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I was dating a wonderful man and he was always tere for me and giving so much attention. Because of my past hurts i put a wall in our dating and was not as affectionate as he was. But he kept trying for 6 months he then asked me to be his girlfriend i said i needed time to think about it. After that my mum was critically ill was in the hospital and i was devastated he was still there for me supporting me and a few weeks after that i told him that we should stop dating.
we remained friends but we were not talking as much as before. a month and half after ending the dates i realized that i really loved him.
I asked him to meet me and told him i missed him and he asked if i wanted us to get back together and i said yes. we got back together that day but i had an uneasy feeling so we spoke on the phone and he said yes he was sure he wanted this. when we were together i saw that there was someone else that kept calling him and he said she was just a friend but i was so jealous and made a big thing out of it. he then told me he will stop talking to her if it makes me uneasy. a few days after that he said to me he was not sure if he wanted to be in a relationship anymore because when i broke up with him he was really hurt and something in him changed. he said he still had feelings for me but he needed time to figure out what he wants to do, and he didn't say it's over he asked me to give him time to figure out what he wants.
I was so devastated and didn't act as a true christian, i asked him if it was the girl that kept calling him, he told me that she was there for him when i broke up with him and they have been close since then.
i said to him i respect your decision and said bye. i went home and cried and cried i was angry and had a lot of resentment for him and the other girl. My friend who introduced us got involved and messaged him and told him off basically. Which i think didn't help the situation we both realized it. I was so angry couldn't even see past anything.
I contacted a christian friend and we started praying, i was in a very low place and then God wanted me to forgive both of them and also forgive myself. First i asked God for forgiveness for hurting my ex and i prayed said i forgave my ex and the other girl. But deep down i didn't i kept praying and reading the word of God. a week after that i messaged my ex to call me, he called me the next day we talked on the phone for an hour and at the end i said to him that i felt bad about my friend telling him off that she will come around and that i hoped that everyone can still be friends.
he said thank you i appreciate that. then a week later he called me and we talked on the phone for another hour just general stuff going on in our life.
during these time i kept praying to God and asking him to show me the wayand help me heal. reading Joyce meyers books, reading the bible and praying worshiping God. I had a prayer session with my friend everyday, then one day i was writing in my notes i usually write to God and i asked myself Have you really forgiven? deep down have you? because i still felt condemned about how i treated him and abut how he treated me. So i listen to the preaching about forgiveness and it says that to forgive is a decision i have to make, it's not about how i feel i have to decide to forgive and my feelings will catch up with it.
So i made a decision to forgive and i wrote what i wanted to god to forgive me about and i wrote what i forgave my ex and the other girl about. I burned that note and that day something in me was lifted up. It's like the person you were seeing as a monster is not a monster anymore you see a person that God loves very much who has flaws but he is a good person.
I kept praying and praying and listening to preaching and during that time i started going back to church. But my heart was still not at ease, i was sad and crying but didn't want to tell my friend the reason why i was crying, because i was also mad at myself for feeling that way because i have been working so hard on not living by my feelings and letting the holy spirit of God guide me. So my friend saw my face and said if you want your ex back and you love me why are you so passive and doing nothing? by you sitting and crying he is not going to come back to you she said why don't you put your pride aside and try your best then if it does not work you know you have tried your best. I just couldn't understand why i will have t chase after someone that has moved on, and i said that to her and she said but you don't know that, you don't know if he has moved on, you are assuming the worst instead of being positive.
That day we were at a \christian party and they were playing christian songs and i just started singing and there was HOPE but at the same time guilt for become hopeful when i was told there is a chance to get back with my ex, i kept thinking shouldn't have been like that just knowing it was me and God?
I prayed to God and asked for forgiveness and asked if it was the right thing for me to fight for my ex. That night before leaving the party i saw a missed call from him, he then messaged to say he was returning my call from a day ago , i texted and said i was out but will call him the next day which was on a Sunday.
When i go home that night i prayed to God and that night i listen to this audio book about the confident woman by Joyce Meyer and it was saying that i should step out in faith, be hopeful trust in God that he loves me and will be there for me. I praised the Lord and the next day i went to church and in the evening i called him twice but he didn't pick up, i was discouraged and didn't know what to think of it, i left a voice note saying that i called and it will be nice to catch up.
I stayed in prayer, i don't think i cried that day, i think it was the first day in the months that my ex and i have been apart that i didn't cry.
That sunday my mind was in a battle, i tell i was getting so many negative thoughts and i wanted to cry out, i thought i was going crazy. Thoughts like it's too late, it's been a month, he has formed a bond with the other girl, he does not like you anymore. I started praying and listening to preaching i was getting so many positive words and scriptures like It's not too late there is a new beginning through Christ, i can do all things through christ who strengthens me, wait for the Lord, be strong take heart an wait for the Lord, God loves you, Stay in peace at all time trust God, nothing is too big for God, and my favorite return to the stronghold(of security and prosperity) you prisoners of HOPE even today i declare that i will restore double your former prosperity. I took in everything and my mind started easing up and decided to Hope in God. But i still have these thought i keeps coming to me about how i'm just doing it because i want my ex back not because of God and does God really want you back with your ex and i get discouraged again and want to give up because of the guilt i feel inside. I continued praying to God asking him for direction as i am doing what i want in my heart but if it's not what he wants to show me what to do.
The next morning i got a message from my ex he said he will call me after work to catch up, then i said ok i sent him a funny video and said i thought the video will make him smile. then he replied later with laughing smilies saying it did.
That day i stayed in prayers and listening to the word of God. and there is one i listened to from Joyce Meyer and she was talking about how God changed her slowly from the woman she was before and she said it will take time for other people to see that you have truly changed and i remembered how i was with my ex and how i broke up with him and something came to me saying that he probably thinks you will do the same thing again because he told me how he was hurt by me breaking up with him. Then i started talking to God saying should i not just give up and let him be? then something in me said that is what you always do give up you do not see things through till the end. Then i said i don't understand what is the point of me doing this after a month of not communicating properly and he has been spending time with another girl, can't i just give up will that not be easy? then gong through a chase that might not result in anything. then i heard that is you not believing in God not having faith doubting not having confidence not having hope, then i heard a sermon and it was saying Hope differed makes the heart sick. Then i said ok I will trust you God but i don't understand but i will put my life in your hands.
My ex called me that evening and we talked for over an hour at first it was a bit awkward because i was nervous. Then he talked about his business that his parents just gave to him and how he wants to built it up to be really good and he has a lot of things to do, so i offered to help with the website and leaflets, my brother can help with websites and i'm good with photoshoop. He said thanks that will be helpful thank you. and i suggested that we hangout on Saturday he said he might be busy with his mum so i suggested friday he said he might be hanging out with his bestie but he said he will get back to me about that.That night we chatted after the call about the business and i said goodnight and he said goodnight too.
The next morning i said good Morning have a productive day and he replied thanks same to you.
That afternoon i tried to chat telling him about my gym session, he replied but didn't say much. so i asked how has his day been so far, he replied after he finished work saying its been good that he is heading home, he said he traveled to different sites for work and he messaged me by i didn't see because i fell asleep, then i replied him and we chatted that day which was ok. In the mean time i kept praying to God and still fighting negative thoughts, about my ex and i. And the next day i got a message in the morning he was wishing me good luck on my test, i said thanks it means a lot to me. After exams that night he messaged to ask how my exams were, then said it was good then i asked what he was up to we chatted a bit then i said goodnight but he didn't reply and next morning i didn't hear from him. So this is Thursday 4 days after i decided to step forward in faith, i messaged him at 3 pm asking how he was doing, he replied at 6 pm saying he is good heading home and he was supposed to get back to me about hanging out but he can't do it this wee as he is going for a late night screening for a movie on Friday , he didn't mention Saturday, i was disappointing, i asked he was going to the movies with his bestfriend he said no he wasn't and didn't explain further. Me thinking that i had my thought in check right, i started with this negative thinking again that he is going out with the other girl and that is why is not very responsive towards me even when we are chatting it's not like before it is strained, i went down on my knees and started worshiping God and praising him, i said i don't understand why i should do this but i praise you. After that i asked God if i could just give up and heal and just be me and God. I realized i have a long way to go, i'm obviously not where i was a month ago but i'm not where i need to be. I asked God no matter what don't let me go.
This morning i woke up i have spoken to God, i listen to some preaching it was saying get yourself off of your mind and be a blessing to someone else. How can i get myself off my mind if i have to step forward in faith, pray and ask for what i want? I also heard about not letting fear take over our lives to do it afraid. And also do what you can do and let God do the rest.
We always have to stay in prayers and be vigilant because the devil is there waiting to attack at every possible moment. Everything works for good.

This is where i am at the moment still praying to God and waiting on him. I love God so much and want to do his will and i am scared of doing the wrong thing again.

Please pray for me and feel free to comment

God bless :)
 

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From reading your extremely long winded post my impression of you is that you analyze way too much and make a big deal out of many mundane situations.

Chasing back an ex is the last thing you want to do, as it will push him away even more. The science behind love is that the less available you make yourself the more he will pursue you. Send him mixed signals and then suddenly sever contact for two or three days. This will reel him in.

Works every time.
 
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I read your whole post. I would have to agree with the first comment. You are obviously very hurt and upset by what happened. I would recommend that you take some time without contact with him and let him do his own thing for a bit. You have shown him that you want to fix things but he isn't ready yet. Try and hangout with some of your girl friends and try to enjoy yourself again. Keep praying to God for direction but start to distract yourself from over analyzing everything. Plan a few things for your week that you would enjoy doing. If you start to feel yourself analyzing something, take a break and think about what you will be doing in the week instead. I know it's hard but it's important and healthy to start to try and move on from this. Also, maybe try to not pray about getting him back specifically as offen. Let God know you want it, but if you keep praying that it'll keep an attachment to your ex that you should give to God. Hope this helps a bit. I will pray for you.
 
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I was dating a wonderful man and he was always tere for me and giving so much attention. Because of my past hurts i put a wall in our dating and was not as affectionate as he was. But he kept trying for 6 months he then asked me to be his girlfriend i said i needed time to think about it. After that my mum was critically ill was in the hospital and i was devastated he was still there for me supporting me and a few weeks after that i told him that we should stop dating.
we remained friends but we were not talking as much as before. a month and half after ending the dates i realized that i really loved him.
I asked him to meet me and told him i missed him and he asked if i wanted us to get back together and i said yes. we got back together that day but i had an uneasy feeling so we spoke on the phone and he said yes he was sure he wanted this. when we were together i saw that there was someone else that kept calling him and he said she was just a friend but i was so jealous and made a big thing out of it. he then told me he will stop talking to her if it makes me uneasy. a few days after that he said to me he was not sure if he wanted to be in a relationship anymore because when i broke up with him he was really hurt and something in him changed. he said he still had feelings for me but he needed time to figure out what he wants to do, and he didn't say it's over he asked me to give him time to figure out what he wants.
I was so devastated and didn't act as a true christian, i asked him if it was the girl that kept calling him, he told me that she was there for him when i broke up with him and they have been close since then.
i said to him i respect your decision and said bye. i went home and cried and cried i was angry and had a lot of resentment for him and the other girl. My friend who introduced us got involved and messaged him and told him off basically. Which i think didn't help the situation we both realized it. I was so angry couldn't even see past anything.
I contacted a christian friend and we started praying, i was in a very low place and then God wanted me to forgive both of them and also forgive myself. First i asked God for forgiveness for hurting my ex and i prayed said i forgave my ex and the other girl. But deep down i didn't i kept praying and reading the word of God. a week after that i messaged my ex to call me, he called me the next day we talked on the phone for an hour and at the end i said to him that i felt bad about my friend telling him off that she will come around and that i hoped that everyone can still be friends.
he said thank you i appreciate that. then a week later he called me and we talked on the phone for another hour just general stuff going on in our life.
during these time i kept praying to God and asking him to show me the wayand help me heal. reading Joyce meyers books, reading the bible and praying worshiping God. I had a prayer session with my friend everyday, then one day i was writing in my notes i usually write to God and i asked myself Have you really forgiven? deep down have you? because i still felt condemned about how i treated him and abut how he treated me. So i listen to the preaching about forgiveness and it says that to forgive is a decision i have to make, it's not about how i feel i have to decide to forgive and my feelings will catch up with it.
So i made a decision to forgive and i wrote what i wanted to god to forgive me about and i wrote what i forgave my ex and the other girl about. I burned that note and that day something in me was lifted up. It's like the person you were seeing as a monster is not a monster anymore you see a person that God loves very much who has flaws but he is a good person.
I kept praying and praying and listening to preaching and during that time i started going back to church. But my heart was still not at ease, i was sad and crying but didn't want to tell my friend the reason why i was crying, because i was also mad at myself for feeling that way because i have been working so hard on not living by my feelings and letting the holy spirit of God guide me. So my friend saw my face and said if you want your ex back and you love me why are you so passive and doing nothing? by you sitting and crying he is not going to come back to you she said why don't you put your pride aside and try your best then if it does not work you know you have tried your best. I just couldn't understand why i will have t chase after someone that has moved on, and i said that to her and she said but you don't know that, you don't know if he has moved on, you are assuming the worst instead of being positive.
That day we were at a \christian party and they were playing christian songs and i just started singing and there was HOPE but at the same time guilt for become hopeful when i was told there is a chance to get back with my ex, i kept thinking shouldn't have been like that just knowing it was me and God?
I prayed to God and asked for forgiveness and asked if it was the right thing for me to fight for my ex. That night before leaving the party i saw a missed call from him, he then messaged to say he was returning my call from a day ago , i texted and said i was out but will call him the next day which was on a Sunday.
When i go home that night i prayed to God and that night i listen to this audio book about the confident woman by Joyce Meyer and it was saying that i should step out in faith, be hopeful trust in God that he loves me and will be there for me. I praised the Lord and the next day i went to church and in the evening i called him twice but he didn't pick up, i was discouraged and didn't know what to think of it, i left a voice note saying that i called and it will be nice to catch up.
I stayed in prayer, i don't think i cried that day, i think it was the first day in the months that my ex and i have been apart that i didn't cry.
That sunday my mind was in a battle, i tell i was getting so many negative thoughts and i wanted to cry out, i thought i was going crazy. Thoughts like it's too late, it's been a month, he has formed a bond with the other girl, he does not like you anymore. I started praying and listening to preaching i was getting so many positive words and scriptures like It's not too late there is a new beginning through Christ, i can do all things through christ who strengthens me, wait for the Lord, be strong take heart an wait for the Lord, God loves you, Stay in peace at all time trust God, nothing is too big for God, and my favorite return to the stronghold(of security and prosperity) you prisoners of HOPE even today i declare that i will restore double your former prosperity. I took in everything and my mind started easing up and decided to Hope in God. But i still have these thought i keeps coming to me about how i'm just doing it because i want my ex back not because of God and does God really want you back with your ex and i get discouraged again and want to give up because of the guilt i feel inside. I continued praying to God asking him for direction as i am doing what i want in my heart but if it's not what he wants to show me what to do.
The next morning i got a message from my ex he said he will call me after work to catch up, then i said ok i sent him a funny video and said i thought the video will make him smile. then he replied later with laughing smilies saying it did.
That day i stayed in prayers and listening to the word of God. and there is one i listened to from Joyce Meyer and she was talking about how God changed her slowly from the woman she was before and she said it will take time for other people to see that you have truly changed and i remembered how i was with my ex and how i broke up with him and something came to me saying that he probably thinks you will do the same thing again because he told me how he was hurt by me breaking up with him. Then i started talking to God saying should i not just give up and let him be? then something in me said that is what you always do give up you do not see things through till the end. Then i said i don't understand what is the point of me doing this after a month of not communicating properly and he has been spending time with another girl, can't i just give up will that not be easy? then gong through a chase that might not result in anything. then i heard that is you not believing in God not having faith doubting not having confidence not having hope, then i heard a sermon and it was saying Hope differed makes the heart sick. Then i said ok I will trust you God but i don't understand but i will put my life in your hands.
My ex called me that evening and we talked for over an hour at first it was a bit awkward because i was nervous. Then he talked about his business that his parents just gave to him and how he wants to built it up to be really good and he has a lot of things to do, so i offered to help with the website and leaflets, my brother can help with websites and i'm good with photoshoop. He said thanks that will be helpful thank you. and i suggested that we hangout on Saturday he said he might be busy with his mum so i suggested friday he said he might be hanging out with his bestie but he said he will get back to me about that.That night we chatted after the call about the business and i said goodnight and he said goodnight too.
The next morning i said good Morning have a productive day and he replied thanks same to you.
That afternoon i tried to chat telling him about my gym session, he replied but didn't say much. so i asked how has his day been so far, he replied after he finished work saying its been good that he is heading home, he said he traveled to different sites for work and he messaged me by i didn't see because i fell asleep, then i replied him and we chatted that day which was ok. In the mean time i kept praying to God and still fighting negative thoughts, about my ex and i. And the next day i got a message in the morning he was wishing me good luck on my test, i said thanks it means a lot to me. After exams that night he messaged to ask how my exams were, then said it was good then i asked what he was up to we chatted a bit then i said goodnight but he didn't reply and next morning i didn't hear from him. So this is Thursday 4 days after i decided to step forward in faith, i messaged him at 3 pm asking how he was doing, he replied at 6 pm saying he is good heading home and he was supposed to get back to me about hanging out but he can't do it this wee as he is going for a late night screening for a movie on Friday , he didn't mention Saturday, i was disappointing, i asked he was going to the movies with his bestfriend he said no he wasn't and didn't explain further. Me thinking that i had my thought in check right, i started with this negative thinking again that he is going out with the other girl and that is why is not very responsive towards me even when we are chatting it's not like before it is strained, i went down on my knees and started worshiping God and praising him, i said i don't understand why i should do this but i praise you. After that i asked God if i could just give up and heal and just be me and God. I realized i have a long way to go, i'm obviously not where i was a month ago but i'm not where i need to be. I asked God no matter what don't let me go.
This morning i woke up i have spoken to God, i listen to some preaching it was saying get yourself off of your mind and be a blessing to someone else. How can i get myself off my mind if i have to step forward in faith, pray and ask for what i want? I also heard about not letting fear take over our lives to do it afraid. And also do what you can do and let God do the rest.
We always have to stay in prayers and be vigilant because the devil is there waiting to attack at every possible moment. Everything works for good.

This is where i am at the moment still praying to God and waiting on him. I love God so much and want to do his will and i am scared of doing the wrong thing again.

Please pray for me and feel free to comment

God bless :)

Hello I'm new on here and don't know how to use this yet, but what happened with the situations with your ex? I'm kinda on a similar boat.
 
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From reading your extremely long winded post my impression of you is that you analyze way too much and make a big deal out of many mundane situations.

Chasing back an ex is the last thing you want to do, as it will push him away even more. The science behind love is that the less available you make yourself the more he will pursue you. Send him mixed signals and then suddenly sever contact for two or three days. This will reel him in.

Works every time.
A little rude not gonna lie.

He chased her then she hurt his feelings, I’m a guy it’s time for her to do work.
 
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I was dating a wonderful man and he was always tere for me and giving so much attention. Because of my past hurts i put a wall in our dating and was not as affectionate as he was. But he kept trying for 6 months he then asked me to be his girlfriend i said i needed time to think about it. After that my mum was critically ill was in the hospital and i was devastated he was still there for me supporting me and a few weeks after that i told him that we should stop dating.
we remained friends but we were not talking as much as before. a month and half after ending the dates i realized that i really loved him.
I asked him to meet me and told him i missed him and he asked if i wanted us to get back together and i said yes. we got back together that day but i had an uneasy feeling so we spoke on the phone and he said yes he was sure he wanted this. when we were together i saw that there was someone else that kept calling him and he said she was just a friend but i was so jealous and made a big thing out of it. he then told me he will stop talking to her if it makes me uneasy. a few days after that he said to me he was not sure if he wanted to be in a relationship anymore because when i broke up with him he was really hurt and something in him changed. he said he still had feelings for me but he needed time to figure out what he wants to do, and he didn't say it's over he asked me to give him time to figure out what he wants.
I was so devastated and didn't act as a true christian, i asked him if it was the girl that kept calling him, he told me that she was there for him when i broke up with him and they have been close since then.
i said to him i respect your decision and said bye. i went home and cried and cried i was angry and had a lot of resentment for him and the other girl. My friend who introduced us got involved and messaged him and told him off basically. Which i think didn't help the situation we both realized it. I was so angry couldn't even see past anything.
I contacted a christian friend and we started praying, i was in a very low place and then God wanted me to forgive both of them and also forgive myself. First i asked God for forgiveness for hurting my ex and i prayed said i forgave my ex and the other girl. But deep down i didn't i kept praying and reading the word of God. a week after that i messaged my ex to call me, he called me the next day we talked on the phone for an hour and at the end i said to him that i felt bad about my friend telling him off that she will come around and that i hoped that everyone can still be friends.
he said thank you i appreciate that. then a week later he called me and we talked on the phone for another hour just general stuff going on in our life.
during these time i kept praying to God and asking him to show me the wayand help me heal. reading Joyce meyers books, reading the bible and praying worshiping God. I had a prayer session with my friend everyday, then one day i was writing in my notes i usually write to God and i asked myself Have you really forgiven? deep down have you? because i still felt condemned about how i treated him and abut how he treated me. So i listen to the preaching about forgiveness and it says that to forgive is a decision i have to make, it's not about how i feel i have to decide to forgive and my feelings will catch up with it.
So i made a decision to forgive and i wrote what i wanted to god to forgive me about and i wrote what i forgave my ex and the other girl about. I burned that note and that day something in me was lifted up. It's like the person you were seeing as a monster is not a monster anymore you see a person that God loves very much who has flaws but he is a good person.
I kept praying and praying and listening to preaching and during that time i started going back to church. But my heart was still not at ease, i was sad and crying but didn't want to tell my friend the reason why i was crying, because i was also mad at myself for feeling that way because i have been working so hard on not living by my feelings and letting the holy spirit of God guide me. So my friend saw my face and said if you want your ex back and you love me why are you so passive and doing nothing? by you sitting and crying he is not going to come back to you she said why don't you put your pride aside and try your best then if it does not work you know you have tried your best. I just couldn't understand why i will have t chase after someone that has moved on, and i said that to her and she said but you don't know that, you don't know if he has moved on, you are assuming the worst instead of being positive.
That day we were at a \christian party and they were playing christian songs and i just started singing and there was HOPE but at the same time guilt for become hopeful when i was told there is a chance to get back with my ex, i kept thinking shouldn't have been like that just knowing it was me and God?
I prayed to God and asked for forgiveness and asked if it was the right thing for me to fight for my ex. That night before leaving the party i saw a missed call from him, he then messaged to say he was returning my call from a day ago , i texted and said i was out but will call him the next day which was on a Sunday.
When i go home that night i prayed to God and that night i listen to this audio book about the confident woman by Joyce Meyer and it was saying that i should step out in faith, be hopeful trust in God that he loves me and will be there for me. I praised the Lord and the next day i went to church and in the evening i called him twice but he didn't pick up, i was discouraged and didn't know what to think of it, i left a voice note saying that i called and it will be nice to catch up.
I stayed in prayer, i don't think i cried that day, i think it was the first day in the months that my ex and i have been apart that i didn't cry.
That sunday my mind was in a battle, i tell i was getting so many negative thoughts and i wanted to cry out, i thought i was going crazy. Thoughts like it's too late, it's been a month, he has formed a bond with the other girl, he does not like you anymore. I started praying and listening to preaching i was getting so many positive words and scriptures like It's not too late there is a new beginning through Christ, i can do all things through christ who strengthens me, wait for the Lord, be strong take heart an wait for the Lord, God loves you, Stay in peace at all time trust God, nothing is too big for God, and my favorite return to the stronghold(of security and prosperity) you prisoners of HOPE even today i declare that i will restore double your former prosperity. I took in everything and my mind started easing up and decided to Hope in God. But i still have these thought i keeps coming to me about how i'm just doing it because i want my ex back not because of God and does God really want you back with your ex and i get discouraged again and want to give up because of the guilt i feel inside. I continued praying to God asking him for direction as i am doing what i want in my heart but if it's not what he wants to show me what to do.
The next morning i got a message from my ex he said he will call me after work to catch up, then i said ok i sent him a funny video and said i thought the video will make him smile. then he replied later with laughing smilies saying it did.
That day i stayed in prayers and listening to the word of God. and there is one i listened to from Joyce Meyer and she was talking about how God changed her slowly from the woman she was before and she said it will take time for other people to see that you have truly changed and i remembered how i was with my ex and how i broke up with him and something came to me saying that he probably thinks you will do the same thing again because he told me how he was hurt by me breaking up with him. Then i started talking to God saying should i not just give up and let him be? then something in me said that is what you always do give up you do not see things through till the end. Then i said i don't understand what is the point of me doing this after a month of not communicating properly and he has been spending time with another girl, can't i just give up will that not be easy? then gong through a chase that might not result in anything. then i heard that is you not believing in God not having faith doubting not having confidence not having hope, then i heard a sermon and it was saying Hope differed makes the heart sick. Then i said ok I will trust you God but i don't understand but i will put my life in your hands.
My ex called me that evening and we talked for over an hour at first it was a bit awkward because i was nervous. Then he talked about his business that his parents just gave to him and how he wants to built it up to be really good and he has a lot of things to do, so i offered to help with the website and leaflets, my brother can help with websites and i'm good with photoshoop. He said thanks that will be helpful thank you. and i suggested that we hangout on Saturday he said he might be busy with his mum so i suggested friday he said he might be hanging out with his bestie but he said he will get back to me about that.That night we chatted after the call about the business and i said goodnight and he said goodnight too.
The next morning i said good Morning have a productive day and he replied thanks same to you.
That afternoon i tried to chat telling him about my gym session, he replied but didn't say much. so i asked how has his day been so far, he replied after he finished work saying its been good that he is heading home, he said he traveled to different sites for work and he messaged me by i didn't see because i fell asleep, then i replied him and we chatted that day which was ok. In the mean time i kept praying to God and still fighting negative thoughts, about my ex and i. And the next day i got a message in the morning he was wishing me good luck on my test, i said thanks it means a lot to me. After exams that night he messaged to ask how my exams were, then said it was good then i asked what he was up to we chatted a bit then i said goodnight but he didn't reply and next morning i didn't hear from him. So this is Thursday 4 days after i decided to step forward in faith, i messaged him at 3 pm asking how he was doing, he replied at 6 pm saying he is good heading home and he was supposed to get back to me about hanging out but he can't do it this wee as he is going for a late night screening for a movie on Friday , he didn't mention Saturday, i was disappointing, i asked he was going to the movies with his bestfriend he said no he wasn't and didn't explain further. Me thinking that i had my thought in check right, i started with this negative thinking again that he is going out with the other girl and that is why is not very responsive towards me even when we are chatting it's not like before it is strained, i went down on my knees and started worshiping God and praising him, i said i don't understand why i should do this but i praise you. After that i asked God if i could just give up and heal and just be me and God. I realized i have a long way to go, i'm obviously not where i was a month ago but i'm not where i need to be. I asked God no matter what don't let me go.
This morning i woke up i have spoken to God, i listen to some preaching it was saying get yourself off of your mind and be a blessing to someone else. How can i get myself off my mind if i have to step forward in faith, pray and ask for what i want? I also heard about not letting fear take over our lives to do it afraid. And also do what you can do and let God do the rest.
We always have to stay in prayers and be vigilant because the devil is there waiting to attack at every possible moment. Everything works for good.

This is where i am at the moment still praying to God and waiting on him. I love God so much and want to do his will and i am scared of doing the wrong thing again.

Please pray for me and feel free to comment

God bless :)
 
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Nyla it is 3 years later I wish you would have provided an update because as I am going through something similar - it would have been nice to learn more from you of whether you guys are now engaged, friends or God re-gifted you to another man of God.

We are human - we make mistakes. Unfortunately our female sex leads to us overanalyzing but not always to our detriment. I am going to share a powerful relationship prayer after this post but first I must commend you for 2 things. 1. Stepping out on faith and attempting woman to man engagement of communication, etc. (you tried); 2. Your full court press tactic of getting his attention and letting him know you're still invested.

Whether it worked or not you're blessed for trying. You deserve - we deserve someone whom never gives up on us. We deserve a man of God whom will love us as Christ loves the church because from your message pouring your heart out - I can term you're that type of woman!
 
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A little rude not gonna lie.

He chased her then she hurt his feelings, I’m a guy it’s time for her to do work.
Avniel thank you for your feedback to get Dustin which seemingly others such add myself are seeking a male perspective. May I ask you if you were in the gentleman's shoes and she kept trying would you eventually meet her half way? What does putting in work entail?
 
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Avniel thank you for your feedback to get Dustin which seemingly others such add myself are seeking a male perspective. May I ask you if you were in the gentleman's shoes and she kept trying would you eventually meet her half way? What does putting in work entail?
If I were in his shoes and in a relationship, no I would not.

If I were not in a relationship, she would need to ask me out on a date, pay at least half, make her intentions clear, and that might not be all. No making me chase her, no games. Then something might happen.
 
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Avniel thank you for your feedback to get Dustin which seemingly others such add myself are seeking a male perspective. May I ask you if you were in the gentleman's shoes and she kept trying would you eventually meet her half way? What does putting in work entail?
I would eventually meet her half way after I felt like I could let my guard down. It’s basically being the person pushing for a relationship a period of time. Taking me out on dates, doing things I like to do and texting/calling first.
 
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