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I am going to stop lusting for one year, starting today. If I find myself wanting to lust, I will run from that situation.
Why just one year?
Saying I'm going to stop __________ will just leave you feeling frustrating and hopeless.
Because the minute you screw up you're going to feel like a failure.
Instead why not say for the next year I'm going to work as hard as I can to resist ______ or deal with _____ and I'm going to do _______ in order to do that.
It's pretty nigh impossible to stop lusting completely. Doesn't mean we shouldn't try, but you're going to stumble. So instead of setting impossible goals for youself, instead work on how you can protect yourself and keep your thoughts away from lust.
Saying I'm going to stop __________ will just leave you feeling frustrating and hopeless.
Because the minute you screw up you're going to feel like a failure.
Instead why not say for the next year I'm going to work as hard as I can to resist ______ or deal with _____ and I'm going to do _______ in order to do that.
It's pretty nigh impossible to stop lusting completely. Doesn't mean we shouldn't try, but you're going to stumble. So instead of setting impossible goals for youself, instead work on how you can protect yourself and keep your thoughts away from lust.
Okay, I feel very bad for laughing at this post.
However, OP, can you explain "lust" more carefully?
sexual lust
Sexual lust: When I watch two people in a movie and they are kissing, I don't necessarily lust after them, I just lust after the situation. For example, I may want someone that close and so I get unholy desires. I don't know if that makes sense.
Matthew 5:27-30 ESV
27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.
You'll be much better served if you stop focusing on what you don't want to be or do and instead fix your mind upon what you do want to be and do. Many people grow up thinking, "I'll never be like my Mom (or Dad)! She's so controlling, and manipulative, and angry! She's so blah, blah, blah..." Unfortunately, these very same people end becoming just like the parent they so despise. Why? Because we are made to be conformed to what we focus on! The child who focuses on what they hate about their parent becomes conformed by that focus. So, when you say to yourself, "I will not lust for a year!" you fix your thinking upon what you don't want to do. If you do this repeatedly (which you will since lust is an inevitable part of being a sexual being) the very thing you want to avoid will begin to shape your behaviour. If you want to be free, if you want to be like Christ, do as the Bible says and "look unto Jesus the author and finisher of your faith." Focus on what you want to be and do, not on the sin you want to avoid. Direct your thoughts toward Christ and his excellent character and example. Steep your mind in God's truth. Submit to God's Spirit transforming work and you will find yourself in time conquering lust without having to make impossible promises to yourself to avoid it.
2 Corinthians 3:18
18 But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.
Jude 1:24-25
24 Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,
25 To the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen.
Selah.
How do I know if I am, reading that or not?