Before, I blurted out something along the lines of wanting many children. Back in the ye olde times, having ten children was the norm. Now, it's about having one or two kids.
I did the math, and I think I won't be able to have children. It's not that I'm incapable physically. It's about finance. I just found out that my parents don't have any retirement plans. I feel like the weight's on my shoulders now. I'll have to somehow support them, but I know that I might not be able to make a lot to support a child.
Yes, I know that you have to be married to have children under normal circumstances. Yes, I know that being married means that you have double income with benefits. But I'm smart enough to figure out that nursing homes are terrible, and unless I'm severely old and incapable of doing anything, I don't want to spend the remaining days of my mortal life confined in an itty-bitty room with a bed and an old TV set constantly churning garbage out 24/7. I'm smart enough to figure out that unless Jesus finally says "It's time," and fulfills the last remaining bits of the prophesy, I won't be able to stay forever in the workforce with youthful energy. I'm smart enough to figure out that saving money is a lot of work, and paying for mortgage, insurances, and other small necessities in life is a lot of work as well.
I'm also smart enough to figure out that in the long run, you just never know what might happen in life. Some of my friends are already married, and they all got married in their twenties to thirties. God wants most people on earth to find their mate, for sure. Sometimes, you don't end up with anyone even if you try.
Call me greedy, calculating, cold, and stingy. All the words that can make up the DNA of a new Scrooge. But see, I'm going to have old, dependent parents without any retirement plans one day who might need about $1000-$2000 per month or more to live comfortably. I'll also probably need to put away a bit of my income for my retirement fund. One day, if I get married -and yes, do let it happen, Lord!- my husband and I will need a place to live and a car -or another source of transportation- to use.
I don't even dream of having a nice little wedding with a few of my friends and family gathered in to celebrate anymore, but this isn't because of finance. It's because I'd rather go against the norm and reject the mainstream way of having a wedding. Tbh, I wouldn't mind exchanging rings, the vows, and signing the papers to get hitched. I'm not sure how many guys are out there who would want a girl like me. I don't want children, and I definitely don't want a mainstream wedding.
I knew this girl from work once. She was a terribly slow worker and probably got fired multiple times for that, but she married a decent guy. They have no children even though they've been married for nearly a decade. But since the guy has a steady job as a technician, I don't think that this couple has anything much to worry about for the future.
CF singles, if you do get married, do you want children? Do you think having children is a solid plan despite having financial setbacks?
I did the math, and I think I won't be able to have children. It's not that I'm incapable physically. It's about finance. I just found out that my parents don't have any retirement plans. I feel like the weight's on my shoulders now. I'll have to somehow support them, but I know that I might not be able to make a lot to support a child.
Yes, I know that you have to be married to have children under normal circumstances. Yes, I know that being married means that you have double income with benefits. But I'm smart enough to figure out that nursing homes are terrible, and unless I'm severely old and incapable of doing anything, I don't want to spend the remaining days of my mortal life confined in an itty-bitty room with a bed and an old TV set constantly churning garbage out 24/7. I'm smart enough to figure out that unless Jesus finally says "It's time," and fulfills the last remaining bits of the prophesy, I won't be able to stay forever in the workforce with youthful energy. I'm smart enough to figure out that saving money is a lot of work, and paying for mortgage, insurances, and other small necessities in life is a lot of work as well.
I'm also smart enough to figure out that in the long run, you just never know what might happen in life. Some of my friends are already married, and they all got married in their twenties to thirties. God wants most people on earth to find their mate, for sure. Sometimes, you don't end up with anyone even if you try.
Call me greedy, calculating, cold, and stingy. All the words that can make up the DNA of a new Scrooge. But see, I'm going to have old, dependent parents without any retirement plans one day who might need about $1000-$2000 per month or more to live comfortably. I'll also probably need to put away a bit of my income for my retirement fund. One day, if I get married -and yes, do let it happen, Lord!- my husband and I will need a place to live and a car -or another source of transportation- to use.
I don't even dream of having a nice little wedding with a few of my friends and family gathered in to celebrate anymore, but this isn't because of finance. It's because I'd rather go against the norm and reject the mainstream way of having a wedding. Tbh, I wouldn't mind exchanging rings, the vows, and signing the papers to get hitched. I'm not sure how many guys are out there who would want a girl like me. I don't want children, and I definitely don't want a mainstream wedding.
I knew this girl from work once. She was a terribly slow worker and probably got fired multiple times for that, but she married a decent guy. They have no children even though they've been married for nearly a decade. But since the guy has a steady job as a technician, I don't think that this couple has anything much to worry about for the future.
CF singles, if you do get married, do you want children? Do you think having children is a solid plan despite having financial setbacks?
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