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Thanks for the extra info. What did the counselors say about the staying out late, drinking, and lying? Those are some serious issues, and I can see why you were upset. Then again, if your reaction was to punch walls and throw things, that wouldn't be right either. I'm not saying you did that. If all you did was withdraw (which is understandable), and make the comments you wrote above, I find your response reasonable considering the circumstances.
I would caution you against saying "you need to grow up," as that often just escalates things and makes the argument even more tense.
Did the counselors have any suggestions for working on rebuilding trust? Is your wife interested in working on your marriage? How long were you married? Is the staying out late something she always did, or something new? You don't have to answer these questions, but I do hope the counselors asked them too.
Prayers that your marriage is strengthened.
I don't know, some woman need to told point blank to hear and receive. Once my husband told me "the world did not revolve around me" and it hurt but then I realized I did think the world revolved around me Once he told me I was "dispensable at work and could easily be replaced".. this hurt too, but it woke me up to the reality that I was not God's gift to the workplace. I was extremely self-centered, and haulty, and would have never realized it if he didn't make these statements.
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