Coming into this one late.
Speaking as a veteran of almost a quarter-century of marriage (we mark it this coming fall), I wish I could just post a link and walk away. As far as understanding men, women, the home, children, and work, I have found nothing more helpful than this:
http://www.gkc.org.uk/gkc/books/whats_wrong.html
Is it in line with our Tradition? I think absolutely, yes.
It would make my post unbearably long to try to encapsulate how first men, then women, then finally the children are all forced out of the home by the modern forces of big government and big business, and the effective death of Yankee entrepreneurialism and independence as the rule, rather than an exception in public life.
The shortest answer is that we need to be able to describe the human ideal. If you can't do that, you can't effectively talk about what to do, because you can't give us the address we want to get to, so to speak. That's what the book deals with. The ideal home and family, and what stands in the way of making it happen understanding those things would eliminate a lot of the questions being thrown around here. Understanding why human tradition generally has women raising the young children (aside from the boring materialist explanations) helps. Keeping in mind that there are always exceptions to the rule, but that that doesn't invalidate the rule, Chesterton posits the idea of man as a natural specialist and woman as a natural universalist. The idea hits you from an unexpected angle, and when he lays it out, you're like, "Duh. Why didn't I see that?" See part 3, Feminism, ch II ("The Universal Stick")
I'm tempted to address previous posts, but I'll pass - though I think the head means the one who should be taking the leadership, the husband - and as has been said, setting aside his wants and desires for the sake of the family. Submitting means accepting that leadership, and not trying to usurp it when one thinks one "knows better". You can't always have egalitarian life; sometimes you have to choose one path or another, and when you really can't agree, somebody has to submit, or else you have anarchy, not Christian marriage. Sometimes you really need a head that acts like a head. The Scriptural imagery is not just flowery or meaningless verbiage.
The real trouble, even when you've worked through all that, is figuring out how to deal with a marriage where your spouse is not committed to the Pauline injunctions: a husband that will not love in self-sacrifice, or a wife that will not submit and is always "grabbing the steering wheel". But I think that if even one of the spouses obeys and does what they should, and bears the rest, God will bless that effort and the marriage.