Love at first what?

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Have you ever experienced love at first sight?

How important is love at first sight to you?

Is love at first sight love or lust?

Is what is called love at first sight really true love or an emotional high of attraction?

I feel that love at first site is lust. I believe that there is such a thing as falling in love with the idea of love. I do not discount being attracted to someone when you first meet him or her, but I do not think it is love. I feel love has to grow from getting to know someone. I do not think that lust at first sight is always bad or invalid. I think it is important that you like the person you are attracted to and want to date. It is what you do with the emotional high and how you treat the person who you are attract to that matters. I think modern society over glorifies love at first sight. I do not feel that you have to experience love at first in your potential mate or current date. I also feel and have seen people act irrationally and make bad decisions out of lust for someone. I have known men that pursue women they lust after as objects of their desire and only use them for their own desires. This is even promoted in TV and movies. I feel that you have respect for the opposite sex in general. God wants us to treat other kindly.
 

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Have you ever experienced love at first sight? No.

How important is love at first sight to you?I don't believe in such a thing, so it is not important to me. And someone who proclaims experiencing it would likely make me uncomfortable in the extreme.

Is love at first sight love or lust? Neither.

Is what is called love at first sight really true love or an emotional high of attraction? I'm not sure I'd say it is either of those. As lust is just lust, attaching some emotional significance to it is going beyond that. Maybe a(hopefully) momentary amount of delusion..?
I don't believe in love at all, but other than that particular difference in opinion I tend to agree with you. Any substantial attachment with someone comes with time and care, and any perceived attachment short of that is an emotional issue with the person believing it.
 
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I love how our word love is so broad and encompassing. Love isn't just this narrow way of expressing how we relate to a person and it has to be that same way for everyone.

So this past weekend I gave a ride to a Jewish lady to the personal growth workshop we were going to. We had one of the best conversations weekends. Probably talked one on one for 7 or more hours about many aspects of our life and work, including our sexual experiences. But probably the most meaningful our relation with God, or in her case how she doesn't have a concept of a personal God yet is thinking about her Jewishness and spirituality, but realizes that that word is vague. She even stated she was envious of the relationship I've had with God. Now this woman I didn't have a sexual desire for but I was very conscious of loving her and adding something to her life. There was an intimacy we shared that I find I desire quite a bit these days.

Turns out we both know two people that have found a relationship with God (not Christ) thru sensual touch and even sex. So she asked me if we could meet pray and touch (not sex) to see it could help her get in touch with God. I felt this would be a loving thing to do for her. So next week we will meet. She doesn't want me to talk about Jesus. So I've been praying about this. The other morning the Spirit of God told me to read the OT verses about God's loving kindness. Then to read the verses about Moses turning aside to see the burning bush. Moses was curious and God meet him there.

Ya, love can be expressed so many ways! This will be a new one for me.
 
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Thanks everyone for your comments. I agree that you do not have to always lust for someone when you find them attractive. You can like someone and not lust over them. That often is the case with plationic relationships. I was writing about how romantic attaction can be so lustful in the world.
 
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Usually I've heard it described as love at first sight WITH a conviction that this was the person God said they would marry. I've never experienced such a thing and would be temped to dismiss it with a bah-humbag.

But, I've heard it often enough and from people fairly cerebral and nonimpulsive that I think there may be something to it, though being rare and not expected.

PS this doesn't count the ultimate "Swimsuit Edition" gal I occasionally meet across the room having a Mother Theresa spirituality.
 
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Infatuation / Attraction or Lust at first sight I would say.

I don't think real love could ever really take place at first sight, even it was a conviction from God that this was someone you should marry. I don't think you can love someone without actually knowing them.

But people like to use the word love because it sounds better ;)
 
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Love at first sight is dangerous since more often then not its not really love. Its more of infatuation with the person. It takes time to know if you are really love. Because once you get to know a person some things may begin to surface and that love quickly goes away.
 
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Love at first sight is dangerous since more often then not its not really love. Its more of infatuation with the person. It takes time to know if you are really love. Because once you get to know a person some things may begin to surface and that love quickly goes away.


Again....why does it have to be infactuation? Why can't it be simple attraction?
 
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in·fat·u·a·tion (
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n. 1. A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction. See Synonyms at love.
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b. A person, place, thing, or event that is intended to attract: The main attraction was a Charlie Chaplin film.

4. a. The electric or magnetic force exerted by oppositely charged particles, tending to draw or hold the particles together.
b. The gravitational force exerted by one body on another.
 
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"Love at first sight" represents to me a sudden,deep, intuitive sense of love, like in an accelerated time frame. Seems to flow from some innate perception that the other person has characteristics that we will merge with.

I would think that it was a spiritual gift, but the unsaved have this too so must operate from a more basic psychological level. The feeling of love can grow from our whole life, infancy on. At young ages time can seem timeless so when someone pushes our buttons in such a way these warm, cared for. intense feelings emerge from our past. So it all boils down to an intuitive hunch.

Very unscientific, being so subjective, many turn up so empty handed. But there are so many testimonials of it's occurrence it's hard to dismiss it all, not wondering what all is going on.
 
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I've never been in love, so I've never been in love at first sight either. I can't say whether or not what people feel is what they really feel or not because I don't have a common experience to compare to. I liked both of my wives very much, but I had to grow to love them slowly over time.
 
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I tend to think it's chemistry at first site, not love. That's not a bad thing, as long as it doesn't get mistaken for love and right-away sex. Chemistry is a good thing to build on- taken slowly, you can see if you're compatible in important areas- like your relationships with the Lord being #1- if the chemistry lasts as time goes by-if love has a chance to develop...then maybe it will become true love. Now, if God has planned for you two be in love just like that- and I do believe this happens, then Praise Him! but be sure it's God and not you wanting it to be something it's not.
 
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