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I hope that this doesn’t make anyone uncomfortable but if it has or does I apologize profusely.

For those who do not know me I’ve worked for the last 25 years at a job I never expected to work at for more than a few years. I live in an apartment but that’s not so bad, is it? I work as a security officer. It’s a good job in which I’m paid enough to where I’m able to live by myself and put some money in the bank. I’m 53 years old and I do apologize for my lack of faith but does God have a plan for my life? What can he do with a person who barely graduated high school and no work skills? I went to a community college but when you have a GPA of 1.4 after a semester or two you soon realize that college isn’t for you. I’m not married and have never been married because-I know that this may sound harsh but-I don’t want to risk marrying the same kind of woman my mom was and is. The security contract as the place where I work has come up for bidding and it appears that the company that I work for won’t be awarded the contract again but that it may be awarded to another company. This has happened twice before and I was retained by the new companies but I may or may not be retained this time. I don’t know and the total hours for security will be reduced although if I’m retained mine may not. I’m so depressed about this and my personal situation that it’s easy to despair. I don’t know what to think or what to do.

Once again I apologize for unloading. I just wish I had more faith or some confirmation that God still cares and/or is still looking out for me.
 
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I may be wrong and please correct me if I am, but you seem to judge whether your life has been successful based on your job, education and money to a certain degree.

This may be part of the problem because God is spiritual and our relationship with him is spiritual. The Word tells us that Jesus said that He is not of this world and in Christ we are a new creation. When we come to the Lord, He sends the Holy Spirit to live in our hearts. We also know that Jesus has said He is with us always. He will NEVER LEAVE US OR FORSAKE US. We become the body of Christ. The entire church is the body of Christ. We, the children of God are the church.

Do you want to become more spiritual? That is what the Lord is and where we find Him. In prayer do you pray often? Daily?

Jesus can be your,best friend . He does not care what kind of job you have or how much education you have. Those are things of this world. In Christ, just as this world is not His home, this is not our home.

Write back. I will be praying for you.
 
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Start looking AROUND NOW. AT YOUR LEVEL OF EXPERIENCE YOU PROBABLY KNOW MORE ABOUT YOUR CRAFT THAN ANY COLLEGE PROFESSOR.

You could easily qualify as a supervisor based on experience alone. Your ability to maintain a job for so long thru several takeovers shows you are the kind of individual that is dependable and always available to work. Your age is not an issue these days and frankly you have more responsibility to offer than the kids in the job sector these days.


I was told once that God always closes one door before He opens another. It would be more comforting if He opened the new door first I know but He just doesnt. He wants you to trust Him. That pleases Him. So do that. Trust your Savior to be who He said He is.

Also why not begin to look around to see what is available? And not just in security. In any field that doesnt require a degree to apply.
 
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Actually, I do. And I read my Bible every day as well.

That is awesome! Try to make it a point, when you are reading the Word to evaluate whether anything is based on worldly success? None is, I guarantee you.

Did you know all the disciples were fishermen? A fisherman was a very low status in those days. They were uneducated and taught a trade by their father and just made enough to live off of.

Jesus chose and chooses the small of this world and makes them large. Jesus did not pick those who were successful, he took the unsuccessful and made them some of the most important people in the early church.

Does that make sense?

I am praying for you brother. The Lord has something planned for each of us. It may not be monetary, but it is fabulous!
 
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Also why not begin to look around to see what is available? And not just in security. In any field that doesnt require a degree to apply.
This is what I use to do and quite frankly all it ever produced was letters stating, but not in exactly these words, "Thank you for applying but the position has been filled". Sometimes I wouldn't receive a reply at all to my application and/or interview. The job service here is less than helpful. When I registered with them and was assigned someone who helps veterans, who is himself a veteran, I received job recommendations that I specifically asked that I was not interested in. When I asked why I was receiveing such recommendation I received nothing but excuses. Needless to say it wasn't long before he stopped calling me and I was no longer receiving updates and recommendates from the job service. I just wish I didn't feel so helpless and hopeless. I just wish it didn't affect me like it doesn't affect others. Some people shrug this off with no problem.

Some have said that we're to wait on God but I've been waiting for such a long time.
 
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Did you know all the disciples were fishermen? A fisherman was a very low status in those days. They were uneducated and taught a trade by their father and just made enough to live off of.
One of them was a tax collector as well.
 
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This is what I use to do and quite frankly all it ever produced was letters stating, but not in exactly these words, "Thank you for applying but the position has been filled". Sometimes I wouldn't receive a reply at all to my application and/or interview. The job service here is less than helpful. When I registered with them and was assigned someone who helps veterans, who is himself a veteran, I received job recommendations that I specifically asked that I was not interested in. When I asked why I was receiveing such recommendation I received nothing but excuses. Needless to say it wasn't long before he stopped calling me and I was no longer receiving updates and recommendates from the job service. I just wish I didn't feel so helpless and hopeless. I just wish it didn't affect me like it doesn't affect others. Some people shrug this off with no problem.

Some have said that we're to wait on God but I've been waiting for such a long time.

Don't be so down because you do not hear back from employers. Most employers do not contact you unless it's to schedule and interview. That's just the way they operate. It costs a lot of money in postage to reply to every applicant and usually only the large companies with reputations to keep do it.

I think and hope that you move away from expecting God to give you a better job. God does not always give us what we want, I've prayed for many years for a certain thing and haven't gotten it.

God blesses us in other ways. Look for your blessings elsewhere. To get caught up in the expectation of a better job may not be how you will best be blessed nor serve the Lord.

How has the Lord blessed you? In what areas of your life?
 
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Don't be so down because you do not hear back from employers. Most employers do not contact you unless it's to schedule and interview. That's just the way they operate. It costs a lot of money in postage to reply to every applicant and usually only the large companies with reputations to keep do it.

I think and hope that you move away from expecting God to give you a better job. God does not always give us what we want, I've prayed for many years for a certain thing and haven't gotten it.

God blesses us in other ways. Look for your blessings elsewhere. To get caught up in the expectation of a better job may not be how you will best be blessed nor serve the Lord.

How has the Lord blessed you? In what areas of your life?
Sorry to sound so negative but looking back on my life I can't say that I have been.
 
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Don't be so down because you do not hear back from employers. Most employers do not contact you unless it's to schedule and interview. That's just the way they operate. It costs a lot of money in postage to reply to every applicant and usually only the large companies with reputations to keep do it.

I think and hope that you move away from expecting God to give you a better job. God does not always give us what we want, I've prayed for many years for a certain thing and haven't gotten it.

God blesses us in other ways. Look for your blessings elsewhere. To get caught up in the expectation of a better job may not be how you will best be blessed nor serve the Lord.

How has the Lord blessed you? In what areas of your life?​
Sorry to sound so negative but looking back on my life I can't say that I have been.

You sound very much like myself and my heart is breaking for you. I know how it is to feel unloved, uncared for and that your life is going no where. It's just no way to live.

Do you have a doctor diagnosed depression? I'd really like to know. Let's talk more. :thumbsup:
 
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You sound very much like myself and my heart is breaking for you. I know how it is to feel unloved, uncared for and that your life is going no where. It's just no way to live.

Do you have a doctor diagnosed depression? I'd really like to know. Let's talk more. :thumbsup:
No, I don't want to see a doctor because I don't want to be put on any medication. I would say my mother suffers from depression because all the signs are there and dad says she gets depressed. My older sister is depressed as well and is on medication. When she gets off her meds her behavior becomes very eratic. I won't go into what she has done here, at least not yet. My younger sister tried to make her a ward of the state and possibly get her committed but the older sister was able to avoid that somehow. Is depression inherited? Do you know if anyone overcame depression without medication? I am really hoping that I can and do.

I've got a three day weekend starting today so I'm going to try and take it easy and maybe see a movie. I don't know it that will help.
 
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Also why not begin to look around to see what is available? And not just in security. In any field that doesnt require a degree to apply.
I've done that but either no one is hiring or I don't get hired.
 
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No, I don't want to see a doctor because I don't want to be put on any medication. I would say my mother suffers from depression because all the signs are there and dad says she gets depressed. My older sister is depressed as well and is on medication. When she gets off her meds her behavior becomes very eratic. I won't go into what she has done here, at least not yet. My younger sister tried to make her a ward of the state and possibly get her committed but the older sister was able to avoid that somehow. Is depression inherited? Do you know if anyone overcame depression without medication? I am really hoping that I can and do.

I've got a three day weekend starting today so I'm going to try and take it easy and maybe see a movie. I don't know it that will help.

Yes go see a movie!

I have depression so I think I can offer a little helpful information that I have learned from my doctor and accumulated over the years.

Exercise is really good. It releases happy endorphins into your body when you exercise. Try to take a walk each morning and evening. If you have a dog, then you have a partner to walk with. :) Take a multivitamin. You will notice your symptoms getting worse if you do not have a well balanced diet. I don't know why but mushrooms help depression.

Surround yourself with positive people as much as possible. When you notice you are starting to feel down, that is a sign for you. A sign that you are draining yourself. Recognize the signs and triggers for yourself.

Positive self talk. Do not let you (your inner voice) speak negatively about yourself. That negative self talk is a destroyer. A destroyer of happiness, self esteem and not who you are in Christ Jesus. You know how important you are to Jesus. Do you value yourself that much? If not, you should. We need to love as Jesus loves and that includes yourself.

You have a wonderful extended weekend and I'll check back to see if you posted. I will be praying for you.
 
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Yes go see a movie!

I have depression so I think I can offer a little helpful information that I have learned from my doctor and accumulated over the years.

Exercise is really good. It releases happy endorphins into your body when you exercise. Try to take a walk each morning and evening. If you have a dog, then you have a partner to walk with. :) Take a multivitamin. You will notice your symptoms getting worse if you do not have a well balanced diet. I don't know why but mushrooms help depression.

Surround yourself with positive people as much as possible. When you notice you are starting to feel down, that is a sign for you. A sign that you are draining yourself. Recognize the signs and triggers for yourself.

Positive self talk. Do not let you (your inner voice) speak negatively about yourself. That negative self talk is a destroyer. A destroyer of happiness, self esteem and not who you are in Christ Jesus. You know how important you are to Jesus. Do you value yourself that much? If not, you should. We need to love as Jesus loves and that includes yourself.

You have a wonderful extended weekend and I'll check back to see if you posted. I will be praying for you.
In really appreciate your replies TBB. Other than this depression it's the feeling of helplessness about my not being able to do anything about my situation and that I'm at the mercy of forces other than my own or my lack of job security. But these days who does have job security? And my anxiety about it all. Wish I had more faith. Once in a while I get the thought that God would have nothing to do with me and my problems but I have to remind myself that the God who made the world and everything in it is every bit as interested in me and He was when He was making the world and everything else. Hope that makes sense.

Once again, thanks for replying.
 
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Start looking AROUND NOW. AT YOUR LEVEL OF EXPERIENCE YOU PROBABLY KNOW MORE ABOUT YOUR CRAFT THAN ANY COLLEGE PROFESSOR.

You could easily qualify as a supervisor based on experience alone. Your ability to maintain a job for so long thru several takeovers shows you are the kind of individual that is dependable and always available to work. Your age is not an issue these days and frankly you have more responsibility to offer than the kids in the job sector these days.


I was told once that God always closes one door before He opens another. It would be more comforting if He opened the new door first I know but He just doesnt. He wants you to trust Him. That pleases Him. So do that. Trust your Savior to be who He said He is.

Also why not begin to look around to see what is available? And not just in security. In any field that doesnt require a degree to apply.

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