- Apr 9, 2010
- 241
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Non-Denom
- Marital Status
- Single
- Politics
- US-Republican
I am a twenty-three year old university student, and unmarried, having never dated. I've been brought up from a young age in Christianity, and I have accepted Jesus Christ as my savior at the age of ten, alone in a private room. I am able to experience physical attraction to someone, but I have never got close yet. After reading 1st Corinthians 7:8, it appears that being single allows one to potentially be more efficient in serving God and furthering His Kingdom on Earth than many married couples could handle. Forgive me for sounding boastful or elitist, I try not to be. What this means for me exactly, is something I have yet to become aware of. One thing I do think, is that with more time on my hands, I can figure into God's plans in a way that I otherwise could not or would find more difficult in a married lifestyle. Perhaps I can get involved with my church in some way; I already help out with distributing food and clothing to the needy at my grandmother's church, maybe two or three times a year. Even though it isn't too often, I am still capable of loneliness, yet somehow I feel convictions that are leading me to maintain celibacy in my life, at least until I do get married.
It's worth noting that I have such high standards for who would ideally qualify as my wife, that I may consider just remaining single, out of both personal and spiritual reasons. Some of my standards are that the wife must be a Christian, conservative, physically and personally attractive, healthy, intelligent, and with a personality at least moderately resembling my own. I should also let you know that although I can be quite attracted to women of other races/ethnicities, I feel somewhat uneasy about entering into an interracial relationship, as I would embarrassed as to what the rest of the family would think. I do not consider myself a racist, although I have an uneasiness that may or may not go away after a certain amount of time. Furthermore, I'm not even actively looking for a girlfriend, a person that I'd see to be a potential candidate for becoming my wife. I am just heavily focused on my studies, with relatively little time to do with otherwise. My schedule demands that I spend many hours a day right to work on my assignments, and I am only taking two classes. I have some physical and learning disabilities that make my pursuits at college more of a challenge than it may be for an ordinary person, although because I'm compensating for this by putting in long hours into my work, I still receive good grades, which I'm very thankful to God for.
Additionally, I don't think I want to be a father. The thought of bearing children into this sinful, disgusting world is convicting me against it. I fear that if I do have children, they become of this world like so many billions of others, ignorant of Christ, and falling away from faith even if brought up on Christianity from a young age. This is a phenomenon that happens very often, especially in recent decades, in which anti-God attitudes are prevalent, and there are less and less attempts to control society against sin. I feel it in my heart that it may be in my best interest to stay out of this becoming a part of my life.
If you can offer me advice as to what I should do with my life, that would be great. I am a university student, aspiring to become a writer of fiction, yet I feel somewhat aimless in my walk with Christ. I am wondering in which ways I should improve in order to become more Christ-like, and I know that I have, and continue to make many mistakes; one of which is failing to read the scriptures as often as I should. What I ultimately mean to ask, do you believe that celibacy is right for me?
It's worth noting that I have such high standards for who would ideally qualify as my wife, that I may consider just remaining single, out of both personal and spiritual reasons. Some of my standards are that the wife must be a Christian, conservative, physically and personally attractive, healthy, intelligent, and with a personality at least moderately resembling my own. I should also let you know that although I can be quite attracted to women of other races/ethnicities, I feel somewhat uneasy about entering into an interracial relationship, as I would embarrassed as to what the rest of the family would think. I do not consider myself a racist, although I have an uneasiness that may or may not go away after a certain amount of time. Furthermore, I'm not even actively looking for a girlfriend, a person that I'd see to be a potential candidate for becoming my wife. I am just heavily focused on my studies, with relatively little time to do with otherwise. My schedule demands that I spend many hours a day right to work on my assignments, and I am only taking two classes. I have some physical and learning disabilities that make my pursuits at college more of a challenge than it may be for an ordinary person, although because I'm compensating for this by putting in long hours into my work, I still receive good grades, which I'm very thankful to God for.
Additionally, I don't think I want to be a father. The thought of bearing children into this sinful, disgusting world is convicting me against it. I fear that if I do have children, they become of this world like so many billions of others, ignorant of Christ, and falling away from faith even if brought up on Christianity from a young age. This is a phenomenon that happens very often, especially in recent decades, in which anti-God attitudes are prevalent, and there are less and less attempts to control society against sin. I feel it in my heart that it may be in my best interest to stay out of this becoming a part of my life.
If you can offer me advice as to what I should do with my life, that would be great. I am a university student, aspiring to become a writer of fiction, yet I feel somewhat aimless in my walk with Christ. I am wondering in which ways I should improve in order to become more Christ-like, and I know that I have, and continue to make many mistakes; one of which is failing to read the scriptures as often as I should. What I ultimately mean to ask, do you believe that celibacy is right for me?
Ill pray that God leads you in the right direction. God bless!
Shoot high though. Just dont beat yourself up when you discover how difficult it is to walk the path of a saint. Never forget why your need Christ or why your a Christian in the first place.
