why should women stay virgins until they get married?

Chajara · Feb 18, 2013

Eudaimonist said:
A real man would mature more before getting into a relationship, or worse yet marriage, just to get sex.

eudaimonia,

Mark

I really hate any of that "real man" or "real woman" nonsense. We're all real, none of us are imaginary. It's dumb.

To me, someone who is healthy and would make a good partner is one who knows what he or she wants, has reasonable expectations, and can communicate those effectively and make decisions based on them.

So someone who wants nothing more than sex is fine in my book, provided he or she communicates this to a potential partner and ensures that a casual relationship is what they want too. If the potential partner wouldn't be satisfied with a casual sexual relationship or doesn't want it for whatever reason, acknowledge that that's their decision, respect it, and move on. Both people can eventually find what they want and get their needs met and there's no need to insist that anyone not doing it like they are is wrong!

jminnesota · Feb 18, 2013

well both my wife and i where virgins when we married and it was the best feeling in the world to give eachother our virginity it was like a gift that we gave eachother on our wedding night that no one else could give but eachother. so i hope if there are teens here that you wait til your married its worth it..

Tinker Grey · Feb 18, 2013

jminnesota said:
well both my wife and i where virgins when we married and it was the best feeling in the world to give eachother our virginity

How would you know?

jminnesota · Feb 18, 2013

well i never had sex before i married and my wife never slept with anyone that is how i know.. and in the bible god wants a man and woman to be married before they have sex with eachother. if people read the bible more they will learn lot of things that god feels is good or not so good. of course some people like to pick and choose in the bible. but my wife and i the bible is gods word and we follow gods word.

Eudaimonist · Feb 18, 2013

Chajara said:
I really hate any of that "real man" or "real woman" nonsense. We're all real, none of us are imaginary. It's dumb.

You don't need to take it so literally. It simply means someone who has strength of character.

eudaimonia,

Mark

Tinker Grey · Feb 18, 2013

jminnesota said:
well i never had sex before i married and my wife never slept with anyone that is how i know.. and in the bible god wants a man and woman to be married before they have sex with eachother. if people read the bible more they will learn lot of things that god feels is good or not so good. of course some people like to pick and choose in the bible. but my wife and i the bible is gods word and we follow gods word.

No, how would you know it was the best feeling in the world?

jminnesota · Feb 18, 2013

its the best feeling knowing that both me and my wife where virgins to know that we where both our firsts and only as we plan to be married for life and plan to have a great sex life together... we see people who have sex before they marry and often they divorce later in life or break up cause there relationship is only sex and not true love. i feel god made sex that way he made it to be wonderful when you are married. but if you try before your married he makes it hard for you.

Gadarene · Feb 18, 2013

jminnesota said:
its the best feeling knowing that both me and my wife where virgins to know that we where both our firsts and only as we plan to be married for life and plan to have a great sex life together... we see people who have sex before they marry and often they divorce later in life or break up cause there relationship is only sex and not true love. i feel god made sex that way he made it to be wonderful when you are married. but if you try before your married he makes it hard for you.

Well that's a bit of a jerky thing to do, isn't it?

jminnesota · Feb 18, 2013

well we both follow the bible and gods word. we married eachother and god is the center of our relationship.

Gadarene · Feb 18, 2013

jminnesota said:
well we both follow the bible and gods word. we married eachother and god is the center of our relationship.

Not that bit.

The bit where you claimed God apparently screws things up for you if you don't do things his way.

I suspect the problems that arise in marriages between those who've have sex before marriage are not down to the sex, but because of the marriage.

jminnesota · Feb 18, 2013

i know people that marry who are virgins have problems just like those who dont. but i just feel god wants us to wait is all. to many teens today are having sex and its wrong and i feel we should be teaching kids to wait til they are married. i mean kids having kids is just sad. and kids should have mom and dad who are married to eachother.

Oafman · Feb 18, 2013

A hugely misogynistic question.

Tinker Grey · Feb 18, 2013

jminnesota said:
i know people that marry who are virgins have problems just like those who dont. but i just feel god wants us to wait is all. to many teens today are having sex and its wrong and i feel we should be teaching kids to wait til they are married. i mean kids having kids is just sad. and kids should have mom and dad who are married to eachother.

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"Each other" is two words.

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Halfmaker · Feb 18, 2013

Well, I can't say this is accurate but I was under the belief that premarital sex was banned in the mainstream 'isms of the western religious sphere.

Despite this many practitioners still exercise their genitals before they take their wedding vows and for a while I thought this was just a symptom of culture making a natural change over time. We had one system (abstinence) but we moved into another (open sexuality) because that is an unavoidable result of time moving on. I've recently begun to change my beliefs after reading some of the literature on sexuality in the media.

Let's face it, advertisers have made us all horny, lustful creatures while at the same time paralyzing us with the guilt this brings to us since we're told, from a religious and moral point, that we need to practice sexual discretion.

Also, women shouldn't be expected to stay in any one state a man would not want to be in. And the ads say we want to have sex; sex on the hood of the car, sex with designer clothes, sex with the very food you shouldn't be eating because it will make you ugly and therefore a noncandidate for all this sex.

But they're selling the food with sex now too. It's unavoidable, women and men will have sex before marriage whether you like it or not and this will continue until there is a revolution in advertising and a recalibration of the place sex has in our lives.

I Eat Pie · Feb 18, 2013

They should stay virgins because I am a man and therefore, what I say must be right.

Jk lol, it's really their choice. That's like asking if a man should get stay one too.

jminnesota · Feb 18, 2013

my parents raised me to wait and that is how my church also raised me so that is what i did. i waited and so did my wife. i guess its how your raised and taught.

jminnesota · Feb 18, 2013

Halfmaker said:
Well, I can't say this is accurate but I was under the belief that premarital sex was banned in the mainstream 'isms of the western religious sphere.

Despite this many practitioners still exercise their genitals before they take their wedding vows and for a while I thought this was just a symptom of culture making a natural change over time. We had one system (abstinence) but we moved into another (open sexuality) because that is an unavoidable result of time moving on. I've recently begun to change my beliefs after reading some of the literature on sexuality in the media.

Let's face it, advertisers have made us all horny, lustful creatures while at the same time paralyzing us with the guilt this brings to us since we're told, from a religious and moral point, that we need to practice sexual discretion.

Also, women shouldn't be expected to stay in any one state a man would not want to be in. And the ads say we want to have sex; sex on the hood of the car, sex with designer clothes, sex with the very food you shouldn't be eating because it will make you ugly and therefore a noncandidate for all this sex.

But they're selling the food with sex now too. It's unavoidable, women and men will have sex before marriage whether you like it or not and this will continue until there is a revolution in advertising and a recalibration of the place sex has in our lives.

yea that is why they have female cheerleaders at football games and use women in bikinis to sell cars. sex sells. its why you see more nude women in movies vs nude men. R movies for example show fully nude women all the time. if they show a nude man its normaly for a joke.

Gadarene · Feb 18, 2013

jminnesota said:
yea that is why they have female cheerleaders at football games and use women in bikinis to sell cars. sex sells. its why you see more nude women in movies vs nude men. R movies for example show fully nude women all the time. if they show a nude man its normaly for a joke.

Which is problematic in itself - why should male nudity be cause for laughter?

jminnesota · Feb 18, 2013

well its the way tv is so until people call up the tv stations and ask for tv to show both men and women the same when it comes to nudity or sex it will be the way it is. most tv shows also show people having sex the moment they get together and again its teaching kids that sex outside of being married is ok and all. my mom use to watch soaps and its like everyone slept with everyone lol.

I Eat Pie · Feb 18, 2013

jminnesota said:
well its the way tv is so until people call up the tv stations and ask for tv to show both men and women the same when it comes to nudity or sex it will be the way it is. most tv shows also show people having sex the moment they get together and again its teaching kids that sex outside of being married is ok and all. my mom use to watch soaps and its like everyone slept with everyone lol.

My parents raised me not to sleep around when I get older, but I still watched shows like Jersey Shore. It's just entertainment lol. If you raise your kids the right way, then you can have them watch this stuff without getting influenced by it.

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