Moving out of town....

.Mikha'el. said:

Now that I'm in the full library technician program, I have this wonderful opportunity to finally move out of town as I've always longed for. There's a starting point for where I could go, and it would be possible to get a transfer from my boss to the store in the city with the main university campus. Unfortunately, that's where the good things stop. The logisitics of living down there scare me. It's one of the most expensive regions of the country to live in. I do have friends and family in the region I could live with, but I'd be loathe to live with family because I think that would be a big hinderance to the sense of independence I'd have, and I can't assume friends would take me in. Everyone lives in the area, but not necessarily in the cty where the university campus is. In moving 200 miles away, I'd really rather not be living with a total stranger. I'd sooner live alone than do that....

While I could work at the same grocery store chain I'm at now, I'd also be taking full-time studies, which would really limit the hours I could work, and the money for paying expenses. There's always living off student loan funds, but the first accomplishment I had was repaying my student loans from my previous degree before graduation, and I'd be erasing that totally.

Sure I'd get my program done faster, and would eliminate many of the sources of unhappiness I now have, but I just worry about how practical it is....

Thoughts?

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graciesings said:

The first thing that came to mind is that it would be good for you to go for it because sometimes the best thing happen when we step out of our comfort zones.... you've stayed in yours for a long time and I think it's time for you to step out and be more independent. I'm not saying it's bad for you to stay at home with your parents, but I think you'll be happier if you're more independent...

Is there an aunt or a friend who you can rent a space (like a spare bedroom) from? It might cost less for you to rent the guest room at, say, your aunt's house, than to live on your own. You wouldn't feel as bad about being a financial burden on someone if you were actually renting your space. And, you would have more freedom as a renter than as someone who's staying there because it's free.... they'd probably allow you more privacy and be less picky about what you do and don't do, and if it doesn't work, you can move without seeming "ungrateful." It's a thought...

I don't think living alone is a bad thing, really, if you find a place you can afford.

I recommend cutting down on your CF time if you move up there.... you'd be able to work more hours if you're online less (although I'll miss you lol)

I really don't think you want to get into student loans.... debt is not usually the answer....

There will always be worries because nothing is completely practical.....


In conclusion, I think it's great that you've been saving money by living with your parents, but if you're ready for a change, don't be scared to make that move. Also, it's in your interests to finish your degree faster, because you'll be able to get a better job when you're graduated.... right?

And I encourage you to pray about this because God has plans for your life... He has this all taken care of, and knows what the right answers to these questions are So I pray that he'll guide you to make the right decision.

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