I just feel stuck and its been going on for a while. I used to walk close with the Lord but I fell for a while and I have been trying to regain my relationship. I just feel so discouraged because of things that have happened. I re-married and now I am regretting it. Been hurt by close family members. I don't really have friends. I seem to have a difficult time getting over hurts. I seem to have a difficult time healing. I also have a difficult time accepting the things about my husband that I did not know until after we married. He painted a much different picture of himself and what our life would be then reality and I went from hurt, discouraged, disappointed to anger and resentment. I feel like I have to settle because divorce is not an option, at least not right now. I have to settle for living with someone who completely refuses to admit any wrong doings, he doesn't communicate AT ALL when it comes to important issues, yet, he tells me he does and we argue. I am tired of arguing, I am 51 this year and I have had it with immaturity. I am honestly really worn down by Christian advice that tells me that since I am the more mature Christian in the relationship that I need to humble myself. I am tired of trying to live up to "Christian" expectation. I can't. I am tired of everyone else being able to have faults and weaknesses but not me, I have to be the "better" person all the time. Well I am not! I study the word, I pray, I work toward building my relationship back up with the Lord but the anger, hurt, and resentment I feel is blocking the joy, peace and contentment I need. I realize I am stuck with this relationship right now. I truly believe my husband has some mental health issues and doesn't even see it. I am writing this because I just need help with me. I can't do anything about him or anyone else but I feel like I am doing everything I am suppose to do yet I just remain angry inside. I have changed over the past few years and I truly don't even like myself. I am miserable.
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Human relationships can be really difficult.
Sounds to me like you need some "you time" to get away. Maybe find something to do that you enjoy for awhile.
Sounds to me like you need some "you time" to get away. Maybe find something to do that you enjoy for awhile.
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faroukfarouk
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Hi; good to see you on the forums; John's Gospel is a wonderful book of the Bible to get to know well; chapters 3 and 17 are very searching.
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See if you can get away for a christian womens retreat. I did one last month and it was beneficial.
One thing we did was write down whatever was bothering us and then chucking it into the fire to be burned.
Well we all did that and guess what those things i wrote down dont bother me anymore. Actually I cant even remember what they were!
Start by choosing joy. See Hannah was upset when she didnt have a child and everyone was giving her the wrong advice. She kept praying with tears even though everyone thought she was drunk or mad. But she encouraged herself and stuck close to the Lord and chose to look up.
GOd gave her a miracle that nobody could gainsay or take away from her.
I dont know what the story is with your remarriage, i take it your new husband is a christian and you were widowed? Well of course you wouldnt know that much about your new husband since hes got years on you dont beat yourself up over it, just realise it takes time to get to know someone. Also men arent the greatest communicators. Its not like they have womens intuition and can second guess everything like us women tend to do.
One thing we did was write down whatever was bothering us and then chucking it into the fire to be burned.
Well we all did that and guess what those things i wrote down dont bother me anymore. Actually I cant even remember what they were!
Start by choosing joy. See Hannah was upset when she didnt have a child and everyone was giving her the wrong advice. She kept praying with tears even though everyone thought she was drunk or mad. But she encouraged herself and stuck close to the Lord and chose to look up.
GOd gave her a miracle that nobody could gainsay or take away from her.
I dont know what the story is with your remarriage, i take it your new husband is a christian and you were widowed? Well of course you wouldnt know that much about your new husband since hes got years on you dont beat yourself up over it, just realise it takes time to get to know someone. Also men arent the greatest communicators. Its not like they have womens intuition and can second guess everything like us women tend to do.
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lastofall
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"Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat: Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it." (Matthew 7:13-14)
"Then said one unto him, Lord, are there few that be saved? And he said unto them, Strive [struggle, agonize] to enter in at the strait gate: for many, I say unto you, will seek to enter in, and shall not be able." (Luke 13:23-24)
"..we must through much tribulation enter into the kingdom of God." (Acts 14:22)
"For unto you it is given in the behalf of Christ, not only to believe on him, but also to suffer for his sake." (Philippians 1:29)
"Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you." (John 15:20)
"In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." (John 16:33)
"Then said one unto him, Lord, are there few that be saved? And he said unto them, Strive [struggle, agonize] to enter in at the strait gate: for many, I say unto you, will seek to enter in, and shall not be able." (Luke 13:23-24)
"..we must through much tribulation enter into the kingdom of God." (Acts 14:22)
"For unto you it is given in the behalf of Christ, not only to believe on him, but also to suffer for his sake." (Philippians 1:29)
"Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you." (John 15:20)
"In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." (John 16:33)
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It doesn't sound like you were ever a real "born again" believer in Christ, Bell. There is a huge difference between following Bible teachings and trying to obey Bible verses, and actually possessing the Lord Jesus in one's heart as Saviour and Lord of one's life. This is the important difference between professing and possessing ---please see John 1; John 3; John 14 to get a brief overview of Christianity, friend.
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Thanks for your reply but if you heard my story you would never question my salvation. Also, I surrendered my life 20 years ago to full time prison ministry and served for over 15 years teaching the gospel and leading many to Christ. To God be the glory for all the good HE has done! God placed well over a 1000 women in my path to mentor and share His good news to. I have learned a lot in the process and it has drawn me much closer to Him indeed. I don't try to follow Bible versus, god's word is implanted deep in my heart, I live it out in my life because what is in you will flow out of you. I am not sure how or why you or anyone could pass that judgment because only God knows the heart. I have had some very hurtful, hard times the past few years, i made some poor choices unknowingly and as a human being we all struggle, this does not mean we are not truly "born again". I am a real person with real struggles and I truly was not seeking judgment for my own human emotions from this group but i appreciate your feedback. God bless you.
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Thanks for sharing! It is good to hear you know and trust Christ. Many people speak of God, but never mention the Lord Jesus, the Christ of God, so others cannot tell what is just religion and what is salvation and a faithful walk.
You spoke of "what is in you will flow out of you, and that is so true. I once heard the saying: "the outflow comes from the overflow", which I enjoyed.
As to prison ministry, that is needful, and I noted that Bible Truth Publishers, Addison, IL does much in that work too, and has literature one can obtain for that.
I hope that when you said you "...don't try to follow Bible verses, god's word in in my heart" you might want to re-consider that. Surely you don't truly mean that, I suppose. We need "all the counsel of God", and be "rightly dividing the Word of Truth." Look up always, dear sister!
You spoke of "what is in you will flow out of you, and that is so true. I once heard the saying: "the outflow comes from the overflow", which I enjoyed.
As to prison ministry, that is needful, and I noted that Bible Truth Publishers, Addison, IL does much in that work too, and has literature one can obtain for that.
I hope that when you said you "...don't try to follow Bible verses, god's word in in my heart" you might want to re-consider that. Surely you don't truly mean that, I suppose. We need "all the counsel of God", and be "rightly dividing the Word of Truth." Look up always, dear sister!
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It is ab out a relationship with Jesus Christ not a Bible verse. The Pharasee's held to the law and merely followed versus but most did not have it in their hearts. There is a difference, I honor God in my life as best I can but I honor Him according to His entire word not merely picking and choosing a few versus here and there. The Bible is a story, our history...HIS-Tory and we should always read it in context. My comment was referring to your comment about a different between obeying God's word and following versus.
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