I think that in an environment of intolerance, many gay people are reluctant to come forward. Perhaps you've encountered many more gay folks than you realize, but had no idea they are gay. How would you even know?
Unlike God, I only know people for what they reveal. For those who are not telling, I have no way of knowing. Yet there are some quite telling clues, as already expounded upon. Even so, these clues are in no way determinant of such inclinations, merely clues, tending towards a full picture. Some, however, are perfectly content to keep their sexuality to themselves, and I commend these folk, for I consider sexual preference and acts to be a private matter, I myself, intrepid to discuss with anyone but my husband, and NEVER with children (for they are like angels).
I can't tell if I'm being poe'd but you seem to be describing a sex crazed cartoonish stereotype that is borderline propaganda.
Borderline propaganda or no, this is a reality for many so inclined, at least, this is my experience.
Perhaps the first step should be to humanize these folks.
I cannot, this is something they have to do for themselves.
Have you ever heard this expression?;
Rom 2:1
Therefore thou art inexcusable, O man,
whosoever thou art that judgest:
for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself;
for thou that judgest doest the same things.
IOW IMHO; If persons so inclined judge themselves as outcasts by society, they will outcast society because they have judged others as out-casting them. I do not say that they are not really being outcast, for indeed, some have suffered terribly at the hands of others for indulging their sexual inclinations, which aught not be done. But to judge society, rather than the acts, or sins, of each individual, is to discriminate at face.
I believe this is a major reason that some people gravitate sexually towards a transgenderism, even as noted by doctors of psychiatry;
Here is
Medscape on such;
Stoller described the psychoanalytic etiology of female transsexualism as unclear but listed some preliminary findings, as follows:
Neither the mother nor the father of the girl has a gender disorder
The mother is unable to function in the first months or year of the daughters life, because of deep depression (or, in a minority of cases, paranoia or physical illness)
The child knows that the mother is present but beyond emotional reach
The father does not minister to his wife; rather, he has the daughter minister to her
The daughter is described as vigorous, ungraceful, and unattractive in infancy
The father engages the daughter in activities that interest him, thus promoting masculine behavior
By the age of 4-5 years, the daughter already yearns to have the anatomic insignias of maleness, a yearning born out of pain and conflict from premature maternal separation
It should be kept in mind that these ideas are preliminary postulates rather than established facts; confirming data are unavailable.
The above notes a whole lot of judging going on from the children , while their conscience is still developing, perhaps, as suggested, even scarring the children for life.
There are gay professionals all around this country that deserve our respect. Doctor's, judges, managers, mothers, sons,...etc.
Is being 'gay' a qualifier that is must be used in every description of the person? Do you see how this person is considered as 'gay' above everything else by you just now, as least in your speech?
Why are they 'gay' professionals, and why point out the fact they are 'gay'?
And if you say it's for the sake of argument, I ask you why argue this?
Is it not enough that they are professionals that they require a 'gay' qualifier?
Why a 'gay' qualifier when being 'gay' has nothing to do with professionalism?
For that matter why the qualifier when being 'human'?
Setting aside that sexual orientation is not itself a behavior I would describe it as the same compulsion you and I have.
While it may be true that we all gravitate towards love and acceptance, how we meet these out is directly determinant of how well these legitimate needs will be fulfilled, partially or fully, if at all.
Being married for over 15 years, the good Lord has taught me much on this subject, through some very hard lessons. Man is incapable of meeting my needs for love and acceptance. And to reach out to man for these is as grasping at straws.
The needs exists, and they are legitimate, God given needs, but mankind will always fail, at one point or another, to satisfy our needs for love and acceptance, which can only be meet by God.
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Jn 3:16
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
1 Jn 4:9
In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him.
I know speaking for myself, I don't have a choice in how beautiful I find women and unattractive I find men.
If, after getting to know the
most physically attractive woman in the world, you find that she is inwardly undesirable, for whatever reason, you would no longer be physically attracted.
So yes, we DO have a personal choice in the matter. In fact, some of the very traits that repulsed you, might very well be desirable by other men, for whatever
personal reason they chose.
This all boils down to personal choice, and if it is argued that choice is not involved, then it must, by nature, boil down to a genetic default, for the lack of being able to reproduce is an undesirable trait in a species, no?
No matter how advantageous it would be to date a man I could never be into it.
That was your choice. You judged for yourself that woman were more advantageous for you to love due to various factors, for whatever reasons you judged woman as advantageous.
Again, whether someone finds it moral or not does not take away from the fact that self identified gay folks do exist and they should have the same access to rights as the rest of civilization.
Agreed. Providing their rights do not interfere with the rights of others, such as the right to chose for oneself, within the parameters of societal law. Or infringe upon other
special rights groups, such as religious. If so, the inherent harm to each group must be weighed, given that both have the same special rights.
I appreciate the honesty. If you're concerned about psychological damage, why not take into account the findings of the American Psychological Association who denounces and reject the idea of inherent psychological damage?
You are sadly mistaken.. Any who are not comfortable within their skin, for whatever reason, are often found in a sad state of mental health, in need of intervention.
Furthermore, the real psychological damage comes from a gay persons family and friends who decide to disown them...
Georgia students family disowns and assaults him in nightmarish gay intervention video
(Note: I didn't post the direct youtube link because of language)You tell me which is more damaging.
Though this may be the experience of some, I am confident they have also received acceptance from their fellow man on many an occasion. Nevertheless, as I pointed our earlier, no man can fully satisfy our need for love and acceptance, only God can, and has. Whether or not a person believes such only affects his present state, not the reality of the love and acceptance He has lavished upon us in Christ.
Again I direct you to the APA. They can be very helpful.
Can be yes, though I would be reluctant to throw caution to the wind, in dealings with them.
As opposed to rejecting their sexuality? How would that be possible?
By having our minds renewed by God, to a state where we are healed of our past judgements.
Rom 12:2
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by
the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Tit 3:3-7
For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another. 4 But after that the kindness and love of God our Saviour toward man appeared, 5 Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost; 6 Which he shed on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Saviour; 7 That being justified by his grace, we should be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life.
Phil 1:21
For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.