So do you girls actually make sense.
naughty mister. We do make sense. If you would listen more you would know
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So do you girls actually make sense.
I think guys need to man up and go up to a girl and talk to her if you like her. We are people you know.
Yam, here I am just like a man, will you take my hand?
haha easier said than done. Personally I don't have a problem talking to girls, starting the conversation, finding a reason to go say high. YES I have a problem with that, but actually talking, no. My other big problem is I have absolutely no idea how to shift from small talk to like, flirting.
Why do you need to flirt? If you're flirting, it means you're thinking about romance, which (should) mean you know the woman fairly well. That would lead me to believe you're comfortable talking to her. If you don't know her well, you shouldn't be flirting, so you don't need to worry about it.
Don't run before you walk. All you have to do is talk to a woman like any other person, with zero expectations. You have to get any ideas of romance or the future or what you want out of your mind. Otherwise you're going to take things way too seriously, and when she lets you down--gently or not--you're going to get disappointed.
Rinse, repeat.
Meh, I can be perfectly comfortable talking to a woman (or close enough to comfortable) for a while. However its making that leap from talking as "friends" who chat before class/at church/whatever regularly to actually having a romantic interest and wanting to ask her out that kills me. I'm a blunt person and last time I ask a girl out she reacted as if I had ask for her hand in marriage. Apparently asking someone out for coffee means your desperate
I have no idea how to express that I'm romantically interested, and when I do that means it comes as a complete shock/out of the blue for them.
That's why it's easier to be a friend and simply let a romantic interest--a MUTUAL romantic interest--grow between you. It keeps you from having to play the game, from having to observe all the rules of "say this," "don't do that," and all that crap that's so meaningless.
Be friends with a woman, and remain her friend. If she's interested, it will show. When the mutual interest develops, it will be unavoidable. You won't be able to miss it.
Until then, you have to be patient.
Alright....let me spell this out even more clearly. I can not tell when a woman is interested. I suck at expressing interest, in fact I think I actually give off an uninterested vib when talking to a girl I have a crush on for fear of coming off to strong. No matter how long we are friends, those facts remain.
You're thinking too much. Just let it come naturally.
Dark walker, I agree with that....
I have social problems in general. I have 0 friends. How do you mess up a life so bad to end up with 0 friends? My parents go out and socialize more then I do. Maybe I need professional help.
Firstly you need to take girls off the pedestal. Do you watch movies? Just try to replicate how they talk and interact with people. Strike up a conversation with a guy for practice if you're more comfortable, and you may even get a friend out of it. Watch Simple Pickup on youtube for tips, to boost your confidence, and see how easy it can be to talk to people.
Having said that I'm not great at it either, I'm still learning, but maybe you could use some professional help for your social anxiety.
naughty mister. We do make sense. If you would listen more you would know