Would you sent your child to school which allows corporal punishment?

Naomi567 said:

Many Christian schools allow it, and numerous public U.S. schools also.
Would you administer such discipline at home?

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Other questions to ask:

Can you opt out? Can your kid? (In many schools both parent and kid have to agree.) If you opt out will it make your kid feel odd? Will your kid feel pressured to accept something he or she doesn't want?

Does the school have other approaches for discipline, or does it primarily depend upon corporal punishment?

Probably not. But we homeschool. I cannot say I've never used corporal punishment with my children, but the times I did had nothing to do with school.

Their policy would have to be in writing AND I would have to personally trust the spanker's judgment and know that they agree with our values. I would not feel comfortable letting a stranger spank my child, short of a clear-cut violent or deliberately immodest offense.

Though our strategy included spankings, at times, they weren't effective for my children with mental problems.

I remember getting swats with a paddle in third grade, pretty much followed the rules the rest of my school years. Mrs. Walker......still remember her name, maybe that's why I am loosing my hair now

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I went to a Christian school that had corporal punishment, but don't remember anyone ever actually getting it. And their policy was to notify parents by phone first.

I wouldn't consider it a deal-breaker. I think the real question would be, what did my child do to warrant corporal punishment? I send mine to public school, but never once had a behavioral incident (so far). I don't remember misbehaving at school as a kid either... though it was a long time ago, so I can't be certain. I think it's safe to say that most kids don't misbehave at school enough to warrant drastic punishments anyway.

I'm not a proponent of corporal punishment, but don't think it needs to be unilaterally removed from the disciplinary repertoire either.

I know this may seem weird with me being a non-Christian but I am in full support of corporal punishment being used in schools. Having a sister who is a senior teacher I have learned nothing else but the fact that proper parenting in the home and corporal punishment in school is a win/win situation.

I am just laying my 2 cents

Nope.

I went to a school that allowed spankings when I was little. I got spanked once, for lying, and it was one of the most humiliating things I've ever endured. It did not "teach" me anything, except that it created a barrier between me and my teacher and the other school officials, shattering the loving trust I'd formerly had in them.

And no, nobody will ever put their hands on my child except me.

Not a chance in hell.

Absolutely not.

definately, once it is not abused or out of anger but just to discipline

Both my boys attended schools in Singapore, where boys are caned. Girls are not however. Now in Malaysia they attend schools that do not cane.

My oldest son was given a stroke of the cane when he was 11, the younger one wasn't caned in his 2 years there. The school gave one stroke for the first time, and if needed again would give 2 or 3 strokes. It was a good school with strong discipline and high standards.

If the current school did the same i would not mind - if they misbehave they will get a spanking from me anyway.

I was rulered on the back of my legs and later caned on the hands at school! too long ago.

Faye

Never.

there should be an option to opt out.
I think it can be abused.

Not at all.

No, no, no.

No.

In the US, a public school teacher is barely even allowed to grab a child at the elbow to get their attention.

In classrooms with special needs children who can be violent, teachers are required to use a certain hold where there is no chance of the student claiming injury.

Children learn more by watching than hearing. IMO, a physical act shows children that their future responses should be physical.

But my initial gut reaction, is that it should not be a teacher's role.
We hand our children over to people who have not yet earned our trust. They have degrees and work contracts, but offer no guarantee that the children will be in a safe environment. Punishment can prevent other children from harming each other, but then again it might not.

It is not their business to inflict pain on our children. And our kids should not learn that physical pain comes along with love and learning. Otherwise, how will they know to walk away from a real abuser?

I'm shocked, and disgusted, that any school would use corporal punishment, on children. This is barbaric, and backwards, to me. Schools in Sweden, they were not using corporal punishment when my parents were attending, decades ago. It is strictly forbidden, to strike any child, at home, school, anywhere. It is not done.

corporal punishment was used in my school I attended. Teachers and principles could do it at their own discretion. In a small country school in Texas that was just the way things were and we didn't question it. but when I became a parent, I never wanted that for my own children. by the time my kids started school, fewer schools were doing it, and teachers generally did not. It was usually only done by the principle and after a phone call to parents.

We switched school districts and parents were asked to sign a permission form for the priniciple to do it, and the description included a statement that it might cause bruising. I opted out. The following school year, the permission form was not sent home for parents to have the option.

For many parents it's not a matter of choice, whether they would send their kids to a school that uses it. Their children have to attend their local public school.

I would never allow them to swat my daughter. Sometimes I wonder if what they did was much worse. My daughter struggled with reading and math and one day she came home crying, we also heard about this from some parents before school let out, the principal was degrading her in front of her classmates and other students about her learning disabilities and how her grades are dragging down the overall grades of the school. If she can't bring them up, then she will be held back again. She was held back in kindergarten for the same problems.

When I found out about this, I went down to the school and she started in on me about the same subject. I then started in on this principal about how if she has something to say to me, she can talk to me in the privacy of a conference room not in front of other students and parents as well as staff. I added that if she had a problem with this we can discuss it with the superintendent. She was not happy with my attitude. I then started in on her about how she ridiculed my daughter in front of staff, parents, and students and how improper that is on so many levels. I told her that if she ever did this again and I will have her job.

I then put in for change of school and was denied. I then put in for change of district and was denied. Our superintendent quit and I had a lengthy conversation with the new superintendent about what had happened from beginning to end. He said he had been receiving a lot of complaints about this principal and that she will be put on notice that this type of activity will no longer be tolerated. He was willing to do a transfer of school, but it was to one that was 19 miles away which would be 38 miles round trip when there was one that was only 8 miles away where my daughter had many friends already because of our church's youth program. So at this point, we decided that the time had come to start homeschooling. While she still struggles in math and language arts, her grades in history and science actually went up drastically.