Yes we are married. I find reassurance in what you are saying. It just feels like a crossroads. We are both losing our jobs and I believe I could get a teaching job in Africa but he got an interview for a job herand doesn't want to go to africa without a job and he wants to provide for me.
I think you should be patient and pray about Africa. if God wants yout here, He can take you there the right way. Africa is a big place, and there is a lot variety across countries. In South Korea, the last I heard, an American with a four-year-degree could legally teach English there. If your husband would be open to teaching in Africa, there is a chance he could be qualified even if he is not a teacher in the US. For teaching English, the Southern Baptists used to have a SUREPTA program. I don't remember what that stood for. I sat in one some classes at a church near where i used to live, but had a teaching job overseas to get to before the course finished. What they taught was really good. I'd never been trained on how to speak to people who didn't know any English before that. There are online certificates to teach ESL/EFL. I have a friend who has no degree who taught in China just with a certificate to teach. If your husband doesn't want to do something like that in Africa, calm down and be patient.
I guess I think about the verses abot leaving everything for God, follow g his cmmandments, and putting Him first.
Keep in mind there are some commandments about marriage, too. Those don't go out the window because you 'feel called.' I believe God can call people to do all kinds of things. But I also realize that the idea of 'the call' can be way overemphasized. The pastoral ministry is one case in point. Paul doesn't even list 'feeling called' or 'being called' in I Timothy 3 or Titus 1.
There are those who lose husbands or wives for the gospel. But consider the scenario Paul talks about in I Corinthians 7, "if the unbelieving depart." He advised the believer to stay with the unbeliever if the other was willing. But there is no talk of the believer leaving the other spouse. Paul commanded wives not to depart from their husbands and husbands not to put away their wives. And it wasn't just Paul. He said it was a commandment from the Lord. He didn't make an exception for one person feeling called to something and the other not. Besides, if you want to go minister and 'reproduce yourself' spiritually, you don't want to 'reproduce' a bunch of frivilous divorce all over Africa.
I often find my hsband is at a place in my heart that maybe God should be.
Here's a question for you. Does a mission trip to Africa have a place in your heart that God should be in?
Also, I know that God is unchanging so I don't think marryig could change His plannfor me.
God's plan for the saint is for the saint to be conformed to the image of Christ. What does the Bible talk about being 'called' to. It does talk about being called as an apostle. It does not talk about being called as a pastor. It
does talk about being conformed to the image of Christ. Ephesians 5 shows us that marriage and the passage that says that two shall be one flesh speaks of Christ and the church. God wants the glory of Christ to be revealed through marriage.
If God has a plan for you, even if you weren't fully submitted to Him, couldn't he work out a plan for you that involved marriage? I don't agree that all the plans are set in stone. I was just reading Jeremiah 18 this morning. If a city or nation is disobedient, God can cancel the decree of blessing on that city or nation. if a city or nation repents, God can cancel the decree of evil that would come on that city or nation. You need to obey what God has commanded you for where you are here. If you did 'mess up the plan', then do what is right from here forward, including in your marriage. But sometimes you don't 'mess up the plan.' God knows if you are going to mess up, and can make it happen anyway.
Wasn't it rotten of Joseph's brothers to sell him into slavery. But like Joseph said, what they intended for evil, God meant for good. What Jacob did to his father, lying to him and tricking him, was evil, but didn't God use it to accomplish His purposes? Maybe you didn't pray and surrender your relationship with your husband to the Lord before accepting his proposal. But that doesn't mean that it doesn't work into God's plan.
And why is it that you believe that God wants you to go to Africa? Do you keep thinking about it? Do you feel like you should be there? Did you hear His voice, in your spirit, or audibly? Did an angel come and tell you to go to Africa? Are you more sure of that than the commandment of the Lord in the Bible not to leave your husband? Shouldn't you be more sure of the command in the Bible?
I love my husband but don't want to put him before God.
Then don't, but don't put a 'call to Africa' above the Lord's commands concerning marriage.
I know God's plan for a wife is to serve and aubmit to her husband. I just want to know how that would coincide if He wanted me overseas. Also, I want to put my role as a member of the vride of Christ before an earthky place.
If you believe God wants you overseas, pray He'll take you overseas, but obey Him along the way, and trust Him to direct your steps.