Why are non-Christians allowed in Singles group?

Servant68 · Aug 27, 2016

I'm not complaining or condemning or judging. Just curious as to the reasoning. I am no theological expert, but I know that every church I've gone to has held that non-believers are not to be married ("yoked") with believers.

So, when a Christian site hosts a forum for single people and allows non-Christians to mingle with and potentially develop relationships with Christians, it seems to me that they are actually promoting the practice of Christians and non-Christians becoming unequally yoked.

Or am I way off base?

I see value in Christians and non-Christians interacting with each other in a spirit of openness and sharing. I see value in witnessing to others from different theological viewpoints and having open discussions.

But this is a forum for people based solely on their relationship status and I don't understand why a site that is seemingly based on a belief system that discourages such relationships would then create an atmosphere that seemingly encourages such relationships.

Don't get me wrong. If I was upset about it and felt that strongly about it, then I wouldn't be here. And I don't look down upon non-believers as unwashed scum who shouldn't be allowed to speak to me.

I have seen some truly great and rewarding discussions take place here because of the different belief systems allowed.

I've just always wondered about the whole believers and non-believers being unequally yoked thing and how that works with a singles forum on a Christian site...

Gnarwhal · Aug 27, 2016

Servant68 said:
I'm not complaining or condemning or judging. Just curious as to the reasoning. I am no theological expert, but I know that every church I've gone to has held that non-believers are not to be married ("yoked") with believers.

So, when a Christian site hosts a forum for single people and allows non-Christians to mingle with and potentially develop relationships with Christians, it seems to me that they are actually promoting the practice of Christians and non-Christians becoming unequally yoked.

Or am I way off base?

I see value in Christians and non-Christians interacting with each other in a spirit of openness and sharing. I see value in witnessing to others from different theological viewpoints and having open discussions.

But this is a forum for people based solely on their relationship status and I don't understand why a site that is seemingly based on a belief system that discourages such relationships would then create an atmosphere that seemingly encourages such relationships.

Don't get me wrong. If I was upset about it and felt that strongly about it, then I wouldn't be here. And I don't look down upon non-believers as unwashed scum who shouldn't be allowed to speak to me.

I have seen some truly great and rewarding discussions take place here because of the different belief systems allowed.

I've just always wondered about the whole believers and non-believers being unequally yoked thing and how that works with a singles forum on a Christian site...

Well, Singles isn't supposed to be thought of as a dating site. It's just a place where we can all interact. There are several sections of the forum that permit non-Christians to engage with the group.

I would bet 95% of us on here aren't here because we're trying to find someone to date, we're all just living the single life and connecting with other people who do the same.

Sketcher · Aug 27, 2016

If the Singles forum was actually a dating service, then I could see the logic behind banning them. It isn't.

Also, I've been on this forum way too long. I've seen members get together over the years. I can't recall any relationships that were between a member who claimed to be a believer and a member who claimed to be an unbeliever in all that time. Now, there were a couple relationships that involved one or more liberal believers that turned out to be very bad, but that's a different issue.

Servant68 · Aug 27, 2016

Darth Bagel said:
Well, Singles isn't supposed to be thought of as a dating site. It's just a place where we can all interact. There are several sections of the forum that permit non-Christians to engage with the group.

I would bet 95% of us on here aren't here because we're trying to find someone to date, we're all just living the single life and connecting with other people who do the same.

I totally agree with your assertion that it isn't a dating site. I've stated elsewhere here that I was surprised at how many people treated it as such. It was the impression that so many here treated it as a vehicle for dating that first raised my curiosity.

Gnarwhal · Aug 27, 2016

Servant68 said:
I totally agree with your assertion that it isn't a dating site. I've stated elsewhere here that I was surprised at how many people treated it as such. It was the impression that so many here treated it as a vehicle for dating that first raised my curiosity.

Yeah, there's been quite a few folks who've made that mistake over the years. It doesn't help anything that there have been a few people who have connected on here, met up in real life, and ended up getting hitched. Getting a bunch of single folk into one place is bound to create some delusions that we're all "ready to mingle".

Socktastic · Aug 27, 2016

There are common "issues", as it were, that plague singles regardless of faith. Technically Singles is a place for the single to interact, perhaps get faith based/not so faith based advice, and just generally interact.

You'll notice people tend to advise against inter-faith dating here, or at least they used to. Singles is not a dating service and, whilst people do connect and things may happen, it's no different to interacting with others on a daily basis.

I am sure there have been one or two meetings which went belly up due to belief clashes, but that happens. You live, you learn, and sometimes people even let you forget about it.

DawnStar · Aug 27, 2016

Because being a Christian is not a rule here. No other explanation needed.

EyesOfKohl · Aug 27, 2016

A few of us non-Christians have been posting here for years. Some of us are ex-Christians overtime who have built up friends here and enjoy being part of the Singles community, thus why we continue to come here.

and one also must remember, this isn't a dating site

Eannie Soul · Aug 27, 2016

Non-Christians are allowed to be in Single Groups because there are many cases of divorce due to lack of trust and mostly love so having non-Christians to actually be in this single group is to understand the true meaning of marriage under God's Guidance.

Servant68 · Aug 27, 2016

Eannie Soul said:
Non-Christians are allowed to be in Single Groups because there are many cases of divorce due to lack of trust and mostly love so having non-Christians to actually be in this single group is to understand the true meaning of marriage under God's Guidance.

I have read and re-read that post numerous times and I still don't understand what you were trying to say... Would you be so kind as to try and articulate more fully the meaning of your post?

Eannie Soul · Aug 27, 2016

there are numerous cases of separation of marriages.
there are numerous cases of adultery.
My conclusion is that God is missing from their marriage.
No offense but this might happen a lot to people who rejected God or never believed that God exist.
Having a Non-Christian join the Single Group is to allow Christians ......................... i am definitely not talking about fixing ................ but give spiritual advice and example on how they could find an healthy relationship with God first before finding what they hoped for?

Cearbhall · Aug 27, 2016

Servant68 said:
I'm not complaining or condemning or judging. Just curious as to the reasoning. I am no theological expert, but I know that every church I've gone to has held that non-believers are not to be married ("yoked") with believers.

So, when a Christian site hosts a forum for single people and allows non-Christians to mingle with and potentially develop relationships with Christians, it seems to me that they are actually promoting the practice of Christians and non-Christians becoming unequally yoked.

This board is explicitly not supposed to be a dating site, so I don't think it's an issue. I have zero interest in starting a relationship on a forums.

MehGuy · Aug 27, 2016

This isn't a dating site in theory. Although I've had a few Christian women want to actually meet me up in real life. So I guess I am a dangerous wolf among sheep, lol.

GQ Chris · Aug 27, 2016

MehGuy said:
This isn't a dating site in theory. Although I've had a few Christian women want to actually meet me up in real life. So I guess I am a dangerous wolf among sheep, lol.

All that weight lifting is finally paying off huh ? lol

alsughasoughaiuyfygh · Aug 27, 2016

MehGuy · Aug 27, 2016

GQ Chris said:
All that weight lifting is finally paying off huh ? lol

No, lol.

There was actually one girl I was tempted to meet, we had so much in common spirituality and mentally. Although I ended up thinking she might potentially be a little unhinged. Sometimes I regret not meeting her, lol.

There are a certain segment of Christians I really understand emotionally, so I'm not this total heathen outsider. Lol. We'd probably be more equally yoked than you'd think.

MehGuy · Aug 27, 2016

Wayholka said:
Now, Skeeter, they ain't hurtin' nobody!

Yeah.. I ain't hurtin nobody..

kittysbecute · Aug 27, 2016

It's not a dating site.

ReesePiece23 · Aug 27, 2016

Dating sites SHOULD be like this though. It's much better to have a medium platform to go from, rather than jump straight in with IM's to nobody.

It's how it would be in real life.

MehGuy · Aug 27, 2016

ReesePiece23 said:
Dating sites SHOULD be like this though. It's much better to have a medium platform to go from, rather than jump straight in with IM's to nobody.

It's how it would be in real life.

Yeah, a forum is much better than a traditional dating site for meeting someone IMO.

Only problem is we by and large live so far away from each other.

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