My Last Thread in Singles

So I'm making this be my last thread in Singles. I haven't decided if I want to reply in it if it gets any at all. It depends on what the replies are, honestly. I'm not going to debate or disagree, argue or reply to any tearing down of what I see and feel that has happened in Singles.

I'm here to try and open your eyes just one last time, then I am officially done and I am giving up on Singles for good. I am not mad, I am disappointed.
Christian Forums is the #1 website that comes up when you search for "Christian forums", it's probably either the biggest, or one of the biggest forums geared for Christians. Unlike popular belief, Singles is not the most active area on the forum, there are other ones. Friendship Court is a pretty active area, and so are the Theology and Politics area, and the CO areas as well. The majority of CF is actually very active, or else CF I think would cease to work if just being active with Singles area.

The reason I am making this be my last thread in this area is because... For years I have tried to make this area more appealing, I have tried to make it fun and serious, active, and inviting to new users. The outcome? I cringe when new people arrive here. Because they are met with snarky attitudes, un Christ like behaviors, and an unwillingness to be mature adults and let others into their groups of friends. Serious threads are replied with sarcasm remarks, off topic pictures and memes, debating and arguing when that is not wanted or needed. Fun threads are replied with whining, sarcasm, hurtful comments and "I'm just trying to help" unhelp advice that is unwanted and unneeded because people are just trying to make you feel bad and they know it.

I use to love posting here in Singles. It was what I looked forward to when getting online. I shrugged off that we went through seasons of times like I have stated above, but now.... It just seems like it's always like this. Like the group of people who are in Singles right now only want to cause chaos and immaturity and ruin it for the very few who actually just want to be normal.

I didn't intentionally get on Singles trying to help make it a better place, I thought it was pretty awesome as it was. But I found myself after awhile, especially being on staff, wanting to help make it a more consistently nice place to post. I felt like if I were on Staff, members would feel more secure that someone who knows them and comes from their "neighborhood" so to speak, would take care of their area better. I felt like being on Staff, I would be able to do a better job at getting Singles thoughts and ideas and concerns up to staff quicker. But all I was met with was anger for my decision to be on staff, and people I had known for years, turned their backs on me and I was left with only a few friends. People still talk to me, all the time, yes. But I don't have friendship like I did before on here, and it's all because people just hate authority so much on here, they would rather throw someone to the side for the decision they make, rather than be positive and know the person hasn't changed.

I'm not power hungry, I am not hunting my own members down and getting them in trouble, I am not reprimanding my friends, or being bossy and telling everyone what to do all the time. And yet I feel like I am. I feel I am being treated this way. And it's not my imagination and I feel like if you think about it, you'll agree.

My idea of being on staff is nothing like I thought it would be. I thought oh man, I will get to help my friends, I will be the go between and the helper, I will be the unifier between them and staff because I know the relationship has been rocky. And sure, I get a lot of "We like you Jennie, we think you're awesome, it's not about YOU, it's about STAFF" ...Well guess what? I AM staff. I am a staff member. I am just like them, and I feel offended by the remarks trying to separate me from them.

Guess what they're doing? They're trying to make Christian Forums better, but all they are met with every single day is complaints, harsh words, trouble, and aggrivation. I'm surprised we even have Staff because of the members on here. It's a tragedy. And it's all because of people acting so immature and un Christ like. They are being the exact opposite of what Christ has told us to be like. And that's just sad. We have a reputation to uphold, all of us. Myself included. And we are demolishing it with every single snarky, sarcasm, complaining, negative word we post on here. And honestly I don't see it being over yet.

I am not calling anyone here a non Christian when i say "Un Christ Like", I am just simply stating we could stand to be more like Him. Thats what I've been trying to do for the last few years. And yes, I fully take responsibilities for my actions in here. I understand it was me who wanted to change this area, and not your decision. It can only be changed when members change their attitudes. And for that, I am sorry for trying to change Singles into what I wanted it to be.

Thank you all for reading this, I may or may not reply at all. As I said, I haven't decided anything yet. I will not be defending, debating, justifying, or changing anything in my above post. It is what it is.

Jennie