iambren
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If you are a virgin and it's a prerequisite that your mate be also,this should be brought up WAY early in the courtship. How cruel to string them along and pull the rug out later.
DarkWalker's 3 points were excellent as a guide:
1. Are you a virgin?
This is pertinent, not for the sake of discerning holiness, but because it sets the expectation of experience. I am a virgin, so on my wedding night, I will likely fumble around. With apologies to my future wife, it's not going to be something out of a romance novel. If you have sexual experience, you may or may not like having to bring your spouse up to speed on your likes and dislikes.
2. Do you have any illnesses I should know about? This is self-explanatory. You don't want to receive an unexpected "gift" that keeps on giving on your wedding night.
3. Have you had any experiences that influence your perception of sex? I would want to know if my wife had been assaulted in any way, lost a child due to miscarriage, found basic sexual behavior to be unpleasant, or had any views about sex that were influenced by something she had been told. I would also want to know if she struggled with any kind of addiction to inappropriate contentography or masturbation, because these things would influence more than just our sex life as a couple.
DarkWalker's 3 points were excellent as a guide:
1. Are you a virgin?
This is pertinent, not for the sake of discerning holiness, but because it sets the expectation of experience. I am a virgin, so on my wedding night, I will likely fumble around. With apologies to my future wife, it's not going to be something out of a romance novel. If you have sexual experience, you may or may not like having to bring your spouse up to speed on your likes and dislikes.
2. Do you have any illnesses I should know about? This is self-explanatory. You don't want to receive an unexpected "gift" that keeps on giving on your wedding night.
3. Have you had any experiences that influence your perception of sex? I would want to know if my wife had been assaulted in any way, lost a child due to miscarriage, found basic sexual behavior to be unpleasant, or had any views about sex that were influenced by something she had been told. I would also want to know if she struggled with any kind of addiction to inappropriate contentography or masturbation, because these things would influence more than just our sex life as a couple.
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