I'm struggling with homosexuality.

I'm so sorry that you haven't been able to get much help for this sort of stuff. I think the best thing to remember is that ultimately, your sexuality doesn't mean that you are worthless to God. Don't get me wrong, homosexual sex is a sin, and the Bible makes that clear. Sex outside of God's design of any sort, even in what appears to be a "loving relationship", means nothing to Him. He knows our hearts.

I think the first thing to do would be to tackle your lust issue. Find a way to prevent yourself from viewing anything that would cause desire in you, and grow in God's Word so that you can fight off lustful temptations more easily.

It's hard for me, too, even though for me it's been mostly women lately. The way Western Christian culture places so much emphasis on marriage is really full of pressure. If your homosexual desires completely replace your heterosexual ones and don't "just go away", then that's not necessarily indicative of loneliness and misery. God calls many people to be single, although you shouldn't necessarily think that just because you are struggling with this now doesn't mean that you are guaranteed to be miserable your whole life.

Please stay strong and fight off your lustful temptations and grow in God's Word. It's much easier said than done--I should know considering that I am having my own battle with this--but it's not impossible. And the reward is lasting and permanent.

^The lust issue is a difficult one to be sure. It's different for everyone i guess. You both describe having or had heterosexual desires too. That's not something i can relate to unfortunately. I can go without looking at objects of lust, and will still get homosexual desires, at the most inconvenient times. It could be taking a test, or driving, or asleep. It sounds like that's not the case for you, which means there's a very real chance you could pursue a relationship with females. Especially if there's romantic attraction, often times, that's all that's expected. Of course, it helps to find someone you do have sexual attraction to, if you want to reproduce. Even then though, that's not necessarily required. I have an uncle with 3 kids who was always in the same boat - he was in love with his wife romantically but only to males sexually. So it is possible to pursue this path. I would be upfront about it with any potential partner though.

Trusting in Gods plan at times can be one of the hardest things we can do. I remember my struggle with the same issues. Refusing on the basis of being what God wants is hard, but he is our strength and we need to always ALWAYS ask for his strength. He will not withhold his power from us but we have to be conscious of such choices. Even though I struggled majorly with this over 10 years ago, sometimes the thought come, and You have to realize where these thoughts and feelings are coming from and take charge.

"Resist the devil and he will flee from you" is something that comes to mind every time, It may feel overwhelming, but he also says you will never be tempted beyond your ability.

Remember this and pray, I will.

James 1:5 KJV
[5] If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.

If you are a Christian or follower of Jesus Christ ask God for wisdom and guidance,but ask in faith and He'll answer in his own time and way. I know this that the Lord does not judge you neither condemns you in this,but he loves you and just wants a close personal relationship with you.

barotaro said:

^The lust issue is a difficult one to be sure. It's different for everyone i guess. You both describe having or had heterosexual desires too. That's not something i can relate to unfortunately. I can go without looking at objects of lust, and will still get homosexual desires, at the most inconvenient times. It could be taking a test, or driving, or asleep. It sounds like that's not the case for you, which means there's a very real chance you could pursue a relationship with females. Especially if there's romantic attraction, often times, that's all that's expected. Of course, it helps to find someone you do have sexual attraction to, if you want to reproduce. Even then though, that's not necessarily required. I have an uncle with 3 kids who was always in the same boat - he was in love with his wife romantically but only to males sexually. So it is possible to pursue this path. I would be upfront about it with any potential partner though.

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For me, it's almost 100% females now, although mainly it's been a paranoid fear of mine that I'm "still bisexual". But I'm doing my best to put that behind me now

Hey 'Guy'

Where do I start.?

I was 22 when ,in a Pentecostal church meeting singing among 200 people, it all went silent. I felt something rise up in my chest and felt it from lower chest go up to my head. in that time I heard a voice. not mine no one I knew. it said

"you take what I have for you now, or die the way you wish, you know you are hurting the one you know is there.:,that was 1982 when aids first started. I was very shy recluse and stuttering on nearly every word. and getting into the gay bondage scene deeper and deeper. I knew exactly what it meant. when I was 10 I stopped going to a catholic church because my mums mum died and she was staunch catholic, told mum to take us. Mum didn't want to, so I stood outside the church and said "God, I know your there and I know Jesus is your son." 12 years later God required that statement of me. At that time he made my conscience alive to His right and wrong. I kew it was sin.

For a while I had no way to stop one night stands. until I learned what authority we have being brothers of Jesus. and what His name had authority over. However. a mindset is very hard to break.

A homosexual mindset is cereated in us from birth to about 5 year old. it also depends on our character and social surrounds as well. There are certain things that we must do to lessen the power of the mindset. These I have found very helpful. but can be hardtop swallow.

1. forgive God for letting you be in that position. it may sound contrary but most if not all blame God for their predicament.

2. you will never get rid of memories. at this point in time your attention should be to be as holy as you can, now that doesn't mean try to be perfect, lol. We think of our past, yes but if you be as holy as what Jesus said that is having no unforgivenes toward God or man and have an attitude of dying to self then you are holy. Then we can say "in Jesus Christ name no thoughts I m not doing it." Many people have thought im crazy speaking that out, including Christian friends. It depends a lot on how serious we are about following Jesus.

I am married. you are young enough to make you life now soley committed to serve God. Do you have any hetro friends who know who they are as in their ID is that of aman/male. Discuss this with them. You need to find a male mentor, The younger you are when you do this the better.

This mentor must understand what you are going through, Not tell you off each time to have a one night stand. but approach it the next day as to find out what you listened to , to go that way. he must be willing to do trhis , it usuualy takes a few years. Using as well our authority that our prayers give. Gods authority over all things. yoursexual. not meaning the act of sex but your orientation will change. butwe will always have the memories of both sexes. its just what we do with them that counts.

in Chris Jesus

David H

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Yes, god loves us enough to give us free will, and yes; others free will have damaged your thought process. <Staff Edit>

While bad things happen, they are caused by the sinful nature of man-Not God.

I used to blame God for many things, now I realize that some of those things needed to happen (bad as they were) to bring me more into line with God's plan. I am more angry at myself for thinking so selfishly.

It is ok to be angry at God, when this happens you should tell him, its ok to be angry at him. But understand that anger at him is ultimately misdirected or from our own misunderstanding.

Just enjoy the Lord. You are more than what you think about or lust for.

GuyFromDownUnder said:

Hey brothers and sisters, I know this is my first post here but I feel absolutely alone and lost. I'm 18 and I have been struggling with homosexuality for quite a while now already.

I think when I was younger I thought about puberty and sex way too much. For a while, I definitely had heterosexual thoughts but for a reason unknown to me other than my own sinful nature, curiosity got me into homosexual desires and inappropriate content. And from there it became almost the only kind I watched and easily the sin I struggle with the most.

I've had only romantic crushes on girls, but have had plenty of sexual attractions to both sexes, though privately the homosexual sin dominates. I am completely aware of the sin this is before God, which as a result has made me feel very distant from Him and my faith is extremely suffering.

Right now I feel alone and lost and have gone through small periods of depression. I don't know what I'm doing with my life and I feel like a complete waste, this sin has been draining me gradually of all energy and motivation and I keep sinking. It's wrong, but I feel too ashamed to go to God after so many times of prayer and then failing instantly. I don't know what to do.

Being able to express this finally is a blessing, but I am feeling desperate and have nearly no direction in my life anymore. Encouragement and support would be incredible, but I really need prayer that I would remember God's will for my life and that He would work in my life as He sees fit for His glory. Thank you and God bless.

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I would suggest you read the book "What's So Amazing About Grace?" by Philip Yancey. The chapter "Grace Healed Eyes" talks about the sexual struggles his friend Mel White had. Mel is an openly gay Christian minister who reaches out to people who have had struggles with homosexuality.

God created you the way you are. Don't fight it. Stay away from churches and so-called "Christians" who call homosexuality a 'sin'. Acceptance of yourself is more important than being accepted by others.

Hi Gfdu. The issue your having many people struggle with, the Bible says nothing is new under the sun which simply means someone else might have a similar problem as another person. Those isses can be as such gluttony, pride, lust(all forms), envy, rebellious, profanity, lying, greed, sloth, etc..Someone might wish that they had another problem to deal with. Jesus says to follow him deny oneself and pick up your your cross. I believe what Jesus is saying is that when you are in Christ your a new creature so what new creature means is that the old man is crucified. The nature of Christ is what God gives a person who has repented and given their life to Christ. The old man has the nature of the enemy that's why whatever the issue is it must be given to Christ because remember God says it's not our battle. It is the Lords battle, therefore we must try to focus on Christ and help one another, the Bible says to bear one another's burdens. I believe reading God's Word and pray for God to lead you threw His Spirit will help you grow and have a better relationship with him.

God Bless you brother!

GuyFromDownUnder said:

Hey brothers and sisters, I know this is my first post here but I feel absolutely alone and lost. I'm 18 and I have been struggling with homosexuality for quite a while now already.

I think when I was younger I thought about puberty and sex way too much. For a while, I definitely had heterosexual thoughts but for a reason unknown to me other than my own sinful nature, curiosity got me into homosexual desires and inappropriate content. And from there it became almost the only kind I watched and easily the sin I struggle with the most.

I've had only romantic crushes on girls, but have had plenty of sexual attractions to both sexes, though privately the homosexual sin dominates. I am completely aware of the sin this is before God, which as a result has made me feel very distant from Him and my faith is extremely suffering.

Right now I feel alone and lost and have gone through small periods of depression. I don't know what I'm doing with my life and I feel like a complete waste, this sin has been draining me gradually of all energy and motivation and I keep sinking. It's wrong, but I feel too ashamed to go to God after so many times of prayer and then failing instantly. I don't know what to do.

Being able to express this finally is a blessing, but I am feeling desperate and have nearly no direction in my life anymore. Encouragement and support would be incredible, but I really need prayer that I would remember God's will for my life and that He would work in my life as He sees fit for His glory. Thank you and God bless.

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As a person that has suffered similar to you I strongly recommend you to tell your pastor/minister about this or if not your bible study group leader or Church leader. If you do not attend a church I strongly urge to do so as well as being actively involved which includes going to a small group bible studies group.

For me I no longer act on the homosexual desires and even though I may be tempted the temptation no longer gets a hold of me. The Lord does provide a way out of temptation and I rely 100% on the Lord for this.

Also what has helped was is straight christian male friends. I truly pray for you to have straight male Christian good friends to help and support you in your journey. You do not have to be open to your struggles with them but hanging out with them is really helpful.

What has also helped was read the Bible every day. I really encourage you to do this.

Also avoid going to places and situations where I am likely to fall into sin.

In addition a reason why I the homosexual temptations no longer get hold of me is I avoid inappropriate content and been doing it for months now. Yet it is the work of the Holy spirit that has really assisted me in avoiding inappropriate content. If inappropriate content is a problem with you I really encourage you to do something about this. Freedom from habitual sin: Overeating, inappropriate contentography, Smoking, Drinking I have found helpful, even in regards to my homosexual temptations, and sin.

If I feel tempted I pray, and if I am in a situation where I am likely to fall I get away from that situation and that would involve closing up a website where it can lead me to fall or if I avoid staring at a attractive guy at the beach, or street, etc.

I pray for you.