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Hi there, I've got a question that's awkward to directly address with the wife.
We've been married seven years, happily married overall. She is 5'2". When we started dating, she was 95lbs, very slender and womanly. Today she is around 120. Might not sound like a lot but when you have barely 5 feet to work with, it adds up quickly. I'm 6'2" and 190.
We have 2 kids, understandably you gain weight during pregnancy. Less understandably is why you gain a lot of flab during pregnancy, and don't take it off after. Pregnancy is not the issue - I've seen pregnant woman with more slender, attractive figures than my wife when not pregnant.
We are barely in our 30's, and I'm looking with sadness at how she doesn't seem to do much to deal with it, and wondering if I'm going to be destined to live with a porker from now on. I don't want to leave because we have kids, and because I don't think that's right given my Christian faith.
Can you give me some tips on motivating a woman to want love her husband in how she keeps her physical appearance? Seems all too often that the girl will work hard at it before marriage when it benefits her, but then abandon it when it is mostly for the hubby's sake.
Talking about it is one thing - but have to be really careful because she's the kind of person who will interpret any kind of request for change as an intended attack. Looking for more indirect ways - or direct ways that will make an impact.
We've been married seven years, happily married overall. She is 5'2". When we started dating, she was 95lbs, very slender and womanly. Today she is around 120. Might not sound like a lot but when you have barely 5 feet to work with, it adds up quickly. I'm 6'2" and 190.
We have 2 kids, understandably you gain weight during pregnancy. Less understandably is why you gain a lot of flab during pregnancy, and don't take it off after. Pregnancy is not the issue - I've seen pregnant woman with more slender, attractive figures than my wife when not pregnant.
We are barely in our 30's, and I'm looking with sadness at how she doesn't seem to do much to deal with it, and wondering if I'm going to be destined to live with a porker from now on. I don't want to leave because we have kids, and because I don't think that's right given my Christian faith.
Can you give me some tips on motivating a woman to want love her husband in how she keeps her physical appearance? Seems all too often that the girl will work hard at it before marriage when it benefits her, but then abandon it when it is mostly for the hubby's sake.
Talking about it is one thing - but have to be really careful because she's the kind of person who will interpret any kind of request for change as an intended attack. Looking for more indirect ways - or direct ways that will make an impact.