Hi all,
I am a born again Christian who grew up in church in a Christian family. I have been dating a boy from my church for just under a year now - also a Christian in leadership at church. I would consider him less spiritually and emotionally mature than I am, which didn't come into play too much until recently. As of late, i've been really bothered by character related issues that I think he has, some of which will be very difficult to change as he doesn't regard them as high priority as I do. This has lead me to have many serious talks with him about the possibility of breaking up if these things aren't addressed. (Of course, I'm a sinner and have plenty of things to work on, however it's really tricky when these issues are character related, and when he doesn't understand my concern and the severity of them!)
To make things more complicated, we have unfortunately fallen into sexual temptation in our earlier days as a couple. On a few occasions, we have engaged in heavy petting, and I gave him oral stimulation three times. We haven't gone all the way, though, we've kind of done everything else. I regret it so, so much and I wish I hadn't allowed ourselves to be in those compromising situations. This has not happened for a few months now and we have properly repented for our sins and turned away from it.
Because of our physical track record with each other, should this factor into my decision whether to break up or not? Many godly people around us have told me that we are not good for each other, and there are loud warning bells going off in my head too. Should the fact that we have been sexually immoral together hold me responsible to stay in this relationship and eventually marry him, even though these problems I see now will possibly result in a dysfunctional relationship/marriage? What is your opinion? What does God think of this?
Thanks
I am a born again Christian who grew up in church in a Christian family. I have been dating a boy from my church for just under a year now - also a Christian in leadership at church. I would consider him less spiritually and emotionally mature than I am, which didn't come into play too much until recently. As of late, i've been really bothered by character related issues that I think he has, some of which will be very difficult to change as he doesn't regard them as high priority as I do. This has lead me to have many serious talks with him about the possibility of breaking up if these things aren't addressed. (Of course, I'm a sinner and have plenty of things to work on, however it's really tricky when these issues are character related, and when he doesn't understand my concern and the severity of them!)
To make things more complicated, we have unfortunately fallen into sexual temptation in our earlier days as a couple. On a few occasions, we have engaged in heavy petting, and I gave him oral stimulation three times. We haven't gone all the way, though, we've kind of done everything else. I regret it so, so much and I wish I hadn't allowed ourselves to be in those compromising situations. This has not happened for a few months now and we have properly repented for our sins and turned away from it.
Because of our physical track record with each other, should this factor into my decision whether to break up or not? Many godly people around us have told me that we are not good for each other, and there are loud warning bells going off in my head too. Should the fact that we have been sexually immoral together hold me responsible to stay in this relationship and eventually marry him, even though these problems I see now will possibly result in a dysfunctional relationship/marriage? What is your opinion? What does God think of this?
Thanks