I have a prayer request for a friend of mine. Long story short, she used to be a Christian (she was the girl who never seemed to do anything wrong, and always had advice when others were in spiritual trouble) but she is now going through some hard times. She is doubting and avoiding God, but feeling really guilty about it.
She came to me a couple months ago to tell me a lot of things about her that she was sure I would "hate" her for, none of which I do. First off, she is anorexic and knows she needs help, but refuses to get any. Second, she started going out to bars and drinking even though she feels it's wrong of her. Third, she was so desperate for someone to love her that she started going out with a non-christian twice her age. He has been using her because he knows she's lonely. He is verbally abusive and has tried to have sex with her even though she says not to. Unfortunately, when she drinks she can't really defend herself against his advances and she's afraid that she's been sleeping with him and doesn't remember it. Basically, she's beating herself up for doing all the things she has been taught are wrong, but she won't talk to anyone except me about them. I told her I would go with her to get counseling from my pastor and his wife, but she doesn't want to yet (even though she said she needs it).
What my prayer request is, other than praying for her situation, is that she would open her heart to God. I have invited her to church, but she hasn't come yet. Today I took several cds of sermons from my church to her (they are all so relevent for her life) and invited her again to church this Sunday. We used to go to the same church, and we both left around the same time. Neither of us felt like the church we were in was very relevent for us, but I found a new church which helped to lift me back up. I know it would help her a lot if I could just get her to come.
The advice I need is this. She is very anti-social. When we were growing up, I could never get her to go places or do things with me because she was so anti-social. She always stayed home (and never invited anybody over). She is still like that. When I invite her to church, or out to eat, or anything to get her to hang out with me (note: we really are good friends, it almost sounds like I'm pathetic and she's making up excuses so she doesn't have to hang out with me, but that's not the case) she makes up excuses like she always has "Oh, I have so much homework" or "I told my grandparents I was going to visit them" or anything. They are all very shallow excuses and I can see right through them, but can't do anything about it.
Given her personality, what kind of things can I do to convince her to get out of her house (and go to church, college group or whatever)? I know that if i can get her to hang out with Christians again, she would at least be held more accountable for her actions. (We don't go out drinking, and we don't sleep around with each other, which is what she is getting from her non-Christian friends.) The other thing is this, I was really shocked when she told me she was going out to bars a few nights a week. I couldn't even get her to go to the movies with me, but she managed to get over her anti-social behavior for this guy she's dating! How can I get that same response from her? I know there is a Godly, Christian man waiting for her, who will respect her, but she'll never find him if she stays with this loser.
Anyway, sorry this was so long. I just really, really want God to work in her heart the next couple days so she'll wake up on Sunday morning and decide that she will come to church.
She came to me a couple months ago to tell me a lot of things about her that she was sure I would "hate" her for, none of which I do. First off, she is anorexic and knows she needs help, but refuses to get any. Second, she started going out to bars and drinking even though she feels it's wrong of her. Third, she was so desperate for someone to love her that she started going out with a non-christian twice her age. He has been using her because he knows she's lonely. He is verbally abusive and has tried to have sex with her even though she says not to. Unfortunately, when she drinks she can't really defend herself against his advances and she's afraid that she's been sleeping with him and doesn't remember it. Basically, she's beating herself up for doing all the things she has been taught are wrong, but she won't talk to anyone except me about them. I told her I would go with her to get counseling from my pastor and his wife, but she doesn't want to yet (even though she said she needs it).
What my prayer request is, other than praying for her situation, is that she would open her heart to God. I have invited her to church, but she hasn't come yet. Today I took several cds of sermons from my church to her (they are all so relevent for her life) and invited her again to church this Sunday. We used to go to the same church, and we both left around the same time. Neither of us felt like the church we were in was very relevent for us, but I found a new church which helped to lift me back up. I know it would help her a lot if I could just get her to come.
The advice I need is this. She is very anti-social. When we were growing up, I could never get her to go places or do things with me because she was so anti-social. She always stayed home (and never invited anybody over). She is still like that. When I invite her to church, or out to eat, or anything to get her to hang out with me (note: we really are good friends, it almost sounds like I'm pathetic and she's making up excuses so she doesn't have to hang out with me, but that's not the case) she makes up excuses like she always has "Oh, I have so much homework" or "I told my grandparents I was going to visit them" or anything. They are all very shallow excuses and I can see right through them, but can't do anything about it.
Given her personality, what kind of things can I do to convince her to get out of her house (and go to church, college group or whatever)? I know that if i can get her to hang out with Christians again, she would at least be held more accountable for her actions. (We don't go out drinking, and we don't sleep around with each other, which is what she is getting from her non-Christian friends.) The other thing is this, I was really shocked when she told me she was going out to bars a few nights a week. I couldn't even get her to go to the movies with me, but she managed to get over her anti-social behavior for this guy she's dating! How can I get that same response from her? I know there is a Godly, Christian man waiting for her, who will respect her, but she'll never find him if she stays with this loser.
Anyway, sorry this was so long. I just really, really want God to work in her heart the next couple days so she'll wake up on Sunday morning and decide that she will come to church.