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I struggle a lot with my Salvation. There are days where I feel like I am, and others I feel I'm going to the pit of Hell. I've always be skeptical throughout my life. Didn't believe in Santa or the Easter Bunny, what's this Tooth Fairy crap, and Jesus, well their can't be a better explanation to why I'm here. But I struggle. I've always heard that it's better to be in the battle, because you know you're fighting, but there's times I don't want to fight anymore. I'm exhausted. I was on top of the world. I had friends, family, a church body and somewhat good health. That all changed 2 years ago. I feel jaded. I struggle with why, and now what. I see Christian friends and they want to "fix" me. I see others with mental illness and they comfort me in knowing I'm not alone with this disability. I'm in the Word, I pray, I try despite my disability to engage and help others when I can. I know that all these things will not get my into Heaven, It's only Jesus' sacrifice on the Cross that saves me. Because of all the difficulties in my life I tend to turn to sexual sin. I seems like the only release that I have. I can't seem to enjoy the things I use to be able to do. Then afterward I feel guilty that I have no self control. I continue to do this a lot, and it makes me wonder whether I am Saved or not. This creates major depression and hopelessness. Any thoughts, suggestions, similarities? Not sure where this post should go, hope it's alright here.
 

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Oh Lord Jesus, I ask you to bless our friend Aspireman with healing, discernment and mercy. FORCE those evil demons away from him that are provoking such ill thoughts, and PLACE around him a ring of fire, to keep those same evil demons away so he can rest within your blessed arms peacefully, oh Lord Jesus.
I say this in your Holy Name,
Amen.

HTH!
 
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Dear Aspireman, the love of our Lord Jesus Christ is working in and through you. You will conquer your illness and it will become manageable. All doubt, negativity, and limitation that seeps into your consciousness is vanquished. YOU are loved!

I hope you will take advantage of all the medical and spiritual help that is available to you. Praying for you!
 
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Many people are in this horrible circle. It does not mean you are not saved.
Have you gone to any counseling? Do you know what Celebrate Recovery is?
Most if not everyone has times of doubting salvation.
Why do you not have what you use to? Did you stop going to church?
As long as you go places where there is sexual sin you will be tempted. You need to purposely not be alone with anyone of the apposite sex.

You may be using sex to try to fill a loneliness. Good counseling and or a help group would help you.
Praying for you.
 
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Aspireman, take heed of Vaper's words. When you got saved, your place in heaven was secured, but as long as we live in a fallen world and fallen bodies, we will still have to contend with the reality of sin. That doesn't mean that God doesn't love you or that He's writing your sins on the chalkboard of Heaven. Satan is the father of lies and accusations, not God. When you fall short in life, confess it to God and ask Him to forgive and improve you like only He can, and He will.
 
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Vasper and Purge187 make very good points.

I'd also like to add that maybe you could try finding some other hobby in order to distract you from lust. What about writing a blog? Playing games? Walking? Jogging? Just throwing ideas out there.

Also, try to find an accountability partner, someone who will ask you on a regular basis if you've fallen to sexual sin. That can help a lot. A church member or maybe even a member of these forums could help with that.

And try to go to church and make connections with others. I suffer from depression and know it's very difficult, but you just have to try and trust that God won't let you go.
 
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Many people are in this horrible circle. It does not mean you are not saved.
Have you gone to any counseling? Do you know what Celebrate Recovery is?
Most if not everyone has times of doubting salvation.
Why do you not have what you use to? Did you stop going to church?
As long as you go places where there is sexual sin you will be tempted. You need to purposely not be alone with anyone of the apposite sex.

You may be using sex to try to fill a loneliness. Good counseling and or a help group would help you.
Praying for you.

I suffer with Vertigo, Depression and Anxiety. These came majorly about 2 1\2 years ago. Any public place is hard for me to go to at times, so yes I did stop going to church. I'm going to try and start going once again. Not sex, self pleasure.
 
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Just wondering Aspireman, when you feel you can't go to church do you spend some time with God at home instead? If not, I would suggest you do, even if it's only for a short time.

I think you're beating yourself up a bit. We all sin; 1 John 1 v 8 - 10 tells us that. You said it yourself - it is only Jesus who saves. If you have repented of your sin, believed Jesus died for you, accepted His death in your place and given your life to Him then you ARE saved, whether or not you feel it. Feelings are bad barometers. The word of God is a good one.

Judging from your first post my "gut" feeling is that your issue is a mental health one rather than a spiritual one. I can identify with feeling exhausted from mental struggles and anxieties, and also about Christians trying to "fix" us. Some people, who haven't had mental health problems, just don't understand and suggest quick fix solutions which may not be the best way. God heals though - deep down.

I would suggest trying to stay close to God and be honest with Him about your doubts and anxieties. I wonder if counselling would help, but pray it through to make sure you go to the right person at the right time and look to God to heal you - the counsellor is just the means. I agree with Liberated91 about prayer and fasting. I have found it very helpful; even if it's just skipping one meal and seeking Him instead.

I have struggled with mental health issues for over 40 years, and they became muddled up with Christianity, but God has shown me the cause of my troubles, and separated the mental issues from the spiritual ones. He understands and loves us immensely. :)

(BTW A friend recommended a series of tapes called "The Power of a New Identity" by Dan Sneed. I found them very helpful.)
 
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The fact that you stuggle with sin is a sure sign that you are convicted when you sin. What does that mean? You Love the lord and the Holy spirit convicts a child of God when they sin. You care about doing right. Sometimes the answers are right under our noses but we cant see them through all the noise. I believe christians are never perfect and struggle with a sin or sins. When you ask for forgiveness just know you are forgiven. The guilt sometimes sticks around but the more you grow the less that will happen. Chin up and your doing fine. God promises never never to leave us nor forsake us. Pressing forward when you feel like giving up is faith. ALL POWER AND GLORY TO GOD AMEN
 
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The fact that you stuggle with sin is a sure sign that you are convicted when you sin. What does that mean? You Love the lord and the Holy spirit convicts a child of God when they sin. You care about doing right. Sometimes the answers are right under our noses but we cant see them through all the noise. I believe christians are never perfect and struggle with a sin or sins. When you ask for forgiveness just know you are forgiven. The guilt sometimes sticks around but the more you grow the less that will happen. Chin up and your doing fine. God promises never never to leave us nor forsake us. Pressing forward when you feel like giving up is faith. ALL POWER AND GLORY TO GOD AMEN
 
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You are facing some mental or depression problem because you can't decide what is right or wrong with you, you need a proper way or faith in your life to which path you should go. Just be calm and think what you want for yourself, where you want to see yourself in next 5 years, so everything will be fine, you got an aim in your life and focus it to attain.
 
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as some sister or brother has said, try to be close to God as best as you can . read bible, john a study group, our church have pray meeting to pray for everyone who have needs from god, that`s a good place to go to , to see how god heal other people and try to heal others if you can. and last but not least, Sing!!! the power of praise god with music can not be underestimated. In psalm 105 :2Sing to him, sing praise to him;
tell of all his wonderful acts.
105:3 Glory in his holy name;
let the hearts of those who seek the Lord rejoice.
and tell other people about how you feel about god is important. Wish you do well .I healed myself.
 
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I too sometimes struggle with these doubts and I too have issues with depression and anxiety, including OCD so I suspect the doubts about our salvation is partly due to our mental health problems and partly due to Satan sticking his oar in. I would also add that there are also some pretty harsh preachers out there who basically preach a "works" gospel (though of course they would deny it). They seem to imply that a true Christian should be perfect or near perfect. I never used to doubt my salvation until I came across these preachers. I for one tend to suspect that people who are so harsh on others have their own secret sins and so they enjoy pointing the finger at others then they can forget their own faults!:preach:
 
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Hi,

I have been where you are. You sound very similar to me. I had the same problem until God enabled me to see the truth that he loved me and I was forgiven. I had a thought that I had blasphemed the Holy Spirit and was on my way to hell. Yet now I feel blessed of God. The following page lists the bible verses that support forgiveness for those who think they are going to hell. Is there an unpardonable sin, what is blasphemy of the holy spirit. I have since being returned to God seen him perform quite a few divine miracles in my life.
 
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