why are people sarcastic?
It's annoying.
I try to ignore..I notice men do it a lot, women not so much. Is it insecurity, or they want to puff themselves up or what?
What does the Bible say?
something about fresh and salt water do not mix?
why can't people say what they mean and mean what they say?
I'd hate to talk with someone all the while believing and trusting what they say only to have them bite back and say ...just kidding. Does that mean they are goat-talking instead of sheep-talking. I always think that children should never be called kids, it demeans them. But I do realise some people on here get highly offended if I say that..
Jesus said - feed my sheep. Feed my lambs. Not feed my goats and my kids.
I think for most people being sarcastic is habitual. Or they likely learned it from their parents or peers. It may have gotten them attention and so became ingrained as part of their modus operati. But I do agree, it is annoying.
I just finished a ten week bible study on the Epistle of James. In that he deals extensively with the tongue and what it can do. I especially noted this scripture: James 1:19 " My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry..."
I believe sarcasm is a form of anger and is definitely rooted in an insecure personality. It may be a habit and unintentional but it was learned and it can wound others.
It is also counter productive in that it pushes most people away from the sacastic person.
So, how do you deal? I usually listen and then change the subject or gradually withdraw. Also it is best to not get defensive at all knowing that the problem is the other person's more than yours. And definitely begin praying for that person.
When I was in college I could be very sarcastic because I grew up in an atmosphere where this was prevalent and generally part of life. One day a girlfriend took me aside and gave me a booklet all about I Corinthians 13..She never said I was sarcastic but she bravely gave me the answer which, of course, was to examine my own heart and see if I was loving others.
I think they say "just kidding" because they somehow sense what they are saying could hurt sensitive people so they cover it with that remark. I admit that I have done that myself when I thought I had overstepped my comments and may have offended. Better to correct oneself and say, "I shouldn't have said that." Then we would likely say, "that is okay." and the conversation could continue in a positive way. I think that is better than going back later to apologize. But if we are the recipients we must forgive the comment as quickly as we can. Unforgiveness and taking things too personally can be a bigger problem than encountering sarcastic remarks.
I wouldn't necessarily recommend confronting with a scripture chapter or passage but if somehow the time seems right you could do as my college friend did. At first I was under conviction and didn't like her for saying such. But as time went on I did appreciate that moment in my life and never forgot the incident. I think it changed me a lot because someone lovingly told me the truth about my lack of love for others.And before that wake up call I didn't realize that my habit of sarcasm wasn't okay or could harm others.
Consistant sarcasm is definintely unloving but it involves more than just speaking such. It involves a necessary change in thinking and thinking patterns. Philippians 5:8-9 can help "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirableif anything is excellent or praiseworthythink about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in meput it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you."
If you don't ignore the talk or walk away you could counteract the sarcasm with positive remarks about the person or situation. If it is a dart aimed at you..then not responding is good although awkward. Better than reacting in a negative way.
Most of all pray as I am sure my college friend must have done for me especially before she approached me.
This is a very good question which gave me food for though. Thank you for starting this thread. Bless you much!