Where are all the good Godly men?

Servant68 said:

I have learned since then that the rules for dating in today's world are crazier than they were 20 years ago when I was last single.

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I used to go out for lunch with a female friend about once a month. I knew financially I was much better off than she was and due to the kind of places I wanted to eat at then I paid. Often though I had discount vouchers or a card towards the end. One time a friend asked me how she was going. I shared the exciting news that she and her boyfriend had just got engaged. My friend started saying sorry to hear that. I couldn't figure out why. It was only when they went on to say I know how long you have been chasing her that I understood. Seems like friends were not allowed to catch up in a public place 20 years ago either! Crazy thing was that this friend knew I had a girlfriend when we first started having lunch and my girlfriend knew and was fine with it.

I did find out it took a bit of time for the friend I took to lunch to accept my paying was just a gift with no expectation in return other than good conversation. We always knew when one was not doing well spiritually because they would talk about anything else but God. If that happened the other would make sure the conversation turned towards God. At one stage we had question 1 and question 2. We didn't ask the question we just said question 1 which was How are you going with God. Question 2 which was how are you going.

Dag .... that was one neat relationship you had. I had some like that in my 20's. But once I got married they weren't acceptable. By my 50's I started to understand how much I'm missed in life by not having those kind of relationships. So now I have them again and they really add to my life.
I'll not be going back to cutting myself off from healthy male - female relationships again.

dayhiker said:

Dag .... that was one neat relationship you had. I had some like that in my 20's. But once I got married they weren't acceptable. By my 50's I started to understand how much I'm missed in life by not having those kind of relationships. So now I have them again and they really add to my life.
I'll not be going back to cutting myself off from healthy male - female relationships again.

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Yes there is often sadly a unhealthy view of males and females should not mix. Certainly take care. Meet in public places rather than in private if need be. For me meeting at a persons house is not an issue but if it is the kind of thing a person might struggle with then keep it public. I think most of the comfort and ease and knowing that it is not dangerous to be together alone comes with familiarity.

newhopeinHim said:

My name is Michelle and I am 40 years old. I am looking for my life partner. A good Godly man that is gentle and kind. I know of several people who met their wives and or husbands through Christian forums such as these. Is there anyone out their looking for me as well?

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Goodbook said:

Uh. Well, i would stick with christian women and be a brother to them, no matter what age they are. Young women tend to be afraid of older men who are obviously on the make. So it could have been just their impression.

Sorry, i just have had experiences when i was young going out with older men, granted, they werent christians, but they obviously saw i was young and a tad naive and took advantage of that.

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Not all older men are "on the make".

newhopeinHim said:

My name is Michelle and I am 40 years old. I am looking for my life partner. A good Godly man that is gentle and kind. I know of several people who met their wives and or husbands through Christian forums such as these. Is there anyone out their looking for me as well?

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They are looking for a godly woman to meet , but for the most part, the feminist philosophies in our modern American culture is something that has made many a godly man either give up or to immerse himself in the sexual squalor of hedonism even at the high extraordinary risk of getting a permanent std for life. This of course is reinforced by a constant barrage of sexual propaganda by our mass media with satan ultimately in charge . So, church going men become carnal because women don't want to hold fast to sexual purity and morality --- instead men fool themselves into thinking God will make allowances for the carnal living all the while discounting what Gods Word says in 1 Corinthians 6 and Galatians 5 disqualifying them from eteranal life with God. So that's whats happened to Godly Men --- they've become ungodly taking advantage of weak-willed women duped also by an out of control sexual irresponsible culture both live in .This applies to both churched an non churched people groups.

The best place to find a remnant of godly men is still within the confines of church walls, Christian singles social get togethers , trips and volunteering venues , and bible studies . Periodic visits to other local churches that have a high concentration of your age group might be productive. I would not rule out e-harmony.com either.

I feel for you because its not as easy to meet a quality person of the opposite sex as it used to be, yet its still possible.

Dave

newhopeinHim said:

To me a Godly man should love God and put Him first above their own selfish desires. The scriptures tell us how to live in a Godly way. We are to walk as Jesus did on this earth. To strive for holiness and righteousness in all we do. If we know what is right and do not do it... it is sin. Its in the word of God.

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Totally agree with this. In my spirit, I know that being "Godly" is actually way easier than most folks think. It comes down to what you said: Obeying the New Law which Christ brought to us, that being to Love God above all other things, and to love one another as he loved us through his ultimate sacrifice. What complicates this is our flesh, both our physical instincts as well as one's soul( mind/emotions).
Being creatures of both spirit and flesh (especially in this beautiful and fallen age) it can seem incredibly daunting at times when physical loneliness and a desire for companionship rears its head. Personally, I feel that God can work through anything in this world: His kingdom which is Light will always obliterate Darkness, and so I believe that God can use the Internet, a dating app, a church gathering, or whatever to bring two of his beloveds together.
Myself, I feel that it is my sacred mandate to do the works of Christ, to be a minister and soldier of Light and Love, and by doing his Will, I will be led to the one I have been set apart for and vice versa.
In fact, i urge you to pray in good faith and cheer the positive affirmation that Father God has already provided the man you seek, and pray for him though you haven't met yet. I'm doing the same for my future wife Never forget that you always have the Father, Christ and the Holy Spirit with you in your search.
Blessings to you on your journey

WolfwhoHowlstoParadise said:

Totally agree with this. In my spirit, I know that being "Godly" is actually way easier than most folks think. It comes down to what you said: Obeying the New Law which Christ brought to us, that being to Love God above all other things, and to love one another as he loved us through his ultimate sacrifice. What complicates this is our flesh, both our physical instincts as well as one's soul( mind/emotions).
Being creatures of both spirit and flesh (especially in this beautiful and fallen age) it can seem incredibly daunting at times when physical loneliness and a desire for companionship rears its head. Personally, I feel that God can work through anything in this world: His kingdom which is Light will always obliterate Darkness, and so I believe that God can use the Internet, a dating app, a church gathering, or whatever to bring two of his beloveds together.
Myself, I feel that it is my sacred mandate to do the works of Christ, to be a minister and soldier of Light and Love, and by doing his Will, I will be led to the one I have been set apart for and vice versa.
In fact, i urge you to pray in good faith and cheer the positive affirmation that Father God has already provided the man you seek, and pray for him though you haven't met yet. I'm doing the same for my future wife Never forget that you always have the Father, Christ and the Holy Spirit with you in your search.
Blessings to you on your journey

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Well said!

I do differ on one aspect of what you wrote, however. I emboldened it in your quote.

Does God indeed have someone for everyone? Is it God's will that all men and women are to be yoked to The One He has chosen for them? I don't think so. Scriptures don't bear that out and real life doesn't bear that out. Indeed, it may be God's will that some remain single in order to better fulfill His purpose for them in life.

My best friend is 65yrs old and a devout Christian. Being an ex dope smoking Hollywood writer and producer, and a reformed womanizer, he is the modern iteration of Paul. He's never been married, but is constantly being pursued by women. He's been trying to get me to accept being single as a blessing ever since my divorce over 3 years ago. I'm finally beginning to accept it. I'm in my 40's with two grown children. I like my job, love where I live, and live a very stress-free life. I start to get lonely and wish I had someone to go to movies, dinner, plays, and weekend trips with and then am tempted to give a dating site a try, or maybe go to a church singles event. Then I think long and hard about what in my life that would change if I got a girlfriend/wife. Those dirty dishes in the sink? I do them when I feel like it. Make the bed? Please. I make it when I'm expecting company. Feel like a marathon session of watching DVR'd episodes of Counting Cars? I did that last night and no one made any comments about it.

I don't know... Maybe 20 years of marriage to a "good Christian woman" who was never happy with me and was very passive aggressive in her criticism of me has me none too enthusiastic of entering into another relationship.

However, my personal issues aside, I think there is plenty of Biblical evidence to suggest that being single is just fine with God, and that He just might not have The One picked out for everyone.

there out there. maybe try christian mingle dating site if your interested.

From what I've heard from female friends who have tried Christian Mingle, and from what I found myself when trying it over a year ago; there are A LOT of non-Christians on that site that are just looking to hook up.

No matter what web site or what way one has of meeting people with the hopes of a relationship and marriage, its going to take some weeding out people that aren't who you are looking for. Some are better at picking than others, some are better at hiding who they are than others ... it all makes of interesting times and good stories to tell.
The most important thing in my book is to keep looking and learning how to find a person who we can enjoy living with.

All the good Godly men are taken because they are good Godly men and they are not going to get divorced because they are good Godly men.

Are you a good Godly woman because a good Godly man is deserving to be equally yoked to a good Godly women, it would only be fair.

Tom Mix said:

All the good Godly men are taken because they are good Godly men and they are not going to get divorced because they are good Godly men.

Are you a good Godly woman because a good Godly man is deserving to be equally yoked to a good Godly women, it would only be fair.

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Not all divorced christian men are ungodly.After just three weeks of marriage,my christian,equally yoked wife told me,during an irrational argument,"I am going to drive you nuts!!" Well,after six years of this nonsense,in order to maintain my sanity,I realized that I had only three options. Those three options,in order to get out of this emotional torment, were divorce,suicide,or murder.

exitstageright said:

Not all divorced christian men are ungodly.After just three weeks of marriage,my christian,equally yoked wife told me,during an irrational argument,"I am going to drive you nuts!!" Well,after six years of this nonsense,in order to maintain my sanity,I realized that I had only three options. Those three options,in order to get out of this emotional torment, were divorce,suicide,or murder.

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So if I have a big need to walk into a harlot house and have relations with others it is ok because I need it?

It is better to not make a promise to God and not break it than to make a promise to God and break it.

One of our problems with modern Christians is we are down playing the importance of the promise we made to God to stay married no matter what until we die. That includes not getting along. Why did you guys not learn how to get along instead of break a promise to God. The answer is because it is easier to just break promises than it is to stay committed to the end. You have not fear or respect for God. You are only a Christian because you want the benefits but you don't want the hard work.