Snipped for brevity.
I can't speak for all trans people, but this is how this impacts me. I don't expect to be treated like a female, I just hope for it. I am not transitioning to be treated like a female. I am not transitioning because of some desire to break into the other bathroom or locker room. I am not doing so to be on sports teams. I am transitioning because my body is not me, not comfortable and disgusts me. I am transitioning for me, not society.
I believe that my brain is actually an important part of me. It tells me my body is wrong. You believe otherwise. I can't do anything about that.
I don't think there are many trans people who are transitioning because they want access to other bathrooms, locker rooms, sports teams, etc. I think it is more likely that they are transitioning and they still want to play sports and they don't want to be outed on a constant basis, because that does actually create a danger. So a person wearing a dress wants to quietly go into the women's bathroom because going into the men's room in a dress grabs attention.
People like what they like, want what they want no matter what their situation in life is. I don't think that it is too much to ask for people to be treated with respect. There are going to be indecent people and troublemakers no matter what you do. The assumption that we all have some nefarious purpose is unsupportable (not saying you are doing this, but I have seen some who do believe this).
Frankly, I expect to get treated like garbage or as a freak most of the time. Fortunately for me, I most often don't. Oddly, I get more trouble here than I do in real life where people actually see me. Internet anonymity I guess.