- Jan 17, 2003
- 1,701
- 47
- 49
- Faith
- Baptist
- Marital Status
- Married
- Politics
- CA-Conservatives
I had this as a journal entry but didn't realize there was a forum for them.
Testimony: Forgiveness, Anger and Rage. Part 1
After reading many of the threads about anger, rage and forgiveness I have decided to tell part of my life story and testimony. Much of my life was a struggle with all three of these things but ended up in victory over anger and rage God granting me the gift of forgiveness.
As with everyone else here I had no control over what family I was born in to. The first five years of my life I was bounced through a dozen foster homes and spent little time with my birth family. The time I did spend there was horrible to say the least. The only memory I have of my father was him taking his belt and hitting my face with it for putting water in the sand box after being told not to. The only memory I have of my mother is her screaming as he beat her. The other few memories that I do have are basically feelings of terror. When I was five I was adopted by the people I call my parents. They picked me and they knew that I was one messed up and hurting little boy. They showed me love that I had never seen before. They also introduced me to a God that I had never heard about before. At the age of seven I remember praying with the pastor at our church to become a Christian. My walk with God had begun.
Although I love my parent dearly now, it was not always that way. For years and years I hated my mother because of one mistake she made. My parents were very brave in that they knew that I was abused before I was adopted but they did not spare the rod. My parents still spanked me when I needed it, and unfortunately, on occasion when I didn't. There was a time that I was out with my Mom at a friend of hers and I embarrassed her some how. Well when we got home she took me upstairs and grabbed one of my Dads belts. She did not realize that it had metal studs all down it. As it hurt like heck I tried to get away, but she was mad as heck and tried to keep spanking me. The result was bruises all over my bottom and my lower back. It was at this point I started to hate my Mother. She had done to me the very thing that they were to have rescued me from. Oh how strong I hated her. Over the years this hate for her grew. There were many times that she would exaggerate or lie to my Dad about something I had done. This caused many fights between my Dad and I. My Dad did not take kindly to my saying she was lying.
At the age of 18 I had enough and ran away from home. It was during this time that God taught me forgiveness. It was also during this time that God took away almost all the other distractions in my life, including the girl that I had dated for the past five years. God slowed life down to a crawl so that He could get my attention. During this time I spent a lot of time reading the Bible and praying. Although I first prayed the prayer of forgiveness when I was seven, it was at this time in my life that I committed my life to God. It was also the time in my life where I saw God as the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. It was at this time that I realized I had a heavenly Father that loved me more than anything. He would not beat me, He would not despise me, He would not call me names or put me down. He loved me so much that He sacrificed His own Son for me. It was at this time that I fell in love with my heavenly Father. It was at this time that Jesus became my closest friend. It was during this time that the Holy Spirit became the One that comforted my and guided me. This time was and still is one of the high points in my relationship with God. During this time I spent a lot of time focusing on my salvation and what God had done for me. While doing this I learned about Gods forgiveness and in turn the Holy Spirit gave me a gift of forgiveness. As a result of this I forgave my birth father for all that he had done to me. I forgave all the foster families that I was angry with. Then I forgave my adopted parents. It was at this time that I realized that they were my salvation on earth.
As I mentioned above, we dont have a choice in what family we are born in to. It is also true that we have no choice but be born in to a sinful life. And just as my adopted parents didnt have to adopt me, they did. They did knowing that I was a messed up boy and I was not going to be an easy road. They went to court and paid the price to have me become part of their family and in doing so saved me from miserable life. God did this for us too. He chose us even though he knew we were messed up and that we will fail Him over and over. He sent His Son to die for us and pay the price for us to be part of His family and not only that but also saved me from eternity in Hell. As God showed me this I not only forgave my parents but also began to love my mother and father. Even though they were not perfect parents (dont think that there is such a thing) and they made mistakes along the way, they saved me from a miserable life. I actually appreciated all that they had done. I praised God for them and thanked Him for them. I ended up calling my parents and asking for forgiveness and moved back home. Now life was not smooth by any means when I moved home, but things were pointed in the right direction. It is the same as our salvation. Just because we are saved and have chose to follow God, doesnt mean that we dont have to still live with the consequence of our sins.
Then came Bible College. This is where God gave me the ultimate test in forgiveness. While at Bible College my parents gave me a call one day, they wanted to meet. It sounded serious and it was. When we met they handed me a piece of paper that that was cut out of the newspaper. The title was, Sister looks for long lost brother, and I was the long lost brother. I admire my parents to this day for giving me that piece of paper. I cant imagine how hard that must have been. They had spent the past 16 years hiding and protecting me from my past only to turn around and give me the key to opening it. In the article there was a phone number to call, it was my sisters home number. After going back to the college (was living at the college) I prayed alone and then with a friend. Then I called the number and then over then next three months God blew me away. My sister lived about five minutes from the college. Over the three months that I spent in contact with my sister I found out a lot of what happened when I was younger. She was older than me and so had clearer memories than I did. What I found out confirmed what I remembered and she told me of much worse things. My sister was not as lucky as I was and taken out of that family. As a result she ended up with three kids (the first one when she was 16) from three different guys and was engaged to a forth. She was living the miserable life that my parents saved me from. I knew that God was testing me because I had forgiven all that my birth father had done. And through the strength that only God can give I passed the test, I did not take back what I had forgiven. In doing this, my sister saw that there was something different with me and wanted to know what it was. As a result she learned what forgiveness was and what Gods forgiveness was. She became a Christians and shortly afterwards, so did her fiancé. With the help of my adopted sister and friends from school she was placed in a caring church that could help her and her fiancé turn their life around.
Testimony: Forgiveness, Anger and Rage. Part 1
After reading many of the threads about anger, rage and forgiveness I have decided to tell part of my life story and testimony. Much of my life was a struggle with all three of these things but ended up in victory over anger and rage God granting me the gift of forgiveness.
As with everyone else here I had no control over what family I was born in to. The first five years of my life I was bounced through a dozen foster homes and spent little time with my birth family. The time I did spend there was horrible to say the least. The only memory I have of my father was him taking his belt and hitting my face with it for putting water in the sand box after being told not to. The only memory I have of my mother is her screaming as he beat her. The other few memories that I do have are basically feelings of terror. When I was five I was adopted by the people I call my parents. They picked me and they knew that I was one messed up and hurting little boy. They showed me love that I had never seen before. They also introduced me to a God that I had never heard about before. At the age of seven I remember praying with the pastor at our church to become a Christian. My walk with God had begun.
Although I love my parent dearly now, it was not always that way. For years and years I hated my mother because of one mistake she made. My parents were very brave in that they knew that I was abused before I was adopted but they did not spare the rod. My parents still spanked me when I needed it, and unfortunately, on occasion when I didn't. There was a time that I was out with my Mom at a friend of hers and I embarrassed her some how. Well when we got home she took me upstairs and grabbed one of my Dads belts. She did not realize that it had metal studs all down it. As it hurt like heck I tried to get away, but she was mad as heck and tried to keep spanking me. The result was bruises all over my bottom and my lower back. It was at this point I started to hate my Mother. She had done to me the very thing that they were to have rescued me from. Oh how strong I hated her. Over the years this hate for her grew. There were many times that she would exaggerate or lie to my Dad about something I had done. This caused many fights between my Dad and I. My Dad did not take kindly to my saying she was lying.
At the age of 18 I had enough and ran away from home. It was during this time that God taught me forgiveness. It was also during this time that God took away almost all the other distractions in my life, including the girl that I had dated for the past five years. God slowed life down to a crawl so that He could get my attention. During this time I spent a lot of time reading the Bible and praying. Although I first prayed the prayer of forgiveness when I was seven, it was at this time in my life that I committed my life to God. It was also the time in my life where I saw God as the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. It was at this time that I realized I had a heavenly Father that loved me more than anything. He would not beat me, He would not despise me, He would not call me names or put me down. He loved me so much that He sacrificed His own Son for me. It was at this time that I fell in love with my heavenly Father. It was at this time that Jesus became my closest friend. It was during this time that the Holy Spirit became the One that comforted my and guided me. This time was and still is one of the high points in my relationship with God. During this time I spent a lot of time focusing on my salvation and what God had done for me. While doing this I learned about Gods forgiveness and in turn the Holy Spirit gave me a gift of forgiveness. As a result of this I forgave my birth father for all that he had done to me. I forgave all the foster families that I was angry with. Then I forgave my adopted parents. It was at this time that I realized that they were my salvation on earth.
As I mentioned above, we dont have a choice in what family we are born in to. It is also true that we have no choice but be born in to a sinful life. And just as my adopted parents didnt have to adopt me, they did. They did knowing that I was a messed up boy and I was not going to be an easy road. They went to court and paid the price to have me become part of their family and in doing so saved me from miserable life. God did this for us too. He chose us even though he knew we were messed up and that we will fail Him over and over. He sent His Son to die for us and pay the price for us to be part of His family and not only that but also saved me from eternity in Hell. As God showed me this I not only forgave my parents but also began to love my mother and father. Even though they were not perfect parents (dont think that there is such a thing) and they made mistakes along the way, they saved me from a miserable life. I actually appreciated all that they had done. I praised God for them and thanked Him for them. I ended up calling my parents and asking for forgiveness and moved back home. Now life was not smooth by any means when I moved home, but things were pointed in the right direction. It is the same as our salvation. Just because we are saved and have chose to follow God, doesnt mean that we dont have to still live with the consequence of our sins.
Then came Bible College. This is where God gave me the ultimate test in forgiveness. While at Bible College my parents gave me a call one day, they wanted to meet. It sounded serious and it was. When we met they handed me a piece of paper that that was cut out of the newspaper. The title was, Sister looks for long lost brother, and I was the long lost brother. I admire my parents to this day for giving me that piece of paper. I cant imagine how hard that must have been. They had spent the past 16 years hiding and protecting me from my past only to turn around and give me the key to opening it. In the article there was a phone number to call, it was my sisters home number. After going back to the college (was living at the college) I prayed alone and then with a friend. Then I called the number and then over then next three months God blew me away. My sister lived about five minutes from the college. Over the three months that I spent in contact with my sister I found out a lot of what happened when I was younger. She was older than me and so had clearer memories than I did. What I found out confirmed what I remembered and she told me of much worse things. My sister was not as lucky as I was and taken out of that family. As a result she ended up with three kids (the first one when she was 16) from three different guys and was engaged to a forth. She was living the miserable life that my parents saved me from. I knew that God was testing me because I had forgiven all that my birth father had done. And through the strength that only God can give I passed the test, I did not take back what I had forgiven. In doing this, my sister saw that there was something different with me and wanted to know what it was. As a result she learned what forgiveness was and what Gods forgiveness was. She became a Christians and shortly afterwards, so did her fiancé. With the help of my adopted sister and friends from school she was placed in a caring church that could help her and her fiancé turn their life around.