Hey Everyone,
This is my first post so bear with me.
My fiancee and I are having a few issues with life and would love to get some advice and hear other peoples experiences!
In order to explain i will write two paragraphs, the problems i am facing and the problems by fiancee is facing.
ME
For the last three years i have been doing a degree in Theology, alongside this i have been running a youth ministry at my church as a vulunteer, which takes about 15-20 hours work a week. I finished my degree 2 weeks ago and have now found myself in massive limbo. Over the past year the church has been talking to me about possibly paying me once i had finished. I am passionate about youth work and feel that this is what i want to do for the rest of my life. Sadly, a week before finishing the degree the church leaders met with me and told they wouldn't be paying me, but would love me to stay and carry on doing what i am doing. This causes a huge dilemma for me, in 7 weeks time i am getting married and cannot provide financially. Also, youth ministry is what brings me life and the thought of having to waste 40 hours of my week working and then in my spare time doing what i love quite honest makes me feel ill.
My Fiancee (Abbie)
Abbie finished her degree a year ago (she got a 1st and the highest grade ever at her college) and has been working a job which treats her poorly and is not her passion. The church we are a part of have not invested into her at all. She is the most lovely, kind and intelligent person. She has pursued people and has received nothing back. She has been in a kind of deep sadness for a year a now.
Abbie and me find ourselves feeling depressed and low every day. We do not feel honoured, blessed or loved by our church. We love our church, we love Jesus and we love doing our passion which is working with young people. But we feel so out of place and so dishonoured, people want us to stay for free but offer nothing to help us live or support us personally... in 7 weeks time we need a place to live, but can't get one because i am yet to have a full time job, but i am looking frantically and praying God will help us. The only reason we would have loved to have been paid by our church is so we can truly be released serve young people. But we will not be able to give our best in our current circumstances. It kind of feels like we are not in community that values us.
We hate moaning, and most of the time we are the most happy people, but we are truly struggling... and the more i think about it: for good reasons.
What do we do? Has anyone gone through anything similar?
This is my first post so bear with me.
My fiancee and I are having a few issues with life and would love to get some advice and hear other peoples experiences!
In order to explain i will write two paragraphs, the problems i am facing and the problems by fiancee is facing.
ME
For the last three years i have been doing a degree in Theology, alongside this i have been running a youth ministry at my church as a vulunteer, which takes about 15-20 hours work a week. I finished my degree 2 weeks ago and have now found myself in massive limbo. Over the past year the church has been talking to me about possibly paying me once i had finished. I am passionate about youth work and feel that this is what i want to do for the rest of my life. Sadly, a week before finishing the degree the church leaders met with me and told they wouldn't be paying me, but would love me to stay and carry on doing what i am doing. This causes a huge dilemma for me, in 7 weeks time i am getting married and cannot provide financially. Also, youth ministry is what brings me life and the thought of having to waste 40 hours of my week working and then in my spare time doing what i love quite honest makes me feel ill.
My Fiancee (Abbie)
Abbie finished her degree a year ago (she got a 1st and the highest grade ever at her college) and has been working a job which treats her poorly and is not her passion. The church we are a part of have not invested into her at all. She is the most lovely, kind and intelligent person. She has pursued people and has received nothing back. She has been in a kind of deep sadness for a year a now.
Abbie and me find ourselves feeling depressed and low every day. We do not feel honoured, blessed or loved by our church. We love our church, we love Jesus and we love doing our passion which is working with young people. But we feel so out of place and so dishonoured, people want us to stay for free but offer nothing to help us live or support us personally... in 7 weeks time we need a place to live, but can't get one because i am yet to have a full time job, but i am looking frantically and praying God will help us. The only reason we would have loved to have been paid by our church is so we can truly be released serve young people. But we will not be able to give our best in our current circumstances. It kind of feels like we are not in community that values us.
We hate moaning, and most of the time we are the most happy people, but we are truly struggling... and the more i think about it: for good reasons.
What do we do? Has anyone gone through anything similar?
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