Hi, If you happened to see my last thread, this is simlar issue but different question. My girlfriend and I are having alot of issues in our relationship and we have been off and on fighting over the past few months. We have been looking at marriage but with all of the arguements and decisions that need to be made, we have seemed to take steps backwards! Which is all fine and good, but not when youre about to move out of state. Here is the brief background. I met my girlfriend in LA, California, we ended up moving back to my hometown in Southern Oregon so that I could go back to school. We were doing great the first year in California, and this year has been almost the complete opposite. We have been arguing over alot of things (personality differences, and mores me getting annoyed by her... and I mean nothing negative when I say that. It's just true) and talking about specifics in regards to marriage where we are on different pages right now. I am applying to PTA programs on the west coast here and if I get in, I am going to move. I am trying to figure out if she should move with me, or if that is a good idea for the BOTH of us. NOT just me! Any advice? Oh BTW we started dating November 2014 til now, March 2016.
Difficulties in relationship...Moving out of state. Should She come with me?
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BFine
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Growing in different directions...this happens.
Continue with your education, if it means going
to a different state, then do so.
I believe in taking the opportunity if it presents
itself.
Relationship grow/ change...if someone is inflexible,
selfish, doesn't want to work out problems/issues...
let them go.
You can work on your own issues/problems
and pray they will eventually do the same.
Forgive and continue on.
Often times we aren't mature enough for marriage...
many don't realize that at the time...so there's frequent arguments, disagreements, emotional upheaval etc.
Just because people part ways don't always mean it's
forever...some need more time to be single and or to
grow up emotionally, spiritually etc.
Continue with your education, if it means going
to a different state, then do so.
I believe in taking the opportunity if it presents
itself.
Relationship grow/ change...if someone is inflexible,
selfish, doesn't want to work out problems/issues...
let them go.
You can work on your own issues/problems
and pray they will eventually do the same.
Forgive and continue on.
Often times we aren't mature enough for marriage...
many don't realize that at the time...so there's frequent arguments, disagreements, emotional upheaval etc.
Just because people part ways don't always mean it's
forever...some need more time to be single and or to
grow up emotionally, spiritually etc.
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JoeP222w
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There is no Biblical defense to have your girlfriend move in with you as a righteous act, that would so very easily lead to fornication. Why are you trying to set yourself up for failure? Why are you not getting joined in the covenant of marriage if she is that important to you?
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Sounds like you need some time apart or some counseling, these things don't usually get better without both of you agreeing to make a change on how you communicate to each other.
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A lot has to do with IF you both are "born again" believers or just nominal Christians. This is an important matter.
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