it just occurred to me that I am very unhappy with my life even though I know Jesus Christ and He is my Lord and Savior yeah why am I just so unhappy with the way my life going. Why I am so hard on myself.
I am so unhappy!
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Matthew Twentyfour
Take up your cross daily, and follow Me. Luke 9:23
Oh my goodness, some people can be really misleading around here. /sadface! Christ came to give us life, a real and good life to the fullest in and with the Father.
John 10:10 A thief comes to steal and kill and destroy, but I came to give life—life in all its fullness.
John 14:6-7
6 Jesus answered, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. The only way to the Father is through me. 7 If you really knew me, you would know my Father, too. But now you do know him, and you have seen him.”
John 14:10-11
10 Don’t you believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words I say to you don’t come from me, but the Father lives in me and does his own work. 11 Believe me when I say that I am in the Father and the Father is in me. Or believe because of the miracles I have done.
@ Historyincognito,
Read all of John chapters 15-17 very carefully in a translation you can fully understand everything being said. If you're truly following Christ doing what He commands of you, your relationship will grow, your prayers will be answer, and you will be experiencing peace and joy.
John 13:34-35
34 And now I give you a new commandment: love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 If you have love for one another, then everyone will know that you are my disciples.”
John 14:21 Those who accept my commandments and obey them are the ones who love me. My Father will love those who love me; I too will love them and reveal myself to them.”
John 14:23 Jesus answered him, “Those who love me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and my Father and I will come to them and live with them.
John 15:7-11
7 Stay joined together with me, and follow my teachings. If you do this, you can ask for anything you want, and it will be given to you. 8 Show that you are my followers by producing much fruit. This will bring honor to my Father.
9 “I have loved you as the Father has loved me. Now continue in my love. 10 I have obeyed my Father’s commands, and he continues to love me. In the same way, if you obey my commands, I will continue to love you. 11 I have told you these things so that you can have the true happiness that I have. I want you to be completely happy.
The gifts of peace and happiness are automatic and fundamental blessings, you don't even have to ask for it when you're following Christ in obedience. Obedience will also build up the relationship. Obedience is also required for salvation. No relationship = no salvation: depart from me, I do not know you. Matthew 7:21-23
1 John 3:22 And God gives us what we ask for. We receive it because we obey God’s commands and do what pleases him.
God as my witness. 99% of my life, I'm always happy and in peace. I get no problems in life. He keeps them away from me, all I do is what the bible say will please Him. The 1% is the thorn in my side Paul spoke of that helps me continuously walk in His faith. And I do love my life, especially the new heart He's given me.
John 10:10 A thief comes to steal and kill and destroy, but I came to give life—life in all its fullness.
John 14:6-7
6 Jesus answered, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. The only way to the Father is through me. 7 If you really knew me, you would know my Father, too. But now you do know him, and you have seen him.”
John 14:10-11
10 Don’t you believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words I say to you don’t come from me, but the Father lives in me and does his own work. 11 Believe me when I say that I am in the Father and the Father is in me. Or believe because of the miracles I have done.
@ Historyincognito,
Read all of John chapters 15-17 very carefully in a translation you can fully understand everything being said. If you're truly following Christ doing what He commands of you, your relationship will grow, your prayers will be answer, and you will be experiencing peace and joy.
John 13:34-35
34 And now I give you a new commandment: love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 If you have love for one another, then everyone will know that you are my disciples.”
John 14:21 Those who accept my commandments and obey them are the ones who love me. My Father will love those who love me; I too will love them and reveal myself to them.”
John 14:23 Jesus answered him, “Those who love me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and my Father and I will come to them and live with them.
John 15:7-11
7 Stay joined together with me, and follow my teachings. If you do this, you can ask for anything you want, and it will be given to you. 8 Show that you are my followers by producing much fruit. This will bring honor to my Father.
9 “I have loved you as the Father has loved me. Now continue in my love. 10 I have obeyed my Father’s commands, and he continues to love me. In the same way, if you obey my commands, I will continue to love you. 11 I have told you these things so that you can have the true happiness that I have. I want you to be completely happy.
The gifts of peace and happiness are automatic and fundamental blessings, you don't even have to ask for it when you're following Christ in obedience. Obedience will also build up the relationship. Obedience is also required for salvation. No relationship = no salvation: depart from me, I do not know you. Matthew 7:21-23
1 John 3:22 And God gives us what we ask for. We receive it because we obey God’s commands and do what pleases him.
God as my witness. 99% of my life, I'm always happy and in peace. I get no problems in life. He keeps them away from me, all I do is what the bible say will please Him. The 1% is the thorn in my side Paul spoke of that helps me continuously walk in His faith. And I do love my life, especially the new heart He's given me.
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I was going to post John 10:10 but @Matthew Twentyfour beat me to it.
Here's the hard truth: if you're unhappy with your life you do have the power to change it. Take a job in a new city, apply to a college in a new town, or something like that. The bottom line is: change your scenery. Break the status quo. If you're unhappy then you will remain unhappy as long as you don't make an effort to change anything. These things don't just fall into your lap, God's not a cosmic bellhop.
So take some time to brainstorm, try to figure out some of the possible causes of your unhappiness and then take physical action to improve those circumstances. If it's moving to a new city, great. If it involves branching out in new areas where you already are, that's cool too. The point is that you're making the effort.
The other thing is: you simply cannot hinge your happiness on one factor. Lamenting over a single lifestyle is not going to make you more desirable to women. You have to accept the single life, learn to enjoy the single life, and then maybe you'll find someone. But you have to truly and honestly come to terms with being single and enjoy being alone with you first.
Here's the hard truth: if you're unhappy with your life you do have the power to change it. Take a job in a new city, apply to a college in a new town, or something like that. The bottom line is: change your scenery. Break the status quo. If you're unhappy then you will remain unhappy as long as you don't make an effort to change anything. These things don't just fall into your lap, God's not a cosmic bellhop.
So take some time to brainstorm, try to figure out some of the possible causes of your unhappiness and then take physical action to improve those circumstances. If it's moving to a new city, great. If it involves branching out in new areas where you already are, that's cool too. The point is that you're making the effort.
The other thing is: you simply cannot hinge your happiness on one factor. Lamenting over a single lifestyle is not going to make you more desirable to women. You have to accept the single life, learn to enjoy the single life, and then maybe you'll find someone. But you have to truly and honestly come to terms with being single and enjoy being alone with you first.
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For a time, before truly becoming "born-again" then revelation says that "they did not love their souls, even in the face of death" so they were cast off, (as accursed children) or something like that....
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I don't think God promises us "happiness" but rather a life with purpose and meaning if we seek Him. However, if we desire happiness, it is our to responsibility to try to find it....which may mean changing things in your life, even if they are not easy or is uncomfortable.
I find that most times of unhappiness are God telling me that I shouldn't be satisfied where I am currently existing...that I need to reach out and grow and seek Him and where He wants me to be.
Happiness won't come from another person so looking for a GF/BF isn't the answer. But quite often, you become more attractive when you are happy so it often follows.
I find that most times of unhappiness are God telling me that I shouldn't be satisfied where I am currently existing...that I need to reach out and grow and seek Him and where He wants me to be.
Happiness won't come from another person so looking for a GF/BF isn't the answer. But quite often, you become more attractive when you are happy so it often follows.
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I've had that too.
God does bless you though, even though it's harder to see, and you've gotta look at the good parts.
I have been very unhappy (slowly it's changed, and I'm not doing bad), and yet God's blessed my business very well. I learned money doesn't help with happiness.
Now, he's taken a good friend away, and I've got clarity in life but am not ecstatic about life.
In the end you've got to look at the brighter side of things, and realize your situation in life CAN CHANGE in time.
Pray about it, think about what you can do to change your life, ask others for advice, attempt to understand what's bugging you, and be realistic. Changing things upside down might help. Sometimes, the same old beat won't do you any good, and will lead to stagnation. You never know but assuredly you best look at where you're at, get some hard truth opinions from others in your life, and see what to do next if anything.
Ah and to add to Blackribbon
Being happy, and content is very attractive.
A relationship is to compliment life, and be that capstone. Not to fix everything, and make it change totally. It can, and does happen. But idealistically you see the future person as somebody to compliment but not correct you as a person.
God does bless you though, even though it's harder to see, and you've gotta look at the good parts.
I have been very unhappy (slowly it's changed, and I'm not doing bad), and yet God's blessed my business very well. I learned money doesn't help with happiness.
Now, he's taken a good friend away, and I've got clarity in life but am not ecstatic about life.
In the end you've got to look at the brighter side of things, and realize your situation in life CAN CHANGE in time.
Pray about it, think about what you can do to change your life, ask others for advice, attempt to understand what's bugging you, and be realistic. Changing things upside down might help. Sometimes, the same old beat won't do you any good, and will lead to stagnation. You never know but assuredly you best look at where you're at, get some hard truth opinions from others in your life, and see what to do next if anything.
Ah and to add to Blackribbon
Being happy, and content is very attractive.
A relationship is to compliment life, and be that capstone. Not to fix everything, and make it change totally. It can, and does happen. But idealistically you see the future person as somebody to compliment but not correct you as a person.
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What is wrong exactly? What areas of your life give you grief?
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Because you are still human 
There are times when we as Christians are easily distracted from what great salvation we have because we still live in a broken world.
There are times when we as Christians are easily distracted from what great salvation we have because we still live in a broken world.
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Jeremiah 29:11 I know the plans that I have for you, declares the LORD. They are plans for peace and not disaster, plans to give you a future filled with hope.
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