Is it wrong to get married?

Chilaha said:

So, I was thinking about just kinda relationships adn etc. I started wondering if it is really right to get married and have kids and. Because I'm just thinking if you didn't have a spouse or kids you would have a lot more free time and money available. Therefore, you would have more time to help people and more money to give to needy people and etc. But, at the same time do you think maybe it's better or just as good to love a spouse with all your heart and raise children to the best of your ability?
I have one verse that came to mind when contemplating this subject:
"But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife," 1 Corinthians 7:33

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Ahhh you have a point. However, the very first Command we were given was to "be fruitful and multiply." So, we should try to abide by that. What Paul is saying here is that, if a man is disciplined enough, then it is good for him to concern his work solely with that of the King's ways in order to further his kingdom. However, God did create a husband and wife, he created children, sexual relations, relationships, love, and the ability to reproduce. He told us to reproduce in the beginning. So, we should follow suit.

Besides, since when is a man easily able to remain celibate and solely devoted to the Word? Our minds wander very frequently. If a man somehow has the power to overcome his natural instincts, then power to him. However, I don't think it's often likely or all too realistic.

Nah, it's not wrong to get married. As Harbor said, Paul was saying that if disciplined enough it's good to not get married, as it could be a distraction from solely focusing on ministering to people. He says later on in that chapter in verse 38 that "he who marries his betrothed does well, and he who refrains from marriage does even better." It's not wrong, it may just not be as productive if you're looking out for each other as well as reaching others.

But in a lot of ways, married couples can reach other married couples in a way not single persons could not. As well, it's good to have marriage nowadays with the rise of new, unbiblical family structures. We need good, pure examples to show the value of pure, monogamous relationships and how they are designed to benefit us. And finally, we see all throughout the New Testament and Old Testament how marriage is a good analogy to our relationship with the Lord. We are the bride of Christ.

I think the question that Paul raises as we come under the New Covenant and realize our mission on earth now, is the question of whether marriage is really necessary for us personally? Or can you do without and devote your time fully to kingdom purposes? Neither choice is wrong.

certainly not wrong to get married, i would love to get married.

Well marriage is a direct picture of our relationship with God. So, I'm pretty sure it's darn important.

god did say be fruitful and multiply

Yeah, it's one of the very first Commandments.

Paul said that one shouldn't marry, because then you will have way more drama in your life. There is no command that says one cannot marry.

Chilaha said:

The only thing I don't like is this:
Once a leader at one of my youth groups told me we should be more in love with God than our spouses. But, that just made me sad because then my wife doesn't care about me at the end of the day. She cares about God more. And, technically we are not to show partiality or favoritism to anyone but love all the same. So, in the Christian faith it would be right of her to love me the same as every one else.

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I understand what you're saying, but I'm not entirely sure it's correct. After all, it doesn't mean your wife doesn't care about you. God should be the first priority in your life, and then later, in your marriage. But that doesn't mean she doesn't care about you! Read Ephesians 5:22-31

I don't think marriage is a bad thing. It shows commitment and devotion to the person you fell in love with and offers a promise that you will spend the rest of your life with them and love them, even through their hardships. I think that's a beautiful promise.
But, maybe that's just me.
And, as for loving God more than your spouse, I think that you should. I mean, he's the guy that made you, loves you enough to make your own choices and grants you access to eternal, glorious life in heaven if you believe in him and his son. So, I think he deserves a whole lot of love, in that sense.

At one point, my youth leader told the group that his marriage was built on faith. He said that God was more important to him than his wife and if something happened to his relationship with God, his marriage would fall apart.

His wife was sitting across the table from him the whole time. She smiled, nodded, and agreed.

..I wouldn't see why.

Paul said that it is better for a man to remain unmarried. But I think he also said something that, like, if a man or woman are burning with love for each other or something, they should marry so they won't lust after each other.. It was something along those lines. I can't remember where I read that, but I do believe it was in one of his epistles. Still, that commandment about loving God.. But anyways!

Simply, I don't believe it's wrong to get married. And if I had a wife, I'd rather her be more in love with God than in love with me. We could love God together and live for Him together! Ha ha! We could encourage each other daily, have devotions, worship Him together, and be living witnesses for Him.. Oh wow, that just sounded cheesy. o__o But oh well! That's my dream wife. I hope you get the answers to your question bro, and I hope I didn't just create more questions..

iAlive said:

..I wouldn't see why.

Paul said that it is better for a man to remain unmarried. But I think he also said something that, like, if a man or woman are burning with love for each other or something, they should marry so they won't lust after each other.. It was something along those lines. I can't remember where I read that, but I do believe it was in one of his epistles. Still, that commandment about loving God.. But anyways!

Simply, I don't believe it's wrong to get married. And if I had a wife, I'd rather her be more in love with God than in love with me. We could love God together and live for Him together! Ha ha! We could encourage each other daily, have devotions, worship Him together, and be living witnesses for Him.. Oh wow, that just sounded cheesy. o__o But oh well! That's my dream wife. I hope you get the answers to your question bro, and I hope I didn't just create more questions..

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I second iAlive. That is very well said.

I also would rather have a spouse who loves God more than me. Otherwise it's idolatry, and I wouldn't want to lead another believer off track.

there is nothing specifically wrong with marriage from what i know