This happened 6 months ago. Please excuse the length in advance.
My sister inlaw is a control freak and very vocal with no filter and knows everything about everyone in the family across the country. With that said, my father inlaw passed away after a long battle with cancer. My husband took care of him until the end. His sister lives on the other side of the country and would come visit on occasion.
We never had words or a disagreement and I've never said a cross word about her to anyone.. Well a few weeks before my father inlaw passed she says to my husband (her brother) "I'm taking you to Las Vegas for a get away."( sort of a vacation after taking care of their father for so long) So my husband tells me that we were going to Las Vegas cause his sister was taking him there. I said maybe she just wanted it to be a brother/ sister type thing.
He says no because her husband was going. I still found her phrasing odd but left it alone. When my father inlaw passed, I called her to check on her and it went to voicemail, she never called back. At the funeral home I texted her she didn't reply to me, she called my husband.
Well she and her husband get here for the funeral and stayed at her fathers house. I meet my husband over there.
When I walk in the door they are sitting at the kitchen table. I walked in with a smile and say hello and walked over to the sister to greet her with a hug like I always did. I get a piece of a hello. Her husband was going to get up and hug me but when he saw what she did he started rearranging stuff on the table. So I walked into the kitchen and greeted my husband. (He didn't see that part.)
After some conversation she says,
Sister inlaw: Just so you know he's (my husband) is going to Las Vegas whether you go or not.
Me: He's a grown man he can go wherever he'd like. (I just glared at her and didn't say another word)
when she saw that what she said didn't go over big with me she says.
Sister inlaw: Oh that trick didn't work, I was trying to get you to say that you would go. You can go too if you want to and started showing me pics from she and her husbands last trip.
What I wanted to tell her is that there was only one lady of my house and that was me but out of respect for my husband and my father inlaws passing, I ate it.
She was just trying to play it off in front of my husband. She meant what she said. After we left I didn't say a word about his sister or how much what she said bothered me (it was a sensitive time my husband didn't need the drama) but he sensed it. He calls his sister and tells her a thing or two.
She of course plays dumb and acted like I was being sensitive. She then text me to come over to talk, she gets here was all, "I don't do the chick stuff and I was only joking". Even though she was rather rude in our convo I remained peaceful.
She asked can we do lunch and we should keep in touch better. Well that never happened, I never heard from her and haven't heard from her since she left town except for an occasional hi through my husband.
At the funeral I spoke to her adult children and got no response. She was nice but I felt some type of way. My husband said that he wants us to be close but I don't trust her.
To me she was disrespectful a few times to me that day for no reason and I don't want anything to do with her. I don't want to go to las vegas or anywhere else with her. If she REALLY wanted me to go her wording would have been why don't you and J come to vegas with Larry and I. Know what I mean? Thoughts? Was she out of line? She will be back in town Friday and I honestly don't want to see her.
My sister inlaw is a control freak and very vocal with no filter and knows everything about everyone in the family across the country. With that said, my father inlaw passed away after a long battle with cancer. My husband took care of him until the end. His sister lives on the other side of the country and would come visit on occasion.
We never had words or a disagreement and I've never said a cross word about her to anyone.. Well a few weeks before my father inlaw passed she says to my husband (her brother) "I'm taking you to Las Vegas for a get away."( sort of a vacation after taking care of their father for so long) So my husband tells me that we were going to Las Vegas cause his sister was taking him there. I said maybe she just wanted it to be a brother/ sister type thing.
He says no because her husband was going. I still found her phrasing odd but left it alone. When my father inlaw passed, I called her to check on her and it went to voicemail, she never called back. At the funeral home I texted her she didn't reply to me, she called my husband.
Well she and her husband get here for the funeral and stayed at her fathers house. I meet my husband over there.
When I walk in the door they are sitting at the kitchen table. I walked in with a smile and say hello and walked over to the sister to greet her with a hug like I always did. I get a piece of a hello. Her husband was going to get up and hug me but when he saw what she did he started rearranging stuff on the table. So I walked into the kitchen and greeted my husband. (He didn't see that part.)
After some conversation she says,
Sister inlaw: Just so you know he's (my husband) is going to Las Vegas whether you go or not.
Me: He's a grown man he can go wherever he'd like. (I just glared at her and didn't say another word)
when she saw that what she said didn't go over big with me she says.
Sister inlaw: Oh that trick didn't work, I was trying to get you to say that you would go. You can go too if you want to and started showing me pics from she and her husbands last trip.
What I wanted to tell her is that there was only one lady of my house and that was me but out of respect for my husband and my father inlaws passing, I ate it.
She was just trying to play it off in front of my husband. She meant what she said. After we left I didn't say a word about his sister or how much what she said bothered me (it was a sensitive time my husband didn't need the drama) but he sensed it. He calls his sister and tells her a thing or two.
She of course plays dumb and acted like I was being sensitive. She then text me to come over to talk, she gets here was all, "I don't do the chick stuff and I was only joking". Even though she was rather rude in our convo I remained peaceful.
She asked can we do lunch and we should keep in touch better. Well that never happened, I never heard from her and haven't heard from her since she left town except for an occasional hi through my husband.At the funeral I spoke to her adult children and got no response. She was nice but I felt some type of way. My husband said that he wants us to be close but I don't trust her.
To me she was disrespectful a few times to me that day for no reason and I don't want anything to do with her. I don't want to go to las vegas or anywhere else with her. If she REALLY wanted me to go her wording would have been why don't you and J come to vegas with Larry and I. Know what I mean? Thoughts? Was she out of line? She will be back in town Friday and I honestly don't want to see her.
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