The time is fast approaching when I will celebrate
another birthday-- I'll be 50 on November 30th!
(Cue the theme from Hawaii 50 LOL!)
In another thread...
I was reading over what someone else posted about
aging and not hiding behind make-up, hair dyes or
avoiding people who are showing their age etc.
As a "all natural" black woman I found the person's comments refreshing
and they made me smile.
However, I do know from personal experience that walking
through the mall can be tricky for me because I will be the one targeted by the cosmetic sales people with their: Let me help you "enhance" your looks speeches.
Those nails...
I had a man (who was selling a nail kit) to actually take me by the hand
and immediately start trying to do a manicure! I made him stop and he
started in with his verbal attack-- "Don't you want a free nail make-over? Seriously hon, why would you want your nails to look so "boring" and unattractive?
I told him that if he was trying to sell me anything he was doing a miserable
job of it and I walked away quickly!
Then there's the girls selling flat irons... I get targeted by them too!
If being "natural" is my choice, why does it bother folks so much?
My hair is naturally curly...to flat iron it isn't what I want at this time.
With comments like: "Why the big hair, it's not the in style?
Get with it girlfriend!" "Men don't like nappy" or "Can't you afford a relaxer?" etc.
I hear many such comments not only from sales people but from people I know
and it's not uncommon for strangers to make comments as well...doesn't matter
if I'm in the USA or Canada...no make-up, no nail job, supporting my curly fro
isn't "acceptable" to many people.
Women seem to find it odd or unnatural to go without make-up, no hair dye or
getting their nails done etc.
I asked my husband what he thought and he said: "I love you for you, whether
you wear your hair relaxed (you look good) if you wear your hair natural (you look good.)
Make-up or no make-up? He said he prefers no make-up but was
fine with me wearing it whenever I choose to wear it... which isn't too often.
I've been "natural" for a long time, it's not a new trend with me... so, I would
ask what you all think of about a woman being "natural" -- no make-up,
no trendy nail job, no hair dye...just aging gracefully?
If you are also "aging gracefully"...share your story too if you like.
another birthday-- I'll be 50 on November 30th!
(Cue the theme from Hawaii 50 LOL!)
In another thread...
I was reading over what someone else posted about
aging and not hiding behind make-up, hair dyes or
avoiding people who are showing their age etc.
As a "all natural" black woman I found the person's comments refreshing
and they made me smile.
However, I do know from personal experience that walking
through the mall can be tricky for me because I will be the one targeted by the cosmetic sales people with their: Let me help you "enhance" your looks speeches.
Those nails...
I had a man (who was selling a nail kit) to actually take me by the hand
and immediately start trying to do a manicure! I made him stop and he
started in with his verbal attack-- "Don't you want a free nail make-over? Seriously hon, why would you want your nails to look so "boring" and unattractive?
I told him that if he was trying to sell me anything he was doing a miserable
job of it and I walked away quickly!
Then there's the girls selling flat irons... I get targeted by them too!
If being "natural" is my choice, why does it bother folks so much?
My hair is naturally curly...to flat iron it isn't what I want at this time.
With comments like: "Why the big hair, it's not the in style?
Get with it girlfriend!" "Men don't like nappy" or "Can't you afford a relaxer?" etc.
I hear many such comments not only from sales people but from people I know
and it's not uncommon for strangers to make comments as well...doesn't matter
if I'm in the USA or Canada...no make-up, no nail job, supporting my curly fro
isn't "acceptable" to many people.
Women seem to find it odd or unnatural to go without make-up, no hair dye or
getting their nails done etc.
I asked my husband what he thought and he said: "I love you for you, whether
you wear your hair relaxed (you look good) if you wear your hair natural (you look good.)
Make-up or no make-up? He said he prefers no make-up but was
fine with me wearing it whenever I choose to wear it... which isn't too often.
I've been "natural" for a long time, it's not a new trend with me... so, I would
ask what you all think of about a woman being "natural" -- no make-up,
no trendy nail job, no hair dye...just aging gracefully?
If you are also "aging gracefully"...share your story too if you like.