Thank you everyone. It's been such a rough day. I went back to our property to pick up some more of my things...and Michael made sure he and his children had left to go elsewhere. Apparently, my mere presence is too upsetting for them - which I know is simply not true; it's just another manifestation of his distorted overindulgence and overprotection. I know I'm paying for all the years he should have protected the children from their unstable, controlling, abusive mother - years in which he chose to turn a blind eye and bury himself in work.
I felt like a common criminal, arriving at my own home like a thief in the night. When I got there, I saw that my husband had gone ahead with all the landscaping we'd planned to do as part of our 'dream'. All the artistic ideas have been mine as he's just not the creative sort..and he carried them out to the letter. I just cried. He's doing this to get the property ready for sale...and I'll be seeing very little of the money if he goes ahead with the divorce as he still seems determined to do. I've put blood, sweat and tears into the property, literally. I've worked alongside him with power-tools and brushcutters to make it the thing of beauty it is today.
I'm sorry that my flesh is rising and railing. I'll get over it. The money isn't important but there's this little girl inside of me saying, 'If it was left to him, the place would look pretty ordinary...and he'd be getting a lot less for it.' Awful, I know. Forgive me, Lord. I'll get over it...and still trust that the sale is not inevitable...just as the divorce is not inevitable.
And it didn't finish there. He's given away my pets...my two kitties. We'd discussed the fact that I'd have to rehome them because of circumstances and I knew he'd put an ad in the paper. But not in my wildest dreams did I consider that he'd go ahead and make the decision as to who the new owner should be without me being present. They are NOT his pets. He and the children are dog lovers and frankly, can't stand cats. I'm just an animal lover who has a real affinity for cats. I've always loved them...and I've always had them as companions. But Michael didn't even give me the chance to say goodbye to them! He just sent me a text message to say they'd been rehomed. I mean, who does that? Really? How many more times does he want to break my heart? How much more does he want to take away from me? How many more times do I need to reach deep inside myself and forgive him...for clearly, he does not know the pain he causes. He couldn't...otherwise he surely wouldn't do it. Right? And yes, I know how often I need to dig deep and forgive...as many times as it takes. Seventy times seven...and then some.
Forgive my rantings. I'm so sad...and struggling with my anger, which I haven't acted on. So I'm relying on the scripture that says it's okay to be angry as long as we do not sin. I sent a message back saying that I would have liked to have said goodbye, but thanking him for finding them a home. That was so difficult to do.
As you see, more prayer and support is definitely needed. They say it's darkest before the dawn...bring on the dawn.
Thank you all again...
Love and light
I felt like a common criminal, arriving at my own home like a thief in the night. When I got there, I saw that my husband had gone ahead with all the landscaping we'd planned to do as part of our 'dream'. All the artistic ideas have been mine as he's just not the creative sort..and he carried them out to the letter. I just cried. He's doing this to get the property ready for sale...and I'll be seeing very little of the money if he goes ahead with the divorce as he still seems determined to do. I've put blood, sweat and tears into the property, literally. I've worked alongside him with power-tools and brushcutters to make it the thing of beauty it is today.
I'm sorry that my flesh is rising and railing. I'll get over it. The money isn't important but there's this little girl inside of me saying, 'If it was left to him, the place would look pretty ordinary...and he'd be getting a lot less for it.' Awful, I know. Forgive me, Lord. I'll get over it...and still trust that the sale is not inevitable...just as the divorce is not inevitable.
And it didn't finish there. He's given away my pets...my two kitties. We'd discussed the fact that I'd have to rehome them because of circumstances and I knew he'd put an ad in the paper. But not in my wildest dreams did I consider that he'd go ahead and make the decision as to who the new owner should be without me being present. They are NOT his pets. He and the children are dog lovers and frankly, can't stand cats. I'm just an animal lover who has a real affinity for cats. I've always loved them...and I've always had them as companions. But Michael didn't even give me the chance to say goodbye to them! He just sent me a text message to say they'd been rehomed. I mean, who does that? Really? How many more times does he want to break my heart? How much more does he want to take away from me? How many more times do I need to reach deep inside myself and forgive him...for clearly, he does not know the pain he causes. He couldn't...otherwise he surely wouldn't do it. Right? And yes, I know how often I need to dig deep and forgive...as many times as it takes. Seventy times seven...and then some.
Forgive my rantings. I'm so sad...and struggling with my anger, which I haven't acted on. So I'm relying on the scripture that says it's okay to be angry as long as we do not sin. I sent a message back saying that I would have liked to have said goodbye, but thanking him for finding them a home. That was so difficult to do.
As you see, more prayer and support is definitely needed. They say it's darkest before the dawn...bring on the dawn.
Thank you all again...
Love and light
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