Love & Self-Worth Challenges For Christian Women

What a wonderful idea for a program. I personally struggle very deeply with self-esteem issues and self worth. And because of that I tend to find myself in situations where I put myself dangerous situations and end up being used by people.

Your question is really difficult to answer. Why do I have little self value? I really don't know the answer to that question. I find myself alone often and isolated so I perhaps if I was worthy I wouldn't be alone so much?

I hope you find the information you're looking for from others to make a program that would benefit many women.

This is one upon which reflection is needed for sure! I rejoice in that God has worked in me, for me, and through me for so long that I don't really sense obstacles to realizing my self-worth as long as I remember my self-worth is what God sees more than what I sometimes see.

But if there remains any obstacle to growth in realizing my own self worth it is that I too often let what others see and say influence me in valuing how I see myself. Being now over 70 it does get a bit hard at times as there are many people who do not value older people nor respect them and who tend to treat older people as somewhat a bother or even invisible. I gotta work harder to help get them past that because our present American societal culture over enhances youth and tends not to value maturity. Sad, to say, this can happen in churches too and often does.

So, always remembering who I am in God's eyes and not to let the way I am sometimes treated is important to me. And being patient because in time a lot of younger people just forget how old I am and start relating. Some see the heart more than the face and get past all of that, thank God. But some never do and so there you have it.

I do miss being young and as active as I once was. But I can count on that again---for all eternity in God's good time. Behold, He makes all things new! Right!

I'll let the ladies answer your question, but I wish you the best. It's always encouraging to see people working hard for the sake of others. And welcome to the forum!

I had a great upbringing in a loving egalitarian Christian family. I never had any issues with my self worth, value, or love until I left my parent's protective barrier and saw the gender discrimination and pressure to conform to peer pressure or live based on someone else's idea of virtuous or gender roles. It exists almost everywhere and even within some Christian communities. I felt embarrassed over liking stereotypical "nerdy" things like playing video games or doing science fairs and science club and offended by the idea that I should give up egalitarian beliefs.

I think society is an extremely (if not the worst) harmful thing to people's self worth, value, and love. It sounds like other posters are experiencing the same thing, so it might help to do something with that?

charlottebieldt said:

Dear Jannikitty,

Thank you so much for your willingness to share! I am still a young woman and I can only imagine that the selfish, unkind and often very superficial culture that we are currently living in can only get worse when we age

However you seem bautiful and very wise, thank you for sharing your experiences! Keep on making the world beautiful and never loose that amazing quality of hope

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Thanks, lovely words! Yes, His Grace is amazing and never grows old!