Hello everyone, I want to let you all know that I bought a motor home and it's in my name. Thanks for all the help
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I'm slowly being driven crazy.
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Call the police. You are a victim of domestic abuse. They can get you out and help keep you out.
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God is our source of everything material, and everything belongs to him.
You and your life, are more important and have more worth and value to God than food, clothes, birds or else, because
only you are created in the image of God. Therefore, God will provide.
If God commanded us to work, would he not provide us with a job, not just because he loves us, but also because he has commanded us to work? Of course he would! Otherwise, we will not be able to do, what he has commanded us.
God created us, and designed us to be with needs. Our needs are his idea. Therefore, he has
promised to take care of us.
God feeds the birds, but he does not place worms in their nests.
God gives you food, but you have to put it in your mouth.
God will provide you with clothes, but you have to dress yourself.
The fruit is on the tree, but it will not fall into your mouth, you have to stretch your hand, and
take it.
God cursed the ground, because of Adam's sin, so the financial curse came to man. But Jesus
took the curse of the Law which is poverty for us, on the cross, and gave us his blessing. He
took our curse, and gave us his blessing. Jesus came to preach the Gospel first to the poor!
Genesis 1:27,29, Psalm 128, Psalm 37:19, Psalm 118:25, Psalm 103:5, Matthew 6:3,4,11,25-
34, 1 Timothy 6:8-10,17-19, Matthew 7:9,10,11, Ephessians 4:28, Mark 8:2,3,17-21, Psalm
25:13, Psalm 68, Matthew 15:32-38, Psalm 111:5, Psalm 112:3, Deuteronomy 10:18, Psalm
84:11, Psalm 127:1,2, Psalm 128, Proverbs 21:26, Proverbs 31:20, Acts 20:34, Luke 3:11,
14:12, Nehemiah 9:25, 17-20, Psalm 68:6,10, 1 Peter 5:7, Psalm 34:9,10, Psalm 33:19,
Psalm 37:19, 25,26, Psalm 104:27, Psalm 127, Psalm 81:16, Psalm 111:5, Psalm 112:3, 5, 9,
Galathians 6:6-10
You and your life, are more important and have more worth and value to God than food, clothes, birds or else, because
only you are created in the image of God. Therefore, God will provide.
If God commanded us to work, would he not provide us with a job, not just because he loves us, but also because he has commanded us to work? Of course he would! Otherwise, we will not be able to do, what he has commanded us.
God created us, and designed us to be with needs. Our needs are his idea. Therefore, he has
promised to take care of us.
God feeds the birds, but he does not place worms in their nests.
God gives you food, but you have to put it in your mouth.
God will provide you with clothes, but you have to dress yourself.
The fruit is on the tree, but it will not fall into your mouth, you have to stretch your hand, and
take it.
God cursed the ground, because of Adam's sin, so the financial curse came to man. But Jesus
took the curse of the Law which is poverty for us, on the cross, and gave us his blessing. He
took our curse, and gave us his blessing. Jesus came to preach the Gospel first to the poor!
Genesis 1:27,29, Psalm 128, Psalm 37:19, Psalm 118:25, Psalm 103:5, Matthew 6:3,4,11,25-
34, 1 Timothy 6:8-10,17-19, Matthew 7:9,10,11, Ephessians 4:28, Mark 8:2,3,17-21, Psalm
25:13, Psalm 68, Matthew 15:32-38, Psalm 111:5, Psalm 112:3, Deuteronomy 10:18, Psalm
84:11, Psalm 127:1,2, Psalm 128, Proverbs 21:26, Proverbs 31:20, Acts 20:34, Luke 3:11,
14:12, Nehemiah 9:25, 17-20, Psalm 68:6,10, 1 Peter 5:7, Psalm 34:9,10, Psalm 33:19,
Psalm 37:19, 25,26, Psalm 104:27, Psalm 127, Psalm 81:16, Psalm 111:5, Psalm 112:3, 5, 9,
Galathians 6:6-10
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They do love me. What you read here is just the reasons I need to leave-it's a brief account of all the problems I've been having recently. It doesn't cover 24 years of relationship with my parents and all the good memories I have of them. People are both good and bad, therefore, relationships are the same. Anybody can write an account of all the wrongs done to them by somebody in a moment of anger, they can do the same when they are on good terms, completely forgetting all the past transgressions and painting a lovely picture. But neither is an accurate or whole picture. Ive heard horror stories about my dads childhood from him and his siblings, but on mothers day, does he remember how his mom beat him with a 2 by 4, or does he reminisce about the time she stayed up all night helping him write his paper? Of course he remembers and highlights what a lovely mother she was. He wrote an article about her that made her look like a saint-talking about how hard she worked for her family, how caring she was, how much she sacrificed for her children, the good values she instilled in them. Yet, we know that they actually had a very strained relationship, he felt unloved, she made him eat food scraps off the floor, and physically abused him. But is that mentioned in the mothers day article? Of course not, it's edited out-the purpose of the article was to praise his mother and show thanks, not to portray her accurately in good moments and bad. So which was she, a doting mother or a monster? Probably both. My grandpa died a few days ago, and did the obituary mention how he used to kick my dad every time he walked past him or looked at him funny, how he was an alcoholic who used to beat his wife? No, they talk about how he was a marine and a loving father and told great stories. when people want to remember good times, they will remember them and ignore the bad. If they want to make a case for how they've been mistreated, they will present that evidence. And that's what I've done here-I am very frustrated at the moment, and it can be confusing when one moment you are fighting with your parents and ready to leave, and the next minute they are having a pleasant conversation with you and things have cooled down. You might forget your vows to leave and all the things theyve done to you. And in moments of anger, you may forget all the great times you had together and what they did for you. People are complex, multilayered, and hard to understand. There's no way I could accurately describe our entire relationship in one post. The human brain even finds it hard to compute that people can be both friend and foe-we try to make sense out of inconsistent behavior, try to look for some kind of pattern and logic that all too often does not exist. People are nasty when theyre angry and they can be wonderful when theyre in a good mood. All I can do is present the problems I've been having. Dynamics between two imperfect human beings is always riddled with difficulty. I find people fascinating and infuriating at the same time.
So, the truth is, now that I have this motor home, I can leave anytime I want. And that's the important thing, that I'm not stuck here, I have freedom. But do I want to go? On one hand, I really don't think it's entirely healthy staying here. For me or my son. I'm ready to move on. On the other hand, where would I go? Where would I get money? I'd need a job, and somebody would have to watch my son. I don't have money to pay anybody. And that's OK to ride off into the sunset in the short term, what would happen in the long term? I still want to go to college and get my psychology degree. But would my dad pay for that if I moved out? Probably not. I could go back to my old dreams of selling jewelry or raising birds and scrape up enough money to pay for basic needs, but where do I really see myself years from now? I'm just not even sure anymore. I feel like there has been so much pressure and outside influence applied to me that I just don't even know what I really want. I've had to change my plans so often.
The situation is a little different now. My dad is going to Alaska for three months today. My brother and his wife are moving back into town and my dad is going to be building an apartment building for them when he gets back. I'll be able to have the downstairs apartment. My brother and I could do some gardening together and raise birds again. But the important thing is I can leave if I want. I can always move to Texas and park my motor home on my land.
So nows the time I need to come to a decision... I can't keep doing what I've been doing, that's a given. But do I stick around, buy a lock for my motorhome, try to distance myself from them a bit and just live in the motor home and wait for my apartment to be built, then, again, try to distance myself and go to college trying my best to avoid them, or do I just ride off into the sunset without a dime in my pocket, see how far a tank of gas will get me and wing it? I could always opt to do that, but right now I have an opportunity to get a college degree.
I'm thinking that I need to take some time to think. I'm thinking that I'm going to get away for a while and consider my options, go for a road trip and try to make some money on the way for gas, and just collect my thoughts before I decide what to do. If things are going well, I might just stay gone.
So, the truth is, now that I have this motor home, I can leave anytime I want. And that's the important thing, that I'm not stuck here, I have freedom. But do I want to go? On one hand, I really don't think it's entirely healthy staying here. For me or my son. I'm ready to move on. On the other hand, where would I go? Where would I get money? I'd need a job, and somebody would have to watch my son. I don't have money to pay anybody. And that's OK to ride off into the sunset in the short term, what would happen in the long term? I still want to go to college and get my psychology degree. But would my dad pay for that if I moved out? Probably not. I could go back to my old dreams of selling jewelry or raising birds and scrape up enough money to pay for basic needs, but where do I really see myself years from now? I'm just not even sure anymore. I feel like there has been so much pressure and outside influence applied to me that I just don't even know what I really want. I've had to change my plans so often.
The situation is a little different now. My dad is going to Alaska for three months today. My brother and his wife are moving back into town and my dad is going to be building an apartment building for them when he gets back. I'll be able to have the downstairs apartment. My brother and I could do some gardening together and raise birds again. But the important thing is I can leave if I want. I can always move to Texas and park my motor home on my land.
So nows the time I need to come to a decision... I can't keep doing what I've been doing, that's a given. But do I stick around, buy a lock for my motorhome, try to distance myself from them a bit and just live in the motor home and wait for my apartment to be built, then, again, try to distance myself and go to college trying my best to avoid them, or do I just ride off into the sunset without a dime in my pocket, see how far a tank of gas will get me and wing it? I could always opt to do that, but right now I have an opportunity to get a college degree.
I'm thinking that I need to take some time to think. I'm thinking that I'm going to get away for a while and consider my options, go for a road trip and try to make some money on the way for gas, and just collect my thoughts before I decide what to do. If things are going well, I might just stay gone.
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I just want to encourage you because..I know the feeling. But God says to ask him for his daily bread, not bread for ten years.
The only thing you need to concern yourself is today, not tomorrow. If you take each day as a new day, and ask the Lord to guide you each day, soon you will see that tomorrows take care of themselves.
The only thing you need to concern yourself is today, not tomorrow. If you take each day as a new day, and ask the Lord to guide you each day, soon you will see that tomorrows take care of themselves.
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You know when God gave Sarah (Abraham's wife) the promise of a child she laughed. It seemed so impossible to her. No matter where you find your self know God's promises are often like the ones Sarah laughed at, they seem impossible.
What ever impossibilities you face in life know God has a promise for you. Seek Him for that promise.
What ever impossibilities you face in life know God has a promise for you. Seek Him for that promise.
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I'm curious to know how you and your son are doing now.
Have you ever explored JobCorps or AmeriCorps to see if they might be able to help you obtain skills to build a career?
http://www.jobcorps.gov/home.aspx
http://www.nationalservice.gov/programs/americorps
If you're still hoping to pursue a college education, you may qualify for considerable financial aid since you're over the age of 24, have a child, and (at least at the time of the OP) are not fully employed. When you're under 24 and do not have any dependents yourself, you're considered to be a dependent of your parents' for federal student aid purposes, which means that their income and assets are factored in when determining the amount you'll receive. You're now considered to be an independent, which is significantly advantageous for several reasons. Many four-year colleges have apartments or other housing for graduate students and older undergrads with children, and some even have on-campus daycare centers. A growing number of established universities (as opposed to exclusively online for-profit schools) also offer online classes to enable students who aren't close to campus to earn their degree.
https://studentaid.ed.gov/sa/types/grants-scholarships/pell
Have you ever explored JobCorps or AmeriCorps to see if they might be able to help you obtain skills to build a career?
http://www.jobcorps.gov/home.aspx
http://www.nationalservice.gov/programs/americorps
If you're still hoping to pursue a college education, you may qualify for considerable financial aid since you're over the age of 24, have a child, and (at least at the time of the OP) are not fully employed. When you're under 24 and do not have any dependents yourself, you're considered to be a dependent of your parents' for federal student aid purposes, which means that their income and assets are factored in when determining the amount you'll receive. You're now considered to be an independent, which is significantly advantageous for several reasons. Many four-year colleges have apartments or other housing for graduate students and older undergrads with children, and some even have on-campus daycare centers. A growing number of established universities (as opposed to exclusively online for-profit schools) also offer online classes to enable students who aren't close to campus to earn their degree.
https://studentaid.ed.gov/sa/types/grants-scholarships/pell
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Thanks. Ill check it out.
Well, shortly after starting this thread, I was intending to start living in the motorhome, and sell jewelry to male money, but then I got strep throat and needed to stay home and recover. After that we left and parked in town to camp there. I stayed one full day and then came home to visit because my brothers family was visiting us, and after they left, we came down with the flu and stayed home another 2 weeks. Now its cold, winter is here, and it gets really cold in montana. Since I have no way to make money because I was selling jewelry to people outside, now nobody will be outside and its too cold to stay in a motor home. I have to stay connected to electricity and try using a heater and see if it keeps it warm enough, and that means staying in my parents yard... my dad got home from alaska yesterday. My brother and sister in law are apparently planning to move here this year, and my dad says he will have built a two apartment house for us all in the backyard by november, but, im not sure if i should believe any of this.
So today I guess im just going to try to go out to the motor home and see if it stays warm enough to move in there.
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Montana?
Alaska? They sound really cold! You mentioned going to Texas, but I gather you didnt go there.
Has construction started on the apartment yet, like are foundations being laid?
It wont be long till November.
I dont know when term starts for you but look at enrolling before applications close and ask God for wisdom and guidance in this area. Often we overthink things when all we really need to do is trust God for each day.
Sometimes He wont tell us as He does keeps things secret hoping we will seek Him first to find out but when He does give us a vision be sure to write it down so that everyone knows.
Sometimes it can take years for things to come to pass that is why it often takes exercising faith to strengthen us. If your dad has promised you a nice warm apartment by November hold him to that promise!
Alaska? They sound really cold! You mentioned going to Texas, but I gather you didnt go there.
Has construction started on the apartment yet, like are foundations being laid?
It wont be long till November.
I dont know when term starts for you but look at enrolling before applications close and ask God for wisdom and guidance in this area. Often we overthink things when all we really need to do is trust God for each day.
Sometimes He wont tell us as He does keeps things secret hoping we will seek Him first to find out but when He does give us a vision be sure to write it down so that everyone knows.
Sometimes it can take years for things to come to pass that is why it often takes exercising faith to strengthen us. If your dad has promised you a nice warm apartment by November hold him to that promise!
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Wow what a crazy situation..my parents were helicopter parents but not that bad... Dont let your parents restrict you any longer...youre grown and you can make a life of your own and you dont need their permission. The best thing you can do is start off slow and leave your parents.
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I'll be blunt. Forget your parents. You can't let them control you with hollow excuses. If your mother (God forbid) really tries to kill herself if you leave then that is not your problem. Shes in control of her life and answers to God if she does that. As they will answer for swearing at you, hurting you and manipulating you. Sorry if that sounds blunt like I said. My mom for a LONG time did the same thing about suicide. It was just a fake threat to control me.
Being a homeschooler myself, I seen MANY parents who lived far from the city and would over bubble their kids. Some would grow up paranoid of the world and never marry. Others wouldn't marry because they were beyond picky about who to marry (or their parent told them who to marry). Or in many cases they rebelled against the parents and God as adults.
My advice is move out. Your main responsibility right now is your child. Don't worry if the call child services. Its not like they show up and take your kid. There has to be proof. Also if they file false accusations they can get in big trouble.
Being a homeschooler myself, I seen MANY parents who lived far from the city and would over bubble their kids. Some would grow up paranoid of the world and never marry. Others wouldn't marry because they were beyond picky about who to marry (or their parent told them who to marry). Or in many cases they rebelled against the parents and God as adults.
My advice is move out. Your main responsibility right now is your child. Don't worry if the call child services. Its not like they show up and take your kid. There has to be proof. Also if they file false accusations they can get in big trouble.
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As much as I really want to believe its just that simple, its unfortunately not. Where would I go? I have less than $40 to my name. The only place I could go is Texas, because I own land there, but getting my motor home there is another issue. I cant pay for the gas it would take to get there. What happens when I run out of gas? It gets cold in the winter and we would freeze in the motor home without a heater.
I cant pay for childcare to get a job, and I dont have any place else to stay.
So unless somebody can come up with some practical solutions and solve these predicaments, Im afraid I dont have any choices. Ive already talked to a counselor and a life coach about it.
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I hear you there. Especially in todays economy. My wife and I live at my parents house and getting out is not easy. Wish there was an easy solution.
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You're welcome.
Many people have found success with selling their jewelry online on sites like Etsy, or even directly through their social media pages like Instagram and Twitter with payments made via PayPal. Perhaps that's something you could do as well since selling it in person isn't a viable option.
I just looked up information about the University of Montana and saw that they have a 92.7% acceptance rate. Chances are extremely high you could get in, and receive substantial financial aid if you apply by the priority deadline.
https://admissions.umt.edu/admissions/deadlines.php
I understand experiencing setbacks due to health. I've had serious endocrine problems, the primary one being Addison's Disease, the majority of my life, and my body is kind like a human sponge picking up every illness that is around me. My immune system is incompetent. It's the first week of the autumn quarter at my college, and I already had to stay off campus a couple of days to recuperate. My professors have been very understanding and accommodating, both this year and last. I missed the last two weeks of my summer internship, which I enthusiastically loved, due to becoming ill. The executive who'd become my mentor called me when I was in the hospital and promised he was going to set up something for me that would definitely lift my spirits and make sure my talents were put to use. And he did. One of his former colleagues / friends hired me, at his recommendation, for a job this year that is propelling me closer to the career I want to have once I graduate. There are a lot of toxic and negative people who will belittle you and make you feel that your ambitions are impossible, but there are also so many positive people who will see your worth and be willing to help you make them possible. I hope you can find people who will do just that for you.
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Oh gosh, mine too. I get sick like every month. Lately i havent been getting sick as often and I seem to be able to handle better than when I was younger, so maybe im growing out of it.You're welcome.
Many people have found success with selling their jewelry online on sites like Etsy, or even directly through their social media pages like Instagram and Twitter with payments made via PayPal. Perhaps that's something you could do as well since selling it in person isn't a viable option.
I just looked up information about the University of Montana and saw that they have a 92.7% acceptance rate. Chances are extremely high you could get in, and receive substantial financial aid if you apply by the priority deadline.
https://admissions.umt.edu/admissions/deadlines.php
I understand experiencing setbacks due to health. I've had serious endocrine problems, the primary one being Addison's Disease, the majority of my life, and my body is kind like a human sponge picking up every illness that is around me. My immune system is incompetent. It's the first week of the autumn quarter at my college, and I already had to stay off campus a couple of days to recuperate. My professors have been very understanding and accommodating, both this year and last. I missed the last two weeks of my summer internship, which I enthusiastically loved, due to becoming ill. The executive who'd become my mentor called me when I was in the hospital and promised he was going to set up something for me that would definitely lift my spirits and make sure my talents were put to use. And he did. One of his former colleagues / friends hired me, at his recommendation, for a job this year that is propelling me closer to the career I want to have once I graduate. There are a lot of toxic and negative people who will belittle you and make you feel that your ambitions are impossible, but there are also so many positive people who will see your worth and be willing to help you make them possible. I hope you can find people who will do just that for you.
I applied to the Montana State University, but I didnt have the $40 fee to pay for the application, so...
I have tried selling on Etsy before and made less than $100 a month there, and usually nothing.
I feel really stuck right now.
I was planning to go move in to my motor home and spend the year there until the house was built, but my dad said I cant use electricity because its too expensive. And i cant do that because its freezing in the winter here.
So I thought I would just forget about moving out for a while and just distract myself by working on my game that Im making. But the internet here hasnt worked for months, and my dad finally found out it was because I had dropbox installed, so he uninstalled it from my laptop. Well that has all my files on it, so I cant work on my game without it, and the internet wont work with it...
I have a friend who is in a similar situation to mine. She is planning to move out and was talking about going to Texas with me and being roomates, live on my land in my motor home there. She is working several jobs but only has $30 and so do I. We dont have enough money for the gas to get there and if we cant make it there theres no way for us to make money in the winter...
Im not sure what to do because I really just want to get out. There is a campsite where I could park and hook up to electricity, but I dont have enough money for food and no way to make new money.
I applied for assistance from Love INC today.
I just feel like I really have no way out and my life seems really pointless right now.
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