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Not a bad thought, except that's not how you spell offense. Sorry. I'm a bit of a grammar nazi.
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I am not really sure if the Sahari Desert is with one s or two...
I tell my wife at times I want an ice cream dessert/desert depending on how I spell it.
I may be unknowingly asking her for a dry, arid, wasteland of ice cream.... That may not be such a bad thing. Or then again, maybe it is
..as long as she does not take a fence at it
Sorry, my bad. Thanks for the correction.
Spelling is my weak spot.
yes (albeit they were saved by faith in that covenant because they had faith in Gods word ,just as we do )
but while i agree on making allowance for time in respect to dealing with a wave of emotions ,i think i cant agree that emotions can be allowed to dictate when we forgive .
because forgiveness is not an emotion it is a chosen act of the will .
to refuse to forgive is the opposite to walking in the Holy Ghost and thus fully a carnal (motivated by all the attributes of the flesh in self seeking/serving )act.
it may take time for one to "feel" the results of forgiveness but those results will never transpire until forgiveness is begun .
it would be like waiting for a tomato plant to give you tomatoes ,when you haven't even planted the seed in the ground .
so i consider that waiting until my emotions are appeased is simply pandering to "self" in self importance and self pity. putting how ,"I" feel, over and above the eternal good of all others .. and that is not Godly love in the spirit at work .. that is simply flesh (carnal).
forgiveness is the chosen eternal relinquishment of our "rights" to see justice metted out for wrongs done even when we feel nothing of the sort .it is undeserved mercy ..just as such grace was shown us in Christ ,so we MUST display such grace to others ALWAYS .without exception without excuse .
thats the same question i had to ask myself ..and i agree ,being hurt is not wrong but the temptation to then take offence at the hurt becomes rather evident ..
later that day i responded kindly, talked to the lord about it gave it to him and let it go ...(forgave)
if i had taken offence and responded otherwise ,i doubt it would have resulted in what happened -they shuffled their plans and are now attending and all is well
i believe our first response should be to act -in the spirit , forgive as fast as we can .. the flesh and emotions may (and Do)take time to catch up .. but we are not to walk in the flesh ....
I disagree with the premise that you did not take offense.
You clearly stated that you were offended by this. You were so offended that you knew you could not reply back to his text over worry that you might not handle the situation as Christ would have you. So you were clearly offended. You were clearly hurt and were thinking of others in your family that would also be hurt by the decision.
After you thought about the offence, you made a decision to give that offended feeling over to the Lord.
IMHO, you gave your hurt and offended feelings to the Lord and forgave the person and let go of the situation, giving it to God. however, both offense and hurt did still occur.
Also we are forgiven by God to the extent that we are forgiving of others ..this is made extremely clear by the word of the Lord Jesus .. "if you do not forgive men their sins ,neither will your father in heaven forgive you "
in short to take up and hold and nurture an offense .. is the sin of UNforgiveness and it is IMO the most heinous of all sins , it is a sin which enrages God ..and justly so after al he has done for us in Christ Jesus ... while we were dead in sin .. not after we repented .
In a very weird and unexplainable way, it actually helps us grow in the grace of God when we offer forgiveness to someone who hasn't offered an apology. But even here, we must be careful that our motives are pure. If we offer forgiveness just to be seen by others, then our motives are not pure either. Likewise, offering an apology in an attempt to evoke an apology is not of pure motive.
I'm sorry for all you've had to go through, but I believe that God has used your circumstances to teach you the power of not taking offense, and the fruit of it is good indeed!