Whats one thing you are glad you learned at 40

That being a custodian brings smiles to many people's faces, and that it would lead to an "in" for a better job within the same workplace.

That 40 isn't as old as I always thought it was.

Yeah, isn't that the truth, lol. I'm trying to convince myself that 50 isn't so old now.

MountainBluebird said:

Yeah, isn't that the truth, lol. I'm trying to convince myself that 50 isn't so old now.

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Although today after having sprained a back muscle in one shoulder, still healing from shoulder surgery in the other shoulder and just plain ole worn out from packing for the last 3 weeks, I am having a hard time convincing my 45 year old body that it is not OLD.

patience

That it isn't an age that disqualifies me from having a family of my own.

That caring too much what people think of me really doesn't matter. Only being faithful to Jesus, loving God and staying in his will brings joy and peace.

That life is not going to follow the the trajectory that I planned and hoped for. For me, the the 40s brought a time of sobering reality. Thankfully, the humility that comes with it is beneficial for my more important trajectory... the eternal one that really matters.

That being single is the best thing for me, personally. I like running my own show, and being in control of the household finances and knowing precisely where every penny is coming from or going to. I also prefer to keep my own social company without having to worry about anyone's feathers getting ruffled. I am a long-time contra dancer, so I have a good rapport with a lot of guys (none of whom I am interested in).

And that it is always better to speak up for yourself and draw the line when you are being disrespected than to try to cater to the other person in order to keep a dysfunctional relationship going when the best thing for all parties is for it is end. I believe women need to have a healthy self-worth and take a strong stance on acceptable/nonacceptable behavior from an SO before getting involved in a serious relationship with someone. It's a lot harder to develop these things during a relationship that turns out to be dysfunctional, the way I did.

Of course, I learned these in my 30's (won't turn 40 until next Friday), but they stand me in good stead for my 40's and beyond.

That every disagreement you have with another is not a battle worth fighting. Pick your battles and may it be important and Glorify the Lord.

Turning 40 wasn't as traumatic as I'd originally thought.

bfdd6988 said:

Turning 40 wasn't as traumatic as I'd originally thought.

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It really didn't impact me emotionally. Turning 30 actually bothered me more than turning 40. Was probably due to just the mind state I was in at that time. Was also unsaved at that time, as well.

There will be more work to do at work. no matter how much work you take home.

Grandchildren are soooo much nicer and more fun than raising your own children! All the fun, much less responsibility.

I learned that I could still be a kid at heart even though I had just gone through a divorce. So I bought kites and a Frisbee and played in the park as often as I could with my daughter 😊

That God brought me to him. Had been without him for 38 years, and I can honestly say I didn't do very well without him in my life.