Hi brothers and sisters !
Is it ethical to ask a person to forgive you of a transgression knowing they wont? Do we condemn them to not be forgiven by God? A lot of programs suggest to ask the individual you have transgressed against for forgiveness such as the 12 step to move forward. Is it ethical to clear ones mind of said sin in trying to move forward in their lives in asking individuals for forgiveness already knowing they have hardened their heart?
Blessings CF,
FTS
In asking forgiveness, It is important that you do the best you can "to make peace with your brother" (with them) doing so in the meekest, mild, most humble way and as calm a way as possible, but you cannot spend your time doing this "forever" (and let it "consume" you) try as many times as you think you should try and if they still seem to be upset or have hardened there heart over the matter and don't seem to forgive you, then just make a meek, mild discreet exit, and I would pray for them later (on), (but don't tell them your going to pray for them, especially if their a non-believer), and do your best to not "add any fuel to their fire either... (but/and you don't have to keep going back either (to see if they've changed their mind/attitude about it) It's not up to you to "change" them, but the asking of forgiveness is for your own sake...
It's just as good when to not give up (on a person/matter) as it is to know when it is "good" to "give up" on a person/matter and (let it go) and let your conscience that God/Jesus gave you be your guide in this, God will know that you tried your best, when you know that you have tried your best. After that (after you feel that you've tried your best) just let it go (with the person, in-between you and the individual) but and maybe still talk and pray to God (in private) about it sometimes (if you feel you must) (if it still weighs heavy on your heart) but don't let the matter "consume" you, if and when it starts to do that, it is probably best to let it go, for your own sake
But, a lot of the time you can't change people (a person) only God can, If they insist on having an unforgiving heart, a lot of times, there's just nothing you can do about it anyways. Just follow your heart and mind and let your conscience be your guide in the matter, but/and also know when it's best to "let it go" and just put it/leave it, in God's hands. Like I said God will know you tried your best, when you know you have tried your best, and that's up to you to decide. But/and "I" my "opinion" in my limited ability to "advise", would be just to try a few (couple) of times and for a little bit, a short while and if doesn't work, then just let it go...
Hope that helps, "peace" and happiness and joy to you!