..not.. a reminder of what you are not :)

So do you want to hear how I personally feel or what is true? Well I can go back when I was in my 20's and really blow you away with how GoD open so many doors. Part..tiny part..short version. Driving.. driver new someone at oral Roberts UNIV that I could stay with but didnt know the way. The car behind us the guy keeps pointing up. We pull over to this INFO stand .. he drives up gets out comes up ask us "didnt you see me pointing up?" We answer yes" He says..and word for word GOD as my witness "the lord told me you dont know how to get to Oral Roberts UNIV and I am to show you the way".. would you like more? I have YEARS and YEARS of them..to this day.

PLEASE... what I say now is what I think.. sorry I dont know all lol. I BELIEVE ok? That there are times we missed it...took the wrong path. Of that TIME..yes.. its gone...but...to think this GOD can not do something GREATER...would be DOUBT which one is a sin and is NOT from Him.

So.. WHERE do you think that DESIRE came from that you STILL want to do something? YOU? Its from HIM! wow.. ..nothing.. Its not dead..you didnt go so far you cant get back on that path.. really? ASK HIM..Father forgive me for BLAH BLAH BLAH.. put me back on your perfect right path. DONE! yeah ..He did it. We repent.. He forgives and cleanses you from ALL not some ALL ALL is all and thats all all means! All unrighteousness!

FAITH! Go for it.. no really .. FAITH...just what can you believe? Go for it.. TRY HIM! With out faith we can never please Him

So you and others.. hello jenniferdiana.. take HIM at HIS word.. now.. step out of the way.. just alittle bit more.. now.. now watch what your GOD your FATHER can do!

Oh.. I NEVER come here and post things I think are true ..hope are true. I only speak of what I know. And when HE shares I speak also. So you can never go to far.. from Him! The enemy is really good at lies. This is why you dont go by how you feel.. stand on HIS word. Trust Him..I DONT CARE what happen.. there is NOTHING to hard for God.. nothing is impossible with God and to bring it home.. ALL THINGS are possible to YOU that believe
Aww ok. Thanks. I understand
 
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