hi, fellow fifty-ers. i've got a problem coming on with my mom. she is 73 and she is developing alzheimer's or dementia and doesn't believe it. the reason i'm putting this post up is that i'm real sure others here, in our age bracket, have had to deal with this and any wisdom is very welcome.
some days she is lucid and very much her normal self. some days she will ask me the same question over and over. she frequently burns food, her driving has become very poor. my father told me that a couple of years ago, she caught the kitchen on fire and did several thousand $ worth of damage. - my father had kept that quiet. -
my sister, who spends more time with our parents than i do, told me that mom's deteoration became noticably worse when she had some kind of treatment for her thyroid about 3 yrs ago. my sister also suspects that our mom might have had a stroke awhile back and that dad kept it quiet.
the reason my dad keeps quiet about alot of this has to do with my mother's anger issues. she has always had a bad bad temper and she tends to be vindictive. now, if anyone trys to talk to her about her forgetfullness, she "goes off" on dad the minute they are alone. it is at the point where dad is exhausted and absolutely needs help.
my sister are planning to sit down with mom sometime in the next 2 weeks and try to help her confront this, an "intervention". is this a good idea or a bad idea? we really need her to get into some kind of treatment or therapy but in order to do that she's got to accept that something is wrong.
any advice is welcome, God bless you.
some days she is lucid and very much her normal self. some days she will ask me the same question over and over. she frequently burns food, her driving has become very poor. my father told me that a couple of years ago, she caught the kitchen on fire and did several thousand $ worth of damage. - my father had kept that quiet. -
my sister, who spends more time with our parents than i do, told me that mom's deteoration became noticably worse when she had some kind of treatment for her thyroid about 3 yrs ago. my sister also suspects that our mom might have had a stroke awhile back and that dad kept it quiet.
the reason my dad keeps quiet about alot of this has to do with my mother's anger issues. she has always had a bad bad temper and she tends to be vindictive. now, if anyone trys to talk to her about her forgetfullness, she "goes off" on dad the minute they are alone. it is at the point where dad is exhausted and absolutely needs help.
my sister are planning to sit down with mom sometime in the next 2 weeks and try to help her confront this, an "intervention". is this a good idea or a bad idea? we really need her to get into some kind of treatment or therapy but in order to do that she's got to accept that something is wrong.
any advice is welcome, God bless you.