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I need advise.

My friend who is catholic is dating a Muslim man. The guy is currently separated from his wife, not divorced.

I know I am not allowed to judge, but isnt this adultery? How do I deal with this? I am currently ignoring her, because I do not know what to do. I told her it is wrong and there is no grey area when it comes to adultery.

Do I stop being friends with her without being rude or what?
 

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Inform her that it is wrong if she doesnt listen then have a pastor talk to her or maybe other Christians. If she still doesnt listen then ask your pastor to give you advice. If she is indeed a christian im sure she will be convicted of what she is doing. She will have to repent. I was caught up in adultery and I have repented and see all the hurt I have caused. Pray for your friend lift it up to the Lord. Does she go to your church?
 
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I need advise.

My friend who is catholic is dating a Muslim man. The guy is currently separated from his wife, not divorced.

I know I am not allowed to judge, but isnt this adultery? How do I deal with this? I am currently ignoring her, because I do not know what to do. I told her it is wrong and there is no grey area when it comes to adultery.

Do I stop being friends with her without being rude or what?

Few things here....

1. If your Friend is a true Christian, she is not supposed to be getting romantically involved with someone outside the Christian Faith , per Gods Word. She is thus violating Gods loving protective mandate and God wont bless such a relationship.

2. The Muslim Man is disengenuous in dating when hes not even divorced.

3. It is NOT wrong to judge a matter of morals and ethics. We are to judge and discern fairly and in accordance to Gods Word. Jesus never taught for us to be tolerant of every situation that is clearly wrong. Nor are we to judge in a hypocritical sense (that is...if yourself were commiting adultery yet you were putting another down whos also engaged in adultery) . This whole Judging Issue is one of the most misunderstood topics among people ; the reason why America is so morally degraded is because people are apathetic in the name of tolerance to whatever Others commit -- the Biblical way is to lovingly approach the People involved and tactfully show them that they are going down the wrong path. That is the concerned loving approach.

4. You have done well in approaching her on it. You cant do anything about it cause its her freewill choice and sadly, one involving deception and apathy to what is correct.

5. You still remain her Friend but without condoning what she is doing. You remain in the background in case she wants to talk to you about it and possibly get advice on how to end it.

Keep up the good work and pray for her and him for it to end asap before greater consequences start to occur.
 
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Few things here....

1. If your Friend is a true Christian, she is not supposed to be getting romantically involved with someone outside the Christian Faith , per Gods Word. She is thus violating Gods loving protective mandate and God wont bless such a relationship.

2. The Muslim Man is disengenuous in dating when hes not even divorced.

3. It is NOT wrong to judge a matter of morals and ethics. We are to judge and discern fairly and in accordance to Gods Word. Jesus never taught for us to be tolerant of every situation that is clearly wrong. Nor are we to judge in a hypocritical sense (that is...if yourself were commiting adultery yet you were putting another down whos also engaged in adultery) . This whole Judging Issue is one of the most misunderstood topics among people ; the reason why America is so morally degraded is because people are apathetic in the name of tolerance to whatever Others commit -- the Biblical way is to lovingly approach the People involved and tactfully show them that they are going down the wrong path. That is the concerned loving approach.

4. You have done well in approaching her on it. You cant do anything about it cause its her freewill choice and sadly, one involving deception and apathy to what is correct.

5. You still remain her Friend but without condoning what she is doing. You remain in the background in case she wants to talk to you about it and possibly get advice on how to end it.

Keep up the good work and pray for her and him for it to end asap before greater consequences start to occur.

Top advice brother, I would trust you to advise me, so biblically correct, how unusual for this site.
 
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I need advise.

My friend who is catholic is dating a Muslim man. The guy is currently separated from his wife, not divorced.

I know I am not allowed to judge, but isnt this adultery? How do I deal with this? I am currently ignoring her, because I do not know what to do. I told her it is wrong and there is no grey area when it comes to adultery.

Do I stop being friends with her without being rude or what?

There is no need to be rude to her. You have told her, and its backed by the word of God that its adultery, and she refused to listen. What you do to people who refuse to listen is leave them to their hard heart and evil ways. It does catch up with them.
You can always pray that it wont be too late before she realises shes living a sinful life. Cause sometimes God's mercy can help some people who are falling away that they will be quickly brought back before they are greatly affected.
Im not sure stopping being friends with her is nice, but if thats how you feel, its your choice. If you love this 'friend' pray for her
 
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No dont stop being friends with her over it. Me personally I would point out that her boyfriend prays to allah, something she should never do if she loves God.

As for adultery, we break a lot of the OT laws everyday when we shouldnt.
Example: Did you eat bacon or sausages? Even if your obeying Leviticus you shouldn't eat any meat that a serious jew wouldn't eat if your going to obey the OT law.

The law saves no one, Gods grace saves. It is not of yourself.
 
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Top advice brother, I would trust you to advise me, so biblically correct, how unusual for this site.

Thank you for the compliment...but we shall pass it along to Gods Word which is absolute truth and available for all to derive wisdom from.. Regards.
 
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