Should a Son ask his Dad if he's been viewing inappropriate contentography?

Should your father ask you about how often you touch and what you think about when you do?

Are you confronting a sin (against God and your mother) on their behalf?

What is your evidence against him?

What role does your mother's weight play in your question?

If this is actually a serious post then no you shouldn't. It really isn't any of your business as long as he isn't looking at anything illegal.

ManOfBeardandGod said:

So I'm currently 30 y.o. and my dad's 59 y.o... I'm pretty sure he regularly view's inappropriate contentography and my overweight mom just watches TV/Soap-opera's all day. They're seemingly happy but I sense a distance between them.

My Dad's dad died when he was 13.

I had one super awkward talk with my Dad about inappropriate contentography years ago, and said that basically I thought it was something a father/son should discuss. And I remember asking him if desires decreased with age and he said, "No."

I think my Dad's a Christian, but I wouldn't consider him a deep one.

So, is it my place to ask my Dad? Am I honoring my parents by talking to him about it?

God bless.

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No, I don't think you should ask him about it, especially since your mum is not complaining. However if he confides in you about it, then you can use that opportunity to correct him politely. What you can do for now is to pray for him as often as you can. God is in a better position to help him than you are. God bless.

No I think you should pray for him.


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What would be the purpose of your asking him?

cerette said:

What would be the purpose of your asking him?

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Probably to counsel him, help him break the addiction. Sounds like he cares about his dad, and his parents' marriage.

A noble desire, but in most circumstances it's probably something your dad would need to seek on his own in order for there to be true resolution.

I totally understand how it feels to desire better things for your parents, but they don't seem to care to get better.

I wouldn't if it were me, can't help but think of Noah and Ham.

No. Definitely not. So not. That's something between your dad, your mom and God.

Absolutely. Family is always your business. If you cant be curious or question each other in a loving environment then what is the purpose of real relationship.
You do not have judge him or be pious (both of which I am not suggesting you are) but why not ask his stance and views even?
In this world of political , new age, stepping on egg shell environment, it's great to have open, honest communication ..go for it. This is a place where you both love each other unconditionally so you have nothing to lose do you?

Why not cut to the chase and get it over with? How do you know it's inappropriate content? You don't.

Just go sit down with him and ask the questions you have been asking us- what's wrong with the relationship between you and mom?

Ask what is really on your mind instead of guessing on what it could be.

Being "pretty sure" he's viewing inappropriate content isn't good enough reason, IMHO, to accuse him and confront him of something this serious and offensive. If you're concerned about him in general, then sit down and voice your concers (without the accusations). If you have actual proof or evidence of him watching inappropriate content, then I do think you have the right to lovingly ask him about it. He is your father, so you need to tread with respect and honor, but as Earningmywings said, if we can't talk about what concerns us in regards to our own family and loved ones, what the heck are we here for? Parent's aren't infallible royalty, they're frail human beings like anyone else.

I think Jesus does not want me to use women just to look at them. He wants me to care for every woman.

The Bible says, to leaders, "nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3) So, I understand that God would want me to bring up my children by means of example. And example would include me being honest with my children about my sin problems and welcoming them to talk with me about however I am wrong . . . including so I can be their example of how to receive correction.

You can be a good example to your father.

And I would say to pray for him and talk with him, and see what comes up. Maybe not push and steer to certain subjects.

You say he says that desires do not go away with age. Well, this can mean he has not changed in his character. This could be a problem, because I understand that our Father corrects us to be more and more in His love, which would mean I am not only desiring to use women for pleasures, but instead I am more and more into caring for any and all people, not using them.

As we grow in the fruit of the Holy Spirit, our self-control grows as part of this fruit. Our self-control in God's love has God's own almighty power for control against drives for pleasure; and fruit of love's self-control gets more and more ripe and sweet and juicy better than any pleasure of this life.

So, trust God for all that is possible with Him and make sure there is no inappropriate contentography going on in your mind!

He'd probably avoid talking about it even if the subject was brought up, just give you a vague answer, or just a flat "No." If he's a Christian, I advise you to talk to him about the consequence of such sin. Moreover, I know from personal experience that inappropriate contentography can become an extremely hard addiction to quit. The best thing to help him if he is addicted would be as much socialising as possible. Please love and support him. And above all else, do not look at him as less of a man for giving into natural urges.

A few biblical verses that may aid you in your prayers. You really need to pray long and hard about this one. And if you make a decision to go ahead, then you'd want to be very careful and delicate about the whole situation.

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