It Hurts Being Single

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Hello,

I really need prayers right now. Every weekend I get an overwhelming since of loneliness and longing to be married. I'm 32 and have not been in a relationship for six years. I believe that God will send me a husband but it still hurts sometimes to be alone. It seems like everyone around me always has someone. It even seems like people who get divorced have no problems finding someone else and remarrying.

I don't understand why I'm single. It just hurts and I pray and cry out to God about it. Pursuing men has proven to lead to nothing but heartache and disappointment in my life. I choose to wait on God. I choose to endure it. I just need prayers that God will help me with the pain that I feel.


Please pray for me.
 

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I was in your same situation...well, 13 years ago now. I was 29, single, had not been in a relationship for 5 years and a friend of mine suggested that I make a list of all the qualities I was looking for in my future husband, even the way he looks. I thought this was the silliest thing I had ever heard. So, after she hounded me about it for the 20th time. :mad: I decided to make her my list. I ended up with 2 1/2 pages of great detail of what I wanted. From the serious stuff to 'I don't care what color of eyes he has, as long as they are bright and the same color, and not crossed. I want him to be 5'7" to 6'11". I do NOT want him to be a sports, hunting, or fishing fanatic. I don't want him to have been married before, and defiantly no children before. I want him to have a similar past as because I didn't always live my life for God, and I didn't want to feel tainted or less of a christian.(That's so silly now that I think about it.) I said I wanted him to be a true gentleman....God please send me a Boaz. (as in Ruth and Boaz) In a lot of the listed things I was being VERY sarcastic and somewhat of a smart allelic. However, less then 2 years later,(I was 31) God fulfilled ALL of the important things...his eyes were the same color. ;) He had a REAL relationship with God. Never had been married, no children, was not a sports, hunting, or fishing fanatic and he was 39. I thought Oh Lord he's a little old for me. Then God put the thought in my mind. "You asked for a Boaz!" (Yeah, but he didn't have to be as OLD as Boaz!) I'm over now. I say all of that to tell you this: Please don't give up, God may be still working on getting your future husband ready for you or you ready for him. Pray for your future husband. Once you're married. You'll be praying for him daily. Oh, yeah something else I did...because I wanted to, not because someone else had suggested it was: I wrote my future husband letters. Even though I had not met him yet, I wrote him many letters. And after we were married I let him read them. He loved them! Some of them were "WHERE ARE YOU? I'M WAITING RIGHT HERE!" others were, "I'm so sorry that I chose to date others and got my heart wounded knowing now you will have to help me heal from the damage that had been done." I just wrote down what I was thinking and feeling at the time. Just the real, raw, ugly, sweet, tender, and honest feelings I was feeling at the moment I was writing. He cherishes those letters because he can see the struggle I went through waiting for him. Your in my prayers.

P.S. However, before I met him I was NOT desiring a husband. I kept myself busy for the Lord. I worked in the nursery at church, (that's were I got my baby loving time in. I did want children pretty strongly) I was teaching 5-6th grade Sunday school classes, and was head over a youth drama team that traveled out of state. I loved my job! I was completely happy and had a fulfilled life being single.

STOP praying for a husband! That would mean he's already married, you're not a wife yet, so you don't want him to be a husband yet. Pray for YOUR future husband that God has for you. May I make just one more suggestion in love? It seems like you may need to learn to be happy with you and God. Because it seems like you might end up depending to heavily on a man to make you happy. And that's never a good idea. I love you and praying for you.
 
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Loving and merciful God, maker of the world who made them both male and female. My sister in Christ feels a deep longing in her life that is a good longing for you made them male and female, to be wedded and produce children. Almighty Father, I ask that you would be with this person, unknown to me but not to You, that she may always know that the deepest love she can ever know is Yours. I do pray in intercession for her that she would find a godly man - that this is a good thing for You made it so - and that she may not only experience this blessing but also to know that it is by Your infinite kindness that she gains this great blessing in her life. In Jesus name I pray. So be it.
 
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Have you tried (with deep prayers for protection and wisdom of course) getting on an online Christian dating service? My half sister met her husband that way. They were brought together by their interest in ferrets! Lol. But it's been a long term and working relationship.

Praying for you for guidance, wisdom, insight, patience and the right one for you.
 
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I have prayed for you. I am, in a certain way, in your same boat, in the sense that I am single. My Christian friends have wanted to match me up with guys but that doesn't work very well. A lady in church was matched up and boy was she miserable later on! I have prayed for both of us that the Lord Himself will be our matchmaker. Stay cheerful and wait!
 
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Hello,

I really need prayers right now. Every weekend I get an overwhelming since of loneliness and longing to be married. I'm 32 and have not been in a relationship for six years. I believe that God will send me a husband but it still hurts sometimes to be alone. It seems like everyone around me always has someone. It even seems like people who get divorced have no problems finding someone else and remarrying.

I don't understand why I'm single. It just hurts and I pray and cry out to God about it. Pursuing men has proven to lead to nothing but heartache and disappointment in my life. I choose to wait on God. I choose to endure it. I just need prayers that God will help me with the pain that I feel.


Please pray for me.

Poor Heart, I think its beautiful when a heart asks kindly for love, it is so sweet and sincere, hopeful

what is your definition of pursue sweet heart.?.

you havent found the right man because GOD is protecting you, he knows you deserve the best one, in my deepest regards your friend
 
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